Anxiety is ruining my relationship
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Hi all,
I've been suffering with anxiety for just over a year and I've been with my partner for just under 6months.
I 'warned' him of this from the outset and was suprised to hear he had battled with it in the past and he had come through the other side.
He helps me and tells me all the things I should do, sometimes I feel hopeless as I can't take the advice although I want to.
I've become very needy and insecure, arguments start and escalate pretty quickly and it's all down to me and how I feel... I push and push and push him and I really don't mean any of it, I always have warped thoughts and feelings of inadequacy ...
I take Kalms and rescue remedy, I don't want to take drugs . Counsellors have been all about finding the cause of my anxiety and not helping me cure myself, they try and analyse everything I say and then say' oh you're anxious because of xy and z' - I've not found them helpful, they try and put you in a box, and I won't fit! (I've seen 5 and they've all given me different route causes anyway..)
I work in banking and have a stressful commute, some days it gets so bad I cry my eyes out on the tube as I have panic attacks and my legs turn to jelly.
My relationship is suffering because of me, it's not healthy to pick on your closest people and I feel like I may lose him one day if I carry on like this, he understands it's down to anxiety but how much arguing and stress can he take? At times he has anxiety following an argument, I feel so so guilty. Please help
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Hazuchan81 anna7384
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Hi Anna
You said your anxiety started a year ago. Do you know what triggered it?
anna7384 Hazuchan81
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Exam stress
lisalisa67 anna7384
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The jelly legs dumbfound me. I have given that a lot of thought during my own anxiety attacks. Makes no sense either as it is a survivor mode fight or flight thing.but severely common. I think some run and some freeze by their own primitive nature. I read a book from this weekes woman in anxiety and your nerves who talk about jelly legs a lot. She insists they will still works even when they feel like that. The bloods rushing from your limbs to your organs to keep them going and safe in the supposed danger. Its a cause and effect adrenaline thing in some people,
anna7384 lisalisa67
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I think I'm too impatient for yoga, tried it ages ago and found it didn't help... I also tried mindfulness and videos and things like that, I think I'm feeling too impatient for it, if that makes sense... i realise that a quick cure doesn't help but maybe trying it together may be different.. I just feel hopeless ... it's so awful
Thanks for your reply, means a lot 🙂
lisalisa67 anna7384
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