Anxiety and someone to talk to
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My anxiety has been taking a toll on me lately back in school and back to normal I've been having much more panick attacks and more bad then good days, I really feel like I have no one to talk to because my own mam and dad think I'm just looking for attention and told me numerous of times to just cop on and snap out of it, I wish I could but I can't i can't help feeling like this it's not my fault I wish I could just wake up one morning and it will be gone forever! I'm so sick of it need someone to talk to or some advice😞
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sharisse34001 rachel18350
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ronda63690 rachel18350
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jake12070 rachel18350
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It's horrible when people say snap out of it, I usually get told that when I get into one of my low moods and it doesn't help them saying that, makes it 100 x worse..
Stay strong x
rachel18350 jake12070
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sarah86347 rachel18350
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You aren't looking for attention, Ive had that and it makes me angry. They will be wanting you to feel better but wont know how to help. Tell them what you need like I said. Print off some things on your specific anxiety and give it them to read. Don't give up or feel alone because you're not. You're on a forum with 5,000+ posts about anxiety. There are alot of us who have it and definitely do understand.Â
For your own recovery, what are you doing? x
rachel18350 sarah86347
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sarah86347 rachel18350
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Have you tried any relaxation? That could also help. I use Youtube videos xxÂ
anne240 sarah86347
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sarah86347 anne240
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Yea the books helped. I have aread a few and I agree that sometimes you have to find the one that 'speaks to you'
The best one i read was on metacognitive therapy which is a bit more than CBT, but CBT really helped me initially.
CBT to me, is about breaking the thought-feeling-behaviour cycle that keeps anxiety going. I would google it to get your own feel for it though.
What i took from metacognitive therapy:
This basically taught that thoughts are just thoughts but people with an anxiety disorder add importance to certain ones and thats how they become a problem. You need to be mindful of what you think.
What are you thinking at the time of these episodes? Id keep an eye on that. Once you know this, you can start to break the cycle of falling into anxiety.
For example: I used to really worry about my partner being at my house incase I panicked. Id think it, feel fear, then sometimes cancel or worry for hours. Once i realised that this is just a thought, it is not true/false/ likely to happen I felt a lot better and theres never been a problem since. Everytime I thought it id remind myself its just a thought, allow it to be and not react to it. My anxiety about this has now decreased a lot.Â
I also cut out worrying until a specific period in the day which Ive mentioned to a few people on here. Say 7pm/ Everytime you get a worry, save it for later and carry on with your day. You will realise that anxiety and worries are manageable. I don't even need a 'worry time' now.
Making your exhale longer will help you to calm down once you are feeling a sense of panic so keep that for those times.
In order for your relaxation to benefit you more I would use is as part of your daily routine in order to restore more calm to your life.
I know you said below you are lonely in the morning, can you change your routine to boost your mood? Have you got any pets? They can provide great comfort. I did read a story that a lady got a rescue dog and when she had a panic attack, he was very loving and stroking him calmed her down xx
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jake12070 anne240
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I'll listen if you ever need to talk, writing things down here honestly does help so don't feel like your alone in this or how you feel x
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