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Anxiety/homesickness?

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zoe70824
zoe70824

Hi, I'm sorry about this post but, I honestly don't know where else to turn. I would like to get some advice or maybe some tips and tricks that I could do to help my situation. I am 20 years old, female- and for as long as I can remember I have struggle with homesickness, it started off when I was a child and I would go to a friends house for a sleepover but come 1am I'd be in a taxi because my mom would have to come and pick mme up because I'd be hysterically crying "I want to go home, I want my mom" etc. I know weird? Why couldn't I just stop at a friends house for one night! I still have no idea. I'm now 20 as I have stated, and I can't do anything. I've been diagnosed with anxiety, and i think the homesickness could be connected in some way? When I get homesickness it feels like a big bubble of sick in my stomach and I can't eat, or drink, I can't focus all I do is cry and panic, to the point that I can never leave my home/hometown. For example I went on holiday for the weekend recently (very recently in fact it was Friday 4th Aug I left and I came back early Sunday morning- I did leave the holiday resort at about 9pm but I arrived home at about 3am)... because I was again going into a panic attack and crying hysterically "I want to go home, I want my mom". It's not just if I go away myself because a coupl years ago I went on holiday with my dad and my sister for what was supposed to be two weeks but I ended up coming homin after just 5 days, because I was again being sick and panicking and getting very homesick. It worries me because, I feel as though I can't do anything and when it's time for me to move out and say goodbye I won't be able to cope- which then sets off my anxiety thinking about it. Sometimes I think about trying to cope without my mom- as I think because I'm so close to her she may be part thof reason I get so homesick because I'm so used to seeing her face when I wake up and before I go sleep, when I'm away it makes me anxious knowing I can't see her or be around her. Please help. It's stopping me from doing day to day stuff and even making memories with friends or even just exploring the world. I also have a special event to attend to in October on my own for a weekend, and i am FREAKING out about it! Because I know I'm not going to be able to make the whole weekend!! Please if anyone can give me ANY advice it would be muchly appreciated. 

Oh p.s I'm thinking of trying hypnotherapy? Because I've heard that could help with my issue, if anyone has had hypnotherapy, And can tell me how it helped you and what it did to change your life would I would be grateful too!!

Thank you in advance x

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  • rebecca76002
    rebecca76002 zoe70824

    Posted

    Hia I'm really sorry to hear about how anxiety is affecting your life , I defiantly believe the home sickness is a symptom of your anxiety , I think a lot of people experinace anxiety in different ways .

    I Suffer from anxiety myself and I currently have it under control pretty well , my anxiety occurs because I start to over think things wondering why we are alive ect ect , I have had hypnotherapy myself and I honestly did find it to help me a lot , I think with these things you need to believe that they will help you if you know what I mean ?

    Also I currently have CBT and talking theropys which also really help ,

    I think there is a reason for everyone's anxiety and maybe hypnotherapy and some form of therapy could help you find out why you feel home sick and hopefully help you , sorry for the long reply lol 

    I hope you manage to get sorted xx 

    • zoe70824
      zoe70824 rebecca76002

      Posted

      Thank you for the reply, it does make sense I just don't understand how the homesickness started so early was it there before the anxiety or have I always had anxiety? It confuses me. But I will be going to the doctors again- to discuss options to help me sort this out, because I'm sick and tired of the feeling it gives me but it's out of my control x

    • rebecca76002
      rebecca76002 zoe70824

      Posted

      yes I think that once you realise you suffer from anxiety you can think of times from childhood that defiantly relate to anxiety . Anxiety can be so difficult because a lot of the time we don't even know why we have it , but councilling really can help because it can help you work out why you think the way you do .

      Defiantly best going back to the doctors If it's affecting your life this much , I'm sure you will be able to come out the other side smile good luck xx 

    • rebecca76002
      rebecca76002

      Posted

      Ps I've had times when I never thought I could get through this , I was house bound and wouldn't even answer my phone , but I've managed to get through it with the right help , I still have my down days but on the whole I'm much better than I ever thought possible and you can get better to . Don't loose hope xx

  • marleen85993
    marleen85993 zoe70824

    Posted

    Hi Zoe you sound as though you suffer from separation anxiety which revolves around leaving your mum.A lot of children suffer this however why you still react this way needs to be addressed by you and a therapist.Try to set yourself goals perhaps going out with friends for an hour and building it up over time . Build your confidence and learn some relaxation techniques to try to reduce your anxiety.
    • zoe70824
      zoe70824 marleen85993

      Posted

      Please could you elaborate on separation anxiety?? Also, I do try to go out as much as I can but I always find myself texting my mom or FaceTime'ing her when I can.  I also find myself wanting to go home a lot of the time. I've gotten used to work, so when I'm at work it doesn't bother me as much it's more of when I go out on a night or have to stay at a friends house I always find myself telling my friends "oh I can't because I feel ill" or "I told my mom I would be home for a certain time" etc just excuses to get out of having to stop there. And panic sets in as soon as I know I MUST stay somewhere other than my own bed. Any relaxation tips that you could share with me would help, otherwise I shall google them! Thank you for your reply !! X

    • marleen85993
      marleen85993 zoe70824

      Posted

      Separation anxiety is the fear that a child gets when they are away from one or both of their parents.It's very common in young children they lose the security and reassurance that their parent gives them thus causing them anxiety . They usually grow out of that as they get older and become more independent.Talk to your mother and find out if you were always like this and see if she knows if anything triggered it.To learn relaxation techniques You Tube is a good source for meditation, mindfulness and breathing techniques

    • zoe70824
      zoe70824 marleen85993

      Posted

      Oh right ok, yes you're right it does sound very much like separation anxiety, thank you I will ask my mom about it all and book another doctors apt. I have also heard YouTube is good for stuff like this I will be having an explore in a little bit x

  • aga02916
    aga02916 zoe70824

    Posted

    Awww bless you. I almost cried reading this post. Bond with a mother and with family house can be strong but it shouldnt limit your adult life. Its unhealthy. Have you tried any therapies. Step by step you will get there 😘😘😘

    • zoe70824
      zoe70824 aga02916

      Posted

      I have not, I've had counselling in thfever past about depression but not anxiety, my depression seems to have cleared off now. I have been given a number to call from the doctor so I shall be calling them very soon x

    • aga02916
      aga02916 zoe70824

      Posted

      Thats great. CBT should bring you relief and help you 😚😚

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