Anxiety is ruining me!

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These last couple of weeks have been miserable for me. I went to the ER two times last week because I thought I was dying. I've been having small anxiety attacks the last couple of months, but they weren't this bad. I feel like it's just getting worst. I've had 2 EKGs, blood work, and even an ultrasound of my heart and everything is perfect. Even though I know it's not my heart it's like I still don't feel good. I get really bad chest pains. The pain will sometimes go dowb my left side, up my neck, down my left arm, and to my back. The DR I went to said that I have Costochondritis and told me to take 2 Advil everyday for just 10 days. Im just so tired of feeling crazy! The only reason I believe it's anxiety is because my grandma was there 2 times that I've had panic attacks. She was a nurse and she said she's had rhem before. I have a daughter and Im going go college right now. I just cant concentrate lately and I feel so bad because I don't feel like taking my daughter out anymore or playing with her because I'm constantly worrying about IDEK WHAT. I keep asking myself WHY is this happening to me. -_- I'm only 19... And new things keep coming up. The other day I thought I was gonna choke because it felt like my throat was swelling up. I embarassed myself in front of a friend. I'm turning to the internet because I feel like nobody else understands what I'm feeling... Anyone have any suggestions on how to overcome this... fear of the unknown.  I've never experienced this before now..

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    Bribri,

    So sorry anxiety is doing you in, keeping you from experienceing the good life with your daughter.  Understand that what you are going through right now, is going to affect your daughter, when she gets older.  Guaranteed!  "Learned behavior".

    Anxiety is such a devastating disorder, as you already know.  Anxiety is a fear of something and that you will not be able to handle appropriately if that situation presents itself to you (the fear) whenever within your life.

    Take a look at your past to see when these feelings began, and attempt to learn what trigers your anxiety.  Then start working on how to control your thoughts, your feelings, and to know what anxiety does to you.  Write these things down, so that you will not forget them later.  What have you lost control of most recently, is another good question to attempt to find the cause of your anxiety.

    Many years ago I started having anxiety also, went the route of taking all different kinds of depression and anxiety medications, which just sent me deeper and deeper into my ownself.  Eventually I got off all depression and anxiety medicines, choosing to handle all that life throws at me.  I suffer, but I suffer with a clear head.  Doing so, however, I have lost the ability to make right decisions within my life.  Something you should be aware of, if going the route I took.

    Not even going to suggest to you to do, as there are serious consequences that goes along with the decision I made.  But, as I have gotten older, my anxieties seem to go away - as I now only go outside of my home only when I have to meet certain appointments.

    "Fear of the unknown", can be overcome with study, development of intuition, and realizing what you are experiencing comes with beginning to realize you do not know everything about life, which makes you ill at ease. You may be so concerned about life, how you are going to live and provide for your daughter.  Divert your attention to those things in life that you should learn, like how to be a good mother, a good provider, and forget about what you do not know.  Learn, then learn more, and I would venture to say, in time, those feelings of ineptness will disappear as you grow older, become more educated, more refined.  Concentrate on that you already have, and that is your daughter.  Keep her in the forefront of your mind, and always consider her in everything you do, especially when it comes times with the opposite sex.  Think of her in every situation, as she is the most important person that should be in your life, until such time she leaves your nest.

    And most of all, get over the notion that anxiety is ruining you and stop that negative thought and belief.

    Wish you well!

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      Bri,

      Jumping back into the fire, I'll also say to you, when you have heart pain, palpitations, etc, that are only a short duration of seconds, or minutes, this is not heart related.  It is caused by anxiety, stress, etc you are having at that moment.  If, however, you are having chest pains within the area of your heart, for more than two to three minutes, seek out medical attention, immediately, as this very well could be heart related.  Some good common sense to you as well as others.

      A heart attack or other heart related problems are usually associated with more than two minutes of pain, as related to me by a heart specialist.  When I realized that new information, seems my anxiety over me having a heart attack began to disapate.  Other words, I was worrying over nothing, physically.

      Hope you do also put into practice my first advice given.

      All the best to you!

