Anxiety is ruining me!

Bribri,

So sorry anxiety is doing you in, keeping you from experienceing the good life with your daughter.  Understand that what you are going through right now, is going to affect your daughter, when she gets older.  Guaranteed!  "Learned behavior".

Anxiety is such a devastating disorder, as you already know.  Anxiety is a fear of something and that you will not be able to handle appropriately if that situation presents itself to you (the fear) whenever within your life.

Take a look at your past to see when these feelings began, and attempt to learn what trigers your anxiety.  Then start working on how to control your thoughts, your feelings, and to know what anxiety does to you.  Write these things down, so that you will not forget them later.  What have you lost control of most recently, is another good question to attempt to find the cause of your anxiety.

Many years ago I started having anxiety also, went the route of taking all different kinds of depression and anxiety medications, which just sent me deeper and deeper into my ownself.  Eventually I got off all depression and anxiety medicines, choosing to handle all that life throws at me.  I suffer, but I suffer with a clear head.  Doing so, however, I have lost the ability to make right decisions within my life.  Something you should be aware of, if going the route I took.

Not even going to suggest to you to do, as there are serious consequences that goes along with the decision I made.  But, as I have gotten older, my anxieties seem to go away - as I now only go outside of my home only when I have to meet certain appointments.

"Fear of the unknown", can be overcome with study, development of intuition, and realizing what you are experiencing comes with beginning to realize you do not know everything about life, which makes you ill at ease. You may be so concerned about life, how you are going to live and provide for your daughter.  Divert your attention to those things in life that you should learn, like how to be a good mother, a good provider, and forget about what you do not know.  Learn, then learn more, and I would venture to say, in time, those feelings of ineptness will disappear as you grow older, become more educated, more refined.  Concentrate on that you already have, and that is your daughter.  Keep her in the forefront of your mind, and always consider her in everything you do, especially when it comes times with the opposite sex.  Think of her in every situation, as she is the most important person that should be in your life, until such time she leaves your nest.

And most of all, get over the notion that anxiety is ruining you and stop that negative thought and belief.

Wish you well!

I to share some of these feelings and wish I could help you but tjis is all new to me and im looking for answers just as you are. I do know were not alone and we're not crazy

Hi, I can completely relate to what you're feeling!

I have similar feelings to you, chest pain, numbness in my left arm leading to pins and needles, convinced its a heart problem. Ive been to the doctors a silly amount of times and took myself to hospital as didnt believe the doctors were right in telling me that I was ok. Ive had ekgs, blood tests, xrays, ultrasounds and all.was ok. They also mentioned costochondritis to me. Anxiety is a very difficult thing to get to grips with, I've just signed up to get some relaxation therapy in hope it might help as nothing else has so far.

I cant offer much in advice about what to do but just wanted you to know you're not alone.

I find it really helpful expressing all my thoughts and feelings on here and having support from people who understand what I am feeling.

I hope you start to feel better soon x

I have a lot of your symptoms myself, the best advice I can give is to see a doctor to discuss ways to deal with anxiety. Either meds or therapy, therapy works for me - meds I'll never touch. Either way its best to be working towards resolution - home remedies or ways to cope will only delay you starting to actually get better, so best visit the docs as soon as you can - anxiety seldom resolves on its own

Hi. Dont worry, everything you're going through is normal for someone with an anxiety disorder. It won't kill you and it won't send you insane. I've been through it all. 2 years ago I leapt out of bed thinking my windpipe was closing. That almost makes me laugh now. Here's a quick eye-opener: notice how when you're asleep you don't suddenly die from a heart attack or swollen throat? That's because you stop thinking while you sleep. All your problems start with a thought - cease the thought and you kill the loop. Easy to say perhaps and hard to do but "seeing" is the first step. See what happens, watch it and "learn". You need to let go because truly you're not in control anyway, it's a myth that were in control. Spend some time reading about the fear cycle (thought, fear, adrenaline, fear, thought, adrenaline...) and you will see it for what it is - a physical reaction to fear. Read about fight or flight instinct. All this will help you understand your body and what's going on. Finally you have to learn to accept your condition and don't run away, don't pine for the 'old you', because this is you and one day you'll learn to embrace it and help others. Take care.