Anal fissure

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Just me again, feel like this is the only place I can talk or get help. I'm suffering so bad with an anal fissure, it doesn't seem to ever heal, be less sore or get better with anything I do or try. I'm waiting on an app with a consultant. But I feel so down, my husband was trying to help at the start now he just told me no one cares about it, he's prob sick of listening to me tbh, but it really made me feel worse hearing him say it. I don't really feel like I have anyone to talk to or help me. Just feeling very low and sad that's this is they way my life is. Wish there was a magic wand to make everything ok again. Wishful thinking I know. There's people out there suffering worse stuff than me. I really shouldn't moan about the little stuff 😭

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    get LIS Surgery and a new husband. my fissure was the worst thing thats ever happened to me!! much better a year after surgery now. still have some bad days but i have my life back. i have always said there NEEDS to be support groups for this f*****g horrible condition. it can be life threatening ie suicidal!! he should care...

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    Hi Natalie,

    This is the right place to go to for people like us suffering from AF. I've had my share of ignorant folks thinking AF is just like hemorrhoids. Even in the doctor's office smh. Just know it's not talked about enough that the average person would ever know. It takes education just like any sickness or disease. Your husband is one of those folks who either has no idea what it's all about or has no empathy for his own wife. To me that is very cold. My sister went through years of horrible seizures and her husband stuck by her no matter how many sleepless nights he faced. In sickness and in health just like their marriage vows. faithfulness and love is very important for marriage. My apologies for going off but I know exactly your pain and emotional distress. I am still dealing with AF that reopen recently. babying our AF comes with alot of our own responsibility. What we eat, stool softeners, laxatives, fruits and fiber in take. Taking Ibuprofen with tylenol has helped lessen the pain for me. I don't remember If you had surgery but look into it as soon as possible. that may reassure your husband that you are doing everything you can to get well. Reach out as often as you need here. take care.

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    Natalie a fissure pain is real but for whatever reason, people seem to minimize the suffering.

    Even some of the medical personnel brush it off like if it is not that bad.

    You have to be strong and find your own resources to manage the pain while promoting your healing process.

    It is a long one but the body will heal. You have to believe that so that you can start feeling it. Meditate on seeing yourself heal. Adjust your thoughts.

    Keep your stool soft, healthy diet, water, hot bath 3 times a day or more.

    Do some research to keep your spirit and your mind strong.

    Check out Joe Dispenza and what he promotes for a healthy mind.

    Mindbody promotes healing....believe in yourself. I am healing is the message that you want to promote so that your cells create the result. we attract what we think!!

    Take care and surround yourself will people that do care.


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    stay positive! try having manuka honey and a table spoon of extra virgin olive oil with every meal with a glass of water.

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    wow, that is incredibly insensitive of him. can you speak to anyone else about this? another family member or a friend?

    I recommend that you get the LIS to end the nightmare. the risk of incontinence is low especially with an experienced CRS

    and even if God forbid you became incontinent, what is worse? living with pain for the rest of your life? or being incontinent?

    fissures don't just go away by themselves, you have to get surgery when it's come to this point

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