       

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    I to share some of these feelings and wish I could help you but tjis is all new to me and im looking for answers just as you are. I do know were not alone and we're not crazy
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      The first step for me was proof that it wasn't heart related. I've gotten 2 EKGs, blood work, and am ultra sound of my.heart and everything is great. Ever since then I've had less anxiety attacks. I still get them, but not as bad as before. My next step is to go to an appointment with a psychiatrist.  I already have one set up. At first I didn't trust the doctors, but the ultra sound I seen with my own eyes and the doctor even explained to me why he said it was very healthy heart. Maybe try seeing a psychiatrist?  Or a doctor? Whatever will make u feel better.
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    Hi, I can completely relate to what you're feeling!

    I have similar feelings to you, chest pain, numbness in my left arm leading to pins and needles, convinced its a heart problem. Ive been to the doctors a silly amount of times and took myself to hospital as didnt believe the doctors were right in telling me that I was ok. Ive had ekgs, blood tests, xrays, ultrasounds and all.was ok. They also mentioned costochondritis to me. Anxiety is a very difficult thing to get to grips with, I've just signed up to get some relaxation therapy in hope it might help as nothing else has so far.

    I cant offer much in advice about what to do but just wanted you to know you're not alone.

    I find it really helpful expressing all my thoughts and feelings on here and having support from people who understand what I am feeling.

    I hope you start to feel better soon x

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      Kerrianne,

      Think you hit the nail right on the head!

      "I find it really helpful expressing all my thoughts and feelings on here and having support from people who understand what I am feeling".

      Keep doing what you just stated, and hopefully people like myself, will be there for those that follow within your footsteps.

      Couldn't have stated it any better.

      Warmest regards,

       

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      It's really good to know I'm not the only one. The last werk I've been getting muscle spasms all over. I mean I get them in my legs, in my abdomen, just everywhere it seems. But ive also had this weird vibrating feeling on the left side of my chest.  I've read that can happen because of stress. I mean I've had an ultrasound of my heart and everything and reading that I'm not the only one has made me feel ALOT better. It has helped me to accept these things as "normal" and not life threatening as I keep thinking. ....
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    I have a lot of your symptoms myself, the best advice I can give is to see a doctor to discuss ways to deal with anxiety. Either meds or therapy, therapy works for me - meds I'll never touch. Either way its best to be working towards resolution - home remedies or ways to cope will only delay you starting to actually get better, so best visit the docs as soon as you can - anxiety seldom resolves on its own
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      I've set up an appointment with a psychiatrist,  but it won't be until October 13. Which feels soooo far away. I've talked to a counselor at the college and she even said she thinks it's all stress.  Idk reassurance just makes me feel alot better
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    Hi. Dont worry, everything you're going through is normal for someone with an anxiety disorder. It won't kill you and it won't send you insane. I've been through it all. 2 years ago I leapt out of bed thinking my windpipe was closing. That almost makes me laugh now. Here's a quick eye-opener: notice how when you're asleep you don't suddenly die from a heart attack or swollen throat? That's because you stop thinking while you sleep. All your problems start with a thought - cease the thought and you kill the loop. Easy to say perhaps and hard to do but "seeing" is the first step. See what happens, watch it and "learn". You need to let go because truly you're not in control anyway, it's a myth that were in control. Spend some time reading about the fear cycle (thought, fear, adrenaline, fear, thought, adrenaline...) and you will see it for what it is - a physical reaction to fear. Read about fight or flight instinct. All this will help you understand your body and what's going on. Finally you have to learn to accept your condition and don't run away, don't pine for the 'old you', because this is you and one day you'll learn to embrace it and help others. Take care. 
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      There have been times when I was so scared to go to sleep because I thought I was going to die in my sleep. Now I just think of it like this - I've been having these problems a couple of weeks now. . If it was going to kill me I'm sure I'd be dead now. Lol. I'm always thinkin like this though. I mean if it happens, it happens... I can't stop it and I guess I just have to accept that.  However, I've been doing better at controlling my anxiety. There are times when I still have panic attacks though. It's mostly because it feels like my heart is vibrating and/or I feel weird. Like as if I was high or something.  Definitely going to talk to a psychiatrist though.
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