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Am I overthinking or am I at risk?

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r02445
r02445

It’s gonna be a bit lengthy so please bear with me. Want to make sure I can paint a fuller picture on the situation with a casual sex worker, from a brothel.

what happened -

  1. Showered and then engaged with unprotected oral (2 - 4 licks at the tip where the csw wiped with wet tissue before). I stopped that immediately. no kissing at all.

  2. Proceed to put on condom (supplied myself) and proceed to vaginal. Halfway, I felt my penis has gone limp (under influence of alcohol as well) and then pulled it out. Realised the condom got a bit weared out (as she’s really dry and use lube throughout). Not sure if the condom slipped / broke but the top cover part is not aligned with the penis. We immediately changed and finish the deed within the next 20 seconds.

the part where all this drama (anxiety) started is as follows:

this is during the condom change before finishing the deed -

  1. Felt a “change” in sensation as i was going 90% erect to about 50% — felt more like losing sensitivity.

  2. Took out and saw the condom head is not aligned with the penis head. Looked like the condom tip is on the left side (flat) while the penis head is on the right side (at the middle). Losing erection will surely cause the penis to not fully fit the condom right? I did try to poke my penis head directly to check but it didn’t feel any different.

The condom base was intact and did not shred to pieces (was told a broken condom will shred dramatically but this didn’t happen). I really can’t recall if it’s broken or not. I did take it on my hand to inspect, it’s still in one piece (soggy/wrinkly) but I failed to check thoroughly to see if there’s any smaller holes / lesion around the tip area which could have jeopardise me.

The fact that she’s really dry (used lube every now and then) also makes me worry as I know this will increase breakage.

The sex wasn’t rough and the first condom was used for about 10 minutes before we changed.

  1. Upon pulling out, the csw said “here’s a new one” has me questioning. If it’s not broken, why would she say “here’s a new one” instead of “let’s change to a new one”

  2. Once changed (semi erect), continued on for 10-15 sec and finished outside, I saw the sperm flowed into the new condom.

In your opinion, did the first condom break? I’m really anxious.

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  • ajith75476
    ajith75476 r02445

    Posted

    Gives me a deja-vu .. Buddy you posted on another online forum too.. right?

    If a guy with a complete understanding of HIV gave you a risk assessment, what makes you think you would receive any better advice. The same guy advises doctors to update their knowledge on HIV.

    If you are really unsure- get tested after 3 months. That's the only way to get anxiety out of your head.

    • r02445
      r02445 ajith75476

      Posted

      yes indeed, and i do appreciate the assesment. would just like to get more thoughts on the matter.

      you're right, i am really anxious about this. can only test when the time comes.

    • ajith75476
      ajith75476 r02445

      Posted

      my experience, the more people you ask, the more your anxiety .. dont go google. it will worsen things. get tested at 30 days with a 4th gen test in a lab. that result will rarely ever change .. most experts call it conclusive .. that should reduce your anxiety, whatever is left will be completely gone when you collect your negative result after 3 months.

    • r02445
      r02445 ajith75476

      Posted

      yes you are right. i will definitely get tested in due time. i think i am also overreacting to this case as it was also my first time visiting.

      meantime, is there anything you want to / can add to the scenario? would like your input.

      thanks for your time.

  • Ahhh123
    Ahhh123 r02445

    Posted

    doesnt sound like it did

    • r02445
      r02445 Ahhh123

      Posted

      I was told a condom will shred (wont stay in one piece) if it breaks.

    • r02445
      r02445

      Posted

      doesnt help that my mind is playing a lot of "what-ifs".

  • r02445
    r02445

    Posted

    Would just like to add this & see if it’s any different.

    Every now and then i try to bring myself back to that instance -- i know its not reliable as its the past.

    Anxiety is acting where I just have a fear that the condom was indeed broken (but not shreded completely) and hence her asking to change a new one immediately after I pulled out.

    what i clearly remember is --

    • i went half erect (penis was a bit sore at that time)

    -pulled out & saw the soggy condom that i couldnt fully fit

    • she then quickly go "here here a new one"

    if its not broken, you think her reaction would be so quick?

    I know I’m dealing with a lot of what-ifs but do appreciate any feedback at all.

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