Anxiety, depression, and now pregnant!
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Hello, for anyone who's been following my posts will know what's gone on, for those who don't. As I explained I lost my Mum 3 years ago, and I lost my Grandad last week, it's been a very stressful time. I'm also suffering from anxiety, and depression. Life really is hard at the minute and it seems like I'll never get out of it. I found out I'm pregnant, im not ready for a baby and neither is my boyfriend. People are telling us mixed opinions, some are saying I'll regret it if I get rid of the baby but others are saying I won't cope if I keep it. How do I know what to do for the best?! My dad found out last night and he is NOT happy, my mum didn't believe in abortions so that plays on my mind a little. Because I have bad anxiety and depression, would having a baby be the right thing to do? Whqt if I get post natal depression?! I have so many things going round in my head. Yesterday me and my boyfriend went to the abortion clinic for a scan, I seen the baby and got a copy.. My heart melted when I seen my baby.. Just asking for people's advice, this decision hasn't been taken lightly, I just really don't know what to do :-(!!!!! Any advice would be appreciated, (no hateful comments)
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mrs.wife24531 abbie10647
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jordan73092 abbie10647
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Bird82 abbie10647
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So sorry to hear about the hard things you've had to deal with in your life. It must be really tough.
I don't think there is any mother in the world who regrets having their child. (Unless there is some other underlying reason). Having children is THE most challenging thing a person can go through, but with great challenge comes greater reward. It's really hard, really really really hard! And to be honest, I don't think there is ever a "right time" to have children because there is always something else that could be better. If you were planning a pregnancy at this time I'd say, no not now. But darling, you are pregnant already, so thus in an entirely different situation. At the end of the day, it's you and your boyfriend who have to make this decision and nobody can tell you what's right or wrong for you both. Before you make this decision I would advise you to really think about what support network you have because that is what will make all the difference if you decide to have a child. Will your father be supportive even though he is upset now? Do you think you could cope as a single parent? As horrible as this sounds, you really need to be prepared for that outcome should your boyfriend leave you. How are you set financially? Although if you live in the UK there is a lot of support in terms of benefits for single mothers, will you be okay with living like this? In terms of mental health, being on benefits is terrible for self esteem and confidence (personal experience).
These are things to think about and are very important. However, all you really need to raise a child is food, shelter, warmth, enough money for essentials and an abundance of love between you both.
I wish you all the best and I'm here if you need someone to talk to. I'm a single mum to 3 boys so I know what it's like!
Take care xx
victoria19887 Bird82
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mattoidicus abbie10647
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I respect any decision you make, look after yourself.
Take care, Matt
leighla63354 abbie10647
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I'm 40 years old and pregnant (7 months exactly) I've been suffering from severe panic attacks for 10 plus years now and I will tell you being pregnant only made mine worse. I do take medicine for mine and have for those 10 years and I still do. I had to cut down my dose a bit but so far everything with the baby is good. I wasn't planning on becoming pregnant either but even though I'm suffering more severe panic attacks than I ever have have in my entire life I wouldn't change this for the world. It keeps to know there are other people out there that know what we are going through abd to know we don't have to suffer in silence and we dint have to suffer alone. I'll pray for you buy remember, that baby is a part of you and with your baby you will NEVER be alone. Your baby will be the love of your life and will bring you joy. no one can tell you what to do because it's your body and your decision. Just know that the decision will haunt you for the test of your life. I know grin past
leighla63354
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leighla63354 abbie10647
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I'm 40 years old and pregnant (7 months exactly) I've been suffering from severe panic attacks for 10 plus years now and I will tell you being pregnant only made mine worse. I do take medicine for mine and have for those 10 years and I still do. I had to cut down my dose a bit but so far everything with the baby is good. I wasn't planning on becoming pregnant either but even though I'm suffering more severe panic attacks than I ever have have in my entire life I wouldn't change this for the world. It keeps to know there are other people out there that know what we are going through abd to know we don't have to suffer in silence and we dint have to suffer alone. I'll pray for you buy remember, that baby is a part of you and with your baby you will NEVER be alone. Your baby will be the love of your life and will bring you joy. no one can tell you what to do because it's your body and your decision. Just know that the decision will haunt you for the test of your life. I know grin past
lisa7798 abbie10647
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Just wondering what you decided and how you are doing?
Hope life is treating you well X
crystal24820 abbie10647
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