Anxiety and someone to talk to

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My anxiety has been taking a toll on me lately back in school and back to normal I've been having much more panick attacks and more bad then good days, I really feel like I have no one to talk to because my own mam and dad think I'm just looking for attention and told me numerous of times to just cop on and snap out of it, I wish I could but I can't i can't help feeling like this it's not my fault I wish I could just wake up one morning and it will be gone forever! I'm so sick of it need someone to talk to or some advice😞

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    I feel the same way at times. If you feel you don't have someone, Pray! That's the best thing. You can always talk with me if you feel the need. I'm here, having similar feelings.
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    Rachel, I understand how you feel. Most people have no idea how to deal with this and certainly reaching out to just anyone even a good friend they have no idea what one is talking about. If I'm home I listen to quiet music or a good guided meditation. Out on public? I just take deep breaths and try to re focus. It helps some. People get angry with me since they think I'm unreasonable and loud; it's a very difficult thing to have to deal with. Best Wishes.
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    I've had a few anxiety attacks this week for the first time in a while and it's horrible, your not alone and we are all here to talk if you need xx

    It's horrible when people say snap out of it, I usually get told that when I get into one of my low moods and it doesn't help them saying that, makes it 100 x worse..

    Stay strong x

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      I really hate it like it's not my fault I feel like this I wouldn't wish this upon anyone! I'm a 17 year old who cares more about her health and what's gona happen next and what terminal illness am I gona get next it's actually the worst ever, people who aren't going through this really haven't a clue x
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    My parents were the same and i ended up speaking to my aunty about it. It is hard when the two people who are closest to you don't get it but since I have been working through it and I have been very honest about the effect their non support has had on me, they've realised that they should listen and support. It is not selfish to tell people that they are being unhelpful and you need them to either listen, hug or just not comment on it at all to you. It is self preservation.

    You aren't looking for attention, Ive had that and it makes me angry. They will be wanting you to feel better but wont know how to help. Tell them what you need like I said. Print off some things on your specific anxiety and give it them to read. Don't give up or feel alone because you're not. You're on a forum with 5,000+ posts about anxiety. There are alot of us who have it and definitely do understand. 

    For your own recovery, what are you doing? x

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      It really is horrible I do feel like I do have nobody to talk to sometimes and that makes me even more anxious and sad😞 I don't know what to do for self help though that's the thing x
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      It really is horrible I do feel like I do have nobody to talk to sometimes and that makes me even more anxious and sad😞 I don't know what to do for self help though that's the thing x
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      well you can always google some self help anxiety resources, like cbt that you can do yourself? what about getting some books from amazon? I have one by adrian wells, but Im sure there are lots of others too that you might find helpful. Don't be down on yourself. 

      Have you tried any relaxation? That could also help. I use Youtube videos xx 

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      Sarah have you found the books have helped.  I find it difficult to help myself with books.  I did google some relaxation techniques and have a CD of relaxation, but it only helps whilst I am doing it.  I know deep breathds and making out breath longer should help, but I don't dind that it does really.  Could you tell me about CBT asnd how it helps.  If I do not understand why I am anxious, and it just comes out of the blue, how can I help myself?  
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      HI Anne, I think i replied to you on another thread. I will check in a mo.

      Yea the books helped. I have aread a few and I agree that sometimes you have to find the one that 'speaks to you'

      The best one i read was on metacognitive therapy which is a bit more than CBT, but CBT really helped me initially.

      CBT to me, is about breaking the thought-feeling-behaviour cycle that keeps anxiety going. I would google it to get your own feel for it though.

      What i took from metacognitive therapy:

      This basically taught that thoughts are just thoughts but people with an anxiety disorder add importance to certain ones and thats how they become a problem. You need to be mindful of what you think.

      What are you thinking at the time of these episodes? Id keep an eye on that. Once you know this, you can start to break the cycle of falling into anxiety.

      For example: I used to really worry about my partner being at my house incase I panicked. Id think it, feel fear, then sometimes cancel or worry for hours. Once i realised that this is just a thought, it is not true/false/ likely to happen I felt a lot better and theres never been a problem since. Everytime I thought it id remind myself its just a thought, allow it to be and not react to it. My anxiety about this has now decreased a lot. 

      I also cut out worrying until a specific period in the day which Ive mentioned to a few people on here. Say 7pm/ Everytime you get a worry, save it for later and carry on with your day. You will realise that anxiety and worries are manageable. I don't even need a 'worry time' now.

      Making your exhale longer will help you to calm down once you are feeling a sense of panic so keep that for those times.

      In order for your relaxation to benefit you more I would use is as part of your daily routine in order to restore more calm to your life.

      I know you said below you are lonely in the morning, can you change your routine to boost your mood? Have you got any pets? They can provide great comfort. I did read a story that a lady got a rescue dog and when she had a panic attack, he was very loving and stroking him calmed her down smile xx

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    Jesus died for us on the cross. He loves u so much. Pray xxxx
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      I do pray but Jesus will not take away my anxiety.  I spoke to my vicar this week and told him I suffered from mental health issues and am going to do the Alpha course to see if that will help.  Has praying taken away your anxiety  If so, how?  
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    I am old and live alone and I need someone to talk too too.  I am always worse first thing in the morning and that is when I wish there was somebody there for me to chat to.  Well we can talk to each other Rachel.  Look on me as a Nan.  It is not our fault we feel like we do, of course it isn't.  We wish we were "normal."  I am so sorry your parents are no help.  Is there a friend or school counsellor you can confide in?  You are so young, and it is a big burden to bear at your age.  Bless you young lady.  I am here for you. 
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      Hey Anne sorry to hear you have nobody to talk to, it's horrible waking up or being in a low mood and being alone. It makes things so much worse for me aswell.. Talking to people here has helped me so much over the past few weeks.

      I'll listen if you ever need to talk, writing things down here honestly does help so don't feel like your alone in this or how you feel x

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