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I'm with this girl now for almost 5 months. At the start things were good and I was really happy a little distant because I'm 19 and she's 21 and I was just out of my first proper relationship the previous month before. Then one morning all of a sudden I woke up nit being bothered and I got a thought if I'm feeling like this or thinking like that then I m
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tab7777 curtis75002
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curtis75002 tab7777
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Sorry my phone had died when I was wrotting it.. anyway like I said I had that doubt.. which would be normal in my circumstances. However I really started to obsess about that thought. I googled why am I thinking like this. Ruminating about it as soon as I woke up until I went to bed at night. I kept getting these thoughts telling me I don't love her I don't want to be with her. If I'm feeling like this I should break up. It got me really worried I started to act wierd around her..
Niw I've stopped getting as anxious about the thought but I still do a little im nit ruminating over them. But I get slightly depressed. I actually have gotten to the stage were I actually feel as if I want to break up with my gf. Keep getting thise thoughts that I don't making me actually odd around her. Again thinking if I'm thinking like this I shouldn't be wit her. I also came to a conclusion that I'm not 100% over my ex. Yesturdy tho I didn't feel anxious and me and my gf had the best day in a long time. I felt so much love I still felt a little anxious it felt right it felt like I coud get used to this. The day after I got really anxious and depressed and felt like I didn't want to e with her anymore as if I really wanted to break up. I try to feel love and I just feel anxiety wich makes me feel like I don't want to be there. So what do you think I want to be with this girl and I do have love for her but I've doubted it that much and got so anxious I don't know what I want anymore. Is this just anxiety. Or should I call it quits.. is there possibility that ice convincdx myself of feeling this way. How do I get rid of this anxiety. Is it still anxiety. I dot kniw what I want anymore I just have this anxiety and thus ck stand doubt even tho I like her and she's perfect and when I raren't dobt have the anxiety we get on together so well and I do feel so much lI've then other times I dobt feel any love at all and actually feel like I dobt want to be there. Can I save this. I don't want to give up, even tho my anciety wants me to push her away.
tab7777 curtis75002
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Hi Curtis, I think you have to realize that the issue lies with you. Not that you have a relationship, not the girl, not the ex. There is something about being in a relationship that you are doubting. You think of the ex, yet you know she's your ex for a reason. Your anxiety could be because of a few things...not ready for someone new, worried you've made a mistake, bringing past worries into the current relationship. You should see someone to work through your thoughts and anxieties. There is nothing wrong with talking to people, friends, therapist about what you are experiencing. My advice is that in order to have a good relationship you need to get a handle on what you really want and need. Otherwise it's not fair to your current gurl.