Anxiety making me overthink my relationship
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I'm 26 and I'm just a plain girl who plays video games I met this guy who is just amazing he has a good job and is in school as well he's 35 I like him so much he's my first relationship in about 6 years and I'm scared I imagine him just cheating on me he takes hours to text back I only see him one day a week he says to be patient and that we will spend more time together maybe he doesn't really want me like I want him and I'm just scared and I cry because idk he says he wants to help me and be here for me but what he's just saying that to entertain his self I'm just scared I'm scared he'll never know how I truly feel
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carole28488 Quietgamer904
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tess33005 Quietgamer904
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I totally agree with carole.
Darling, don't call yourself 'just a plain girl'.
Maybe he IS cheating on you. I'll tel you one thing, though - men don't like feeling pursued in the early stages of a relationship.
If you only see him one day a week, is it the same day each week? I was wondering if he had a wife in the background and had a valid reason (for her) for not being around on this one day.
You say he's amazing, but he isn't treating you very well, so what's amazing about him?
Don't spend your time crying over this man. If he wanted to make any kind of commitment to you I think he would have made it by now.
Sorry to sound so gloomy but it isn't looking good.
DON'T LEND HIM ANY MONEY. HE COULD BE A PREDATOR WHO WANTS TO EMPTY YOUR BANK ACCOUNT.
I am writing this from the perspective of having had men cheat on me, too, including my first husband.
Exactly how long have you known him?
Do what Carole has suggested - ignore him for a bit then see if he comes running back, distressed. Don't, for heaven's sake, bombard him with messages.
I hope this doesn't sound harsh