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Am i suffering from depression?

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lucy25040
lucy25040

Hi Everyone,

I have come here because i'm not sure if i should go to my gp or not and i'm hoping that someone can shed some light.

I am feeling very low and self concious at the moment and was made redundant from my first job in december after giving everything i had to that job! (i'm 19) I got another job shortly after but left as I felt too young for the job, wasn't given much training and i felt lost and didn't know what i was doing. Since then i have been unemployed. Most of my friends are at uni and so i don't get out much and even going to the shop i feel like people are looking at me and i'm constantly paranoid that someone will talk to me or say something to me and i won't know how to react. I feel fine to leave the house with other people but on my own i feel so nervous. I have also started to ignore texts from friends and ex colleagues as i'm simply too worried of saying the wrong thing. I haven't always been like this; when i was 14/15 i was VERY outgoing and had lots of friends despite going through hard times with my family.

I live with my dad and i have a boyfriend that comes round most nights after work and on the weekend. I'm finding it increasingly difficult to control my temper and mostly my temper towards them. Sometimes i just look at my dad and feel consumed with hatred and i am vile towards him. This may have something to do with the fact my family life has been very disrupted with my mum leaving when i was 15 due to my mum and dad's relationship break down. Not only this but i find myself having arguments with my boyfriend a lot and at the time i think i'm completely rational and then later i'll feel guilty and stupid.

My mother left when i was 15 and always had a drinking problem and i have looked after myself since around the age of 10. when i was 11, i had an eating disorder. I wasn't diagnosed but i know i had one as i was not eating, throwing food away, exercising excessively, lost my period and my sister also had bulimia at the time. My mum has always made us aware that she also suffered from eating disorders. I went through this eating disorder up until the age of about 15 without telling anyone and i only started getting better when i met my boyfriend who i am still with. when my mother left she informed my school of my family situation and they offered me counselling. I thought they were ridiculous and i've always had the attitude to deal with things on my own so i declined. i regret this now.

This is a bit of a ramble but basically since i was 11 i always find myself googling depression symptoms every few months as i get sad about the way my life has been so far and i constantly feel like my luck hasn't come around yet. I'm still not sure if i should go to my gp. I should also add that my mum suffers from depression and her mother was a schizophrenic and unfortunately killed herself.

Sorry if this is a bit difficult to interpret, it's very difficult to explain how i feel and the reasons i feel the way i do but my ultimate question is do you think i need to go to my gp or is this just sadness i can deal with on my own.

I appreciate ant feedback. Thank you.

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  • lucy25040
    lucy25040

    Posted

    Sorry, i should have added this - I haven't spoken to my mum since she left. She became violent to my dad and there were many issues that make me feel i'm better off without her in my life but obviously, i'm kind of in mourning that she isn't around and isn't like other people's mums. whenever i get low i think of her and blame her for everything. I think if it wasn't for her i would take any other problems lightly but because of my childhood i feel like anything bad that happens is my bad luck and it's another bad thing that's happening to me because that's just the way my life is - full of bad situations.
  • bencooper
    bencooper

    Posted

    Ok. Just read this. My thoughts are: copy your post, print it, go to your GP and ask them to read it. I think you need some counselling and I think your GP will maybe sort that.

    Good luck. Take good care of yourself.

  • ian49977
    ian49977

    Posted

    Hi you need some help,I would say see your drs but then you will end up with tablets that may not help too much but give their own problems?Try to seperate the problems passed onto you from others and contact an agency like Rethink,if your in England,you need to try to see yourself as a seperate person from the the people with troubles and deal with your own in a different way?some people like me,and probably you.absorb everyone elses problems and it weighs us down,while they,having offloaded theirs cope.take care.
  • natasha91
    natasha91

    Posted

    Hi my names Natasha and I'm 22 and having the same feelings. Every one thinks I'm this pretty bubbly girl who is always smiling but I often feel like that person doesn't exist anymore I too have had a troubled up bring a violent parent. my parents split when I was 3 but they constantly used my brother and I as pawns to win points to hurt one another but all I feel is that they hurt us more than eachother. I've tried so many times to speak to my brother about things but he's too proud and shuts me out and walks away if I bring anything up. I also had a hidden eating disorder which only a handful of people know. My mum left when I was 19 I had my own place but could not support myself and within 6 months I was back home only to discover that my mum was leaving and selling the house we grew up in. I was homeless for a year before my granparents finally took me in and I just feel lost in my own mind sometimes and I know everyone has started to notice the changes within myself and I'm at a loss in what to do...?

    I would love to talk further if you wanted to 07528 614915

    I hope things work out whatever you choose to do

    xNx

  • pat53692
    pat53692

    Posted

    Hi Lucy & Nat, Good advice from dee & ben. I wasn't clear about who was drinking when your mother left. If it was/is you, I just wanted to add that I had been drinking for many years to "self medicate" if you will, to literally kill my feelings BUT... from experience, drinking only brings on more depression and worse. Good luck to both of you.

    PS.. Hi deee

  • deee
    deee

    Posted

    G'day Pat.
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