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natalialane30
natalialane30

Hi everybody...I am reading your posts and I feel like I found the place where people acctually understand what I am  going thru myself...

I moved to Uk about 10 years ago and now Iam settled with my partner   and our little boy ..we have good jobs ,car and a house but I find it difficult being away from my family and friends back home..I think this has  trigged my depression and anxciety in the first place..I had few panic attacts in the  past where I was convinced that I was dying and that was the end.It was horrible..now I am free from them but the anxiety is still there..Every pain, every ache is realated to a serious illness ..I always  worry about how am I going to cope if I am told I am dying of cancer or other terminal ilness..I worry about my little boy as he is the only child and my family is abroad. I get headaches and I instantly think it's a brain tumor.I suffer with pains in my stomach which made me convinced there was someting serious going on . I had scans ,blood test and doctors can't find anything.Now the pain in my stomach seems to be milder but I focused on my breast next as I been having some pains in one breast on and off. I booke an appointment to see  a doctor but now I feel ashame to go and see him as I am worried he thinks I am mad and waisting his time. I constantly fear the worst ,worry about my health and my familly's too!I am scared of dying or experiencing the death  of my close family ..it drives me mad..

I stopped meeting up with  people ..I don't really go out..When I have time to think I always focus on good times with my family and friends abraod and I feel like Iam missing out on life with them ..it makes me sad and lonely.

I love my partner and I know our life is here but all this anxiety and sad thoughts has really changed me as a person.

My GP offered me some meds but I refussed hoping that I can help myself.I did try to get help from some mental health support groups but I found it useless.

I hate feeling like this..I so want to enjoy my life and stop worring ..

I am glad I found this website as I know I am not alone..but even this is not much help for me..

Please shere your experiences ...BIG HUGS

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  • poony
    poony natalialane30

    Posted

    I feel the same way. I feel like im being brushed off by the drs. I have been having pains in my stomach for a month. Told its ibs n given meds. Pain still there! Idk what to do
  • charlotte38813
    charlotte38813 natalialane30

    Posted

    Hi Natalia,

    Don't ever feel ashamed to go to the doctors. If you feel like there is something wrong, go and get it checked out, especially if you are having persistant symptoms! The likelihood is is that there is nothing wrong, but sometimes you do need follow up confirmation to make you truly believe it. 

    As for the worrying side of things, I know exactly where you are coming from. For a long time I had family abroad, and I was the only one in the UK, and it is worrying! I think its good that you have acknowledged the fact that your life is now here, with your partner and your little boy, so try and have no regrets! Your family will respect and trust the decisions that you make in your life, and of course you miss them, but you have lots of fantastic memories of them all and thousands more memories to come, so try and remain positive.

    I think it's really important for you to start socialising more, it will really take your mind off things. Just going out for a walk or a browse round the shops can work wonders on a worrying mind smile Sometimes I find that arranging things to look forward to in the future really help, even if its just silly, like in two weeks time plan to go to the zoo, or have a picnic, then you can focus on those things, and not get the troubling ones into your head. 

    I hope this brings you some comfort. As a fellow sufferer from anxiety I can safely say that you aren't alone! Think of all the positives in your life, and focus on them smile 

  • christina_22008
    christina_22008 natalialane30

    Posted

    I'm the same I've had ct scans got headaches which was normal but I convinced myself it was a brain Tumor then I had low abdominal pains and thought it was cervical cancer so had an ultrasound and tests which wer clear then chest pains and feeling like I couldn't breathe so had chest x ray and heart scan which again all clear.now I'm worried again as I have left chest/breast arm pain and thinking it's a bad illness.i feel the only way to get bad thoughts about my health out my mind is to keep going to a&e for reasurrAnce.anxiety is horrible
  • lea1207
    lea1207 natalialane30

    Posted

    Hi Natalialane

    It is obvious reading at your post that you are home sick, it's not easy to leave family behind and start a new life somewhere else. use skype, stay in touch with your family, even better, have your whole family participate in those skype meeting. Your son will be just fine if you are fine. Kids feed off parents energy, if you feel down it will impact your son.

    You do not need medication as this time since as you said you have a job that you go to. one thing you should start doing again is get out of the house with family and do activities, meet other people, I can guarantee you you will feel better fast

  • aedii9
    aedii9 natalialane30

    Posted

    You have tokeep telling yourself that some pain is psychosomatic (it's a fabrication of your mind because you have a fear of dying or being seriously ill). 

    The reality is that quite a lot of people who are seriously ill don't actually know they are seriously ill. Some people actually feel very peaceful and calm when they are dying. If you are hyperventilating, and have a fast heart rate and obsessive thoughts when you feel these pains you have to be mindful that on balance of probabilities it is more likely to be caused by anxiety than by a life threatening illness. You can also be assured that since you are so self aware, if you are seriously ill, you will notice and have a better chance of getting it sorted out quicker. 

    Some behavioural therapies like CBT can help with fears/phobias/anxieties and help you retire your thought patterns so the anxiety is not like a reflex and you are more in control. Maybe ask the doctor about that. 

    If you don't feel well then there's no shame in asking for things to be checked out, but try to recognise the physical symptoms of anxiety so you can rationalise it better. This will help you distinguish whether they are anxiety symptoms that can be managed, hence giving you more control and overall lessening the fear. A lot of phobias about dying are to do with fear of losing control and I totally understand that. 

    • aedii9
      aedii9

      Posted

      I meant "re-wire thought patterns" not "retire". Bloody ipad autocorrect. 
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