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anxiety about my breakup, pls help :(

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kindreamer
kindreamer

hey everyone,

my boyfriend and i have broken up after almost 3 years together and it was due to my mental health, it brought a lot of negativity to the relationship and we just knew we needed to end in order to work on ourselves and figure out who we are. I'm just so heartbroken and in a lot of pain because I miss him so much, we basically had to force ourselves to break up, we love each other so much dearly and we never fought, we were always on the same page and had and still do have so much respect for one another.

I know it takes a lot of time getting through this process of heartbreak but my anxiety leads me to thinking about things such as him meeting a new person which is a thought i hate to think about as it could possibly happen. I just wish i knew if we were destined to be together. He is such an amazing guy and one of the greatest person i know and taught me so much in this relationship and I just don't ever want to lose him 😦

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  • jan34534
    jan34534 kindreamer

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    you guys did what was right. Break ups are not easy but Working on yourselves is so important because no relationship will work out unless the two people love themselves first and take care of themselves. Who knows, maybe when you’re feeling better you can get back together. What is meant to be will happen, whether it’s together or not. I would suggest that if you’re able to, get some counseling for this. don’t bottle everything up. They can help you manage this, your feelings, your goals, and have the tools to help you.

    you need some support right now. Don’t let your mind wander off about all the what if‘s and the future etc. most of what we think about is not based on fact anyway. It’s just random thoughts. Focus on yourself and the positive of everything. It’s OK to feel sad but don’t let that stop you from your goal of finding peace and contentment with yourself. Take care! . ❤

    • kindreamer
      kindreamer jan34534

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      thank you 😃

      you're right, i shouldn't be thinking about the future and all the what if's. It'll just hurt me even more and you're right again, our thoughts is not based on facts. I just obviously don't want to get my hopes up and think we might end up back together because if we don't it'll just suck.

      i'm figuring out my life right now, and what i want and who i am and i am excited for that journey.

      thank you 😃

  • ella123x
    ella123x kindreamer

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    how you are feeling is completely normal!!! its okay to be upset and cry, its normal to have those thoughts about him being with someone else. heartbreak is so hard and emotionally draining!

    the time apart to both work on yourselves is good, you did what was best for eachother and thats how you know you both care about eachother so much! you may end up coming back together and being stronger than ever, and if that doesnt happen, time is a healer anyway and you wont feel this heartbreak forever!

    i hope youre doing okay and if you ever need to vent without any judgement, you can always message me x

    • kindreamer
      kindreamer ella123x

      Posted

      thank you for your kind words ella, really appreciate it 😃

      you're so right, time is a healer and thats all i can do, just wait and be patient and that i will soon be better again

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