Anger
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Hi, everyone. My name is Kendall and I'm new to this forum. I just wanted to start this thread and ask if anyone here who has anxiety has anger issues as well. Long story short, my husband and I have been married since Nov. 2015, and my anger and selfishness is a contributor to my marriage dissolving. It's incredibly sad and pathetic, because we haven't even been married a year, but instead of focusing on how my husband is feeling and trying to make him feel better, I'm more concerned with myself and try to find ways to place blame and stay angry. I get mad at the littlest things. What do you all do to manage your anger?
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phil76209 Schnetier91
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I'm struggling with it too. I get so angry at the thought of being made to feel little like in my last relationship so that she was better than me. I have problems. Glad we finished cos it wud only hav got worse perhaps physical.
I hav had to look to past when my bro destroyed my confidence and had practically no relationship with my dad.
Maybe your standards of how others and urself behave are too high and you don't give much leeway. Basically ur hard on yourself, therefore others. What were you like as a kid?
sue58256 phil76209
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phil76209 sue58256
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Your lucky that your husband changed his ways. Shows he really respects and loves u. And ur daughter to say positive things cos she really wants to help.
Unfortunately I've allowed my anxiety to get on top in relationships cos I have social anxiety so it affects everyone even a partner. Perhaps it's also a case of not finding the right person to be with. The problem is when the doubts about them come and I immediately think this isn't right but I don't talk it through with them cos I think they'll doubt me. So it builds up and ultimately goes downhill. I'm really critical but I guess I don't work on the thoughts to see if I'm over reacting about whether they're suitable.
I'm 42 and I do like being alone but also get lonely.
sue58256 phil76209
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phil76209 sue58256
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Thanks for the encouraging words. When I split up I just never knew if I was throwing away my future happiness or whether I was with the wrong person. It's hell not knowing. Yeah I think I had a barrier pretty quickly.
sue58256 Schnetier91
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