Am i pushing my girlfriend away with my anxiety???
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im 20 and my girlfriend is 23 she is the love of my life and i have never fell in love like this before we have been together on and off for 2 year now a year ago we split up she had cheated on me while i was on a lads holiday i cant believe anything she says my parranoyer and obsessiveness and anger have always been a problem with us she wants to start a family with me and marry me but how can i when i dont believe a word she says i dont even believe her when she says She loves me!
Please help i feel so lost and confused and alone!
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katie46856 ben99092
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Firstly I think your really brave to talk about your problem and want you to know your not alone . No one can tell you what the rite or wrong answer is Ben as there isn't one. But before jumping to any big decisions about family ect you need to build a trusted relationship again. only then will you be able to move on or not!
Xxxx
ben99092 katie46856
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katie46856 ben99092
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phRN ben99092
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Sorry you feel this way. The real question is: Is your girlfriend the cause of your anxiety and is she pushing you away? The answer is yes. You have every right to feel paranoia and anger. This will subside over time, but not while you are with her. If marrying her could realistically solve some of this untrustworthiness, the distrust will creep up again and you will be stuck, possibly with a fight for child custody. It is not a pretty picture.
YOU WILL FEEL LOVE LIKE THIS IN THE FUTURE,
just with someone else who treats you like you would treat them, with respect.
Some advice: get outside of women and futures at your age. Think broader and make something happen for yourself before making a plan with an untrusworthy person. Travel. Get a career path going. Volunteer helping sick people at a hospital. Do something that makes you feel good, then come back to the question about her. You might not need to question it anymore.
Sorry it hurts though.
gwen1953 ben99092
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