Am I in perimenopause?

Hi Sarah.

I'm 42 and going through perimenopause.

I had my daughter at 39 and within a year noticed severe perimenopause symptoms.

I even remember the year before I fell pregnant I started noticing changes.

It's not easy and can be very frustrating to say the least.

I get times when I feel paralysed with perimenopause symptoms - it's horrible!

This past week and half I have felt like utter crap. That's putting it mildly.

It can be feel scary and isolating at times.

Liked you, I've always been a very upbeat, positive person, but I find that this really knocks me for six.

I've had bloods checked a few times but they come back fine. My g.p told me that they aren't reliable and that they mainly go by symptoms.

I've had pretty much every textbook symptom going...

Hope this helps and if you need to chat I'm here. Message me.

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Hi, we r rowing the same boat. I had my 3rd & last child at 40. I had a mirena iud inserted after that. Great & normal periods...happy, busy, patient, caring, self assured loving mom & wife. 

6 moths ago had mirena removed, i had 3 normal 

Periods, than nothing! I’ll be 50 in September. 

About 6 wks ago I became a TOTALLY DIFFERENT person. I don’t know who I am,,,I’m sad, mean, impatient, depressed, lost weight, can’t/don’t care to eat, digestive issues, painful joints & muscles, Night  sweats, insomnia, nasty to my kids & husband, antisocial, completely exhausted. Sometimes waking to another room is an effort & not worth it. 

I’m awaiting a response from my Endocrinologist on a massive amount of blood workforce hormones/nutrients/vitamins & a Thyroid Ultrasound. My GP, a woman, is unfortunately not helping, I feel she thinks I’m a hypochondriac!  I’ve had CAT scans, blood work, colonoscopy, Endoscopy all due to weight loss.

All clear!!!! That leaves me and probably you...Peri Menopausal.

This link has been a true sanity saver. We aren’t alone. You are not alone!! My husband thinks I’ve lost my mind...don’t really blame him. I’m paralyzed and so far from who I was, it scares even me.  Venting to others who are living this is a God send. 

Go to Endocrinologist, get EVERYTHING checked there. Many options on this site are mentioned for relief, I’m hoping mine will be nutritional/vitamins and problem solved. I’ll update as soon as I can. 

Please reach out if you need!!!

Love yourself, self esteem is hard now, I understand...stay strong 💪??  

Hi Sarah,

I am also Older had My Son at 37 and Have same symptoms just turned 48 . Breasts Hurt Horrible and Night sweats and Day sweats and achy body allover . After my period ends I have bad bloating and Low backaches . Goes away in a few Days . Anxiety at night when trying to fall asleep . Take Xanax when needed at night and Heart palps . also my periods are closer together or later or lighter or really heavy first 2 days can be scary and clots and also gas lol never ends . I have younger friends also . My childhood friends share some of the symptoms i do but seems all women are different .   Been nice coming on here and ready about others symptoms and to know i am not alone . Peri / menopause Hell . My Husband does not always understand either . I Remind him when he forgets . He has learned when i am quiet to let me be . I try to be patient with my 11 yr old son who has been giving me sass lol I Take vitamins Been taking one a Day Menopause has helped and iron pill and also I take D3 at night and B Vito also . Zinc . I try Drinking more water and I am Not good at Going to the Gym . I Feed the Elementary kids at a local school and is a busy moving job so it helps keep me moving . But still i am Tired and Hard to keep moving . Well Hope you feel Better and i will be Happy when My period ends for good and I feel Better .                                                     Take care .. Michelle

 

Hi sarah, good job you found us sounds like you really need a friend who totally knows what you are going through. It may be that your hormone levels are begining to fluctuate. This is hard to catch. An endocrinologist can order a dr to repeat full bloodworks every 4 wks even 2 wkly if necessary until they can discover for definite what is going on and how best to help you. So first port of call is your dr again and ask to be seen by an endo specialist because you are confused and suffering and need help even if its just advice about what vitamin supplements to take or the pill helps some women going into peri so dont be afraid to ask your dr there are lots of treatments out there. Good luck hun always here if you need to talk. XXX

Thanks for all your comments. Just reading them made me well up with tears!!

I like the idea of taking some sort of supplement. I need to look into that as I know I cant take certain ones (e.g st johns wort) as I take medication for epilepsy.

It does help to vent off to people who understand.

Thank you 😘😘😘

Sarah,

I had my last at 35, I started suffering with health anxiety big time. Blood work always normal. Starting gaining weight and have high BP.  Been to ER thinking heart attack but it was anxiety. Head fog, aches and pains, fatigue, no sex drive. I had very heavy periods and had hysteroscopy done, everything ok. Started reading  these forums and realize it’s peri. I’m 55 now,  Anxiety is under control since I know I’m not dying lol and I only get period every 3-4 months but could stop anytime. I still have fatigue and aches and pains and developed ringing in my ears. It is depressing but I do hope once my hormones get to where they need to be then I will feel better!

Hi Sarah- yes, I also have an 8 year old at age 47, 2 older kids as well, so that makes me a decade older than most of the moms too..and about a year ago I started  having all the crazy symptoms too  and luckily found this forum.. I truly thought I was dying or going crazy with all the horrible symptoms. In the last six months it’s gotten a lot worse. There are times when I have no energy, my body just hurts everywhere, I’ve gained weight, my skin looks awful, and I’m just exhausted and miserable. Not much helps but I try to stay hydrated, take a walk and of course checking on this forum. It helps a lot by knowing I’m not alone. Take care and keep checking in here. 

Hey,Sarah!

Welcome to peri, hun!!😘 everything you've described is everything we've all here experienced to some degree....including partners who do not understand! I was the same age when my symptoms began but I didn't know then that it was the beginning of my change. No Dr actually said these were symptoms. At least yours alluded to it by saying" it's your age." What I have learned on my adventure is that

Now's the time to take care of YOU! Be gentle and treat yourself. Do things that relax you and make you smile or laugh out loud. I would tell you to start watching what you eat now because it makes a big difference in how you feel.

If you are a praying person, ramp it up!

And keep coming to this forum for reassurance that you aren't crazy or dying...and lots of great emotional support can be found here from fabulous ladies all over the world! I'm in a suburb of Chicago but sending you the biggest hug!