Anal fissure

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I can’t believe I am finally doing this but here it goes. I have been dealing with an anal fissure since Right are New Years. I have been to my primary Dr and given the nitroglycerin ointment and it helped with the pain but gave a wicked headache. I am done using that now and saw a general surgeon a couple weeks ago that said we will reevaluate in 6 weeks to see how I am healing. I have started trying every natural remedy out there to aid in healing. I started taking a fiber/probiotic daily along with Dulcolax daily. I thought I was doing great and have been nice and regular and backed off the Dulcolax. Big mistake, I have definitely return some of the healing. I am terrified at the thought of surgery since reading all of the horrible reviews. I think after the six week recheck with the general surgeon I want to see a specialist. My question is, how do you ladies deal with intimacy? I can not even think of letting my husband in the area but he just doesn’t understand and I feel as though it is negatively impacting our marriage.  I feel as though I have no one to talk to, it is quiet an embarrassing thing to talk about and my husband just isn’t supportive. I should also note I am mid thirties and have so much I want to do but this is just debilitating!!!

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    Hi Lucy l to have been dealing with this issuer since December not body can understand how terrible this condition is ! I have tried everything and seen many doctors l wait to have opp l thought l was getting better but the last couple of days have been dreadful again my opp will be May l can't wait !

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    Ugh, it’s crazy. Yesterday I felt great, finally feeling better from bit of  retearing a week or so ago. Really felt and looked like things were on the up swing then all of the sudden, out of nowhere this afternoon I am feeling sore and a bit swollen and not looking as good. Took a bath in hopes that will help and will probably take some ibuprofen here soon. Why does this have to be such a roller coaster ride?!? I do not want to miss out this summer. We are a pretty active family come nicer weather  but I am fearing what a long day of hiking will do to me.....sorry, just had to vent for a moment 😞

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    Hi Lucy,

    I think my view is that surgery is probably necessary, and from what I've read , sometimes several surgeries.  Because of where the tract lies it's constantly contaminated and unable to heal, though how the tract opens up in the first place just seems like some evil plan.  I've had my first surgery with a seton put in place, and I have to say that I'm in less pain and discomfort than I was with the infected fistula, and way far less than I was with the original abscess.  I'm a bit depressed at the thought that this might go on for as long as it seems to for some people.  

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      Hi Clare,

         Sorry for the delay in response. For some reason I didn’t get an email notification. I agree that is bizarre how the opening first starts. It just doesn’t make sense to have a gotten a fissure where it is, definitely evil! What surgery did you have done? I keep hoping for the best but we shall see. The complications scare the heck out of me. I don’t know how I would do with fecal and flatulent incontanance. I am not in too much pain as long as can keep my BMs soft which I feel I have under control some days and others not so much. Still trying to figure it all out.

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    As for sex, haven't tried that yet with the seton.  It's hard to imagine how I'm going to feel comfortable, seeing as (only one week on from the surgery) I'm still rather uncomfortable, and how I seem to have a massive knot of string tied though my arse! Hoping my language does't offend anyone, but we are here having this conversation.  Talking to your partner is the main thing though, and he needs to understand what you're going through.  

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      There is just no way that I can imagine having sex anytime soon. I know my husband doesn’t like talking about it or hearing about my fissure issues but I feel the more I talk about it the less he gets his hopes up in fruitless attempts. I can definitely feel our marriage suffering for it. I feel as though even if I try to snuggle he takes that as a sign that things are good for business so all hands are off deck for the time being.  With the surgery I have seen people say that it doesn’t actually heal the fissure but makes the muscle better able to heal it. Am I mistaken on that? 

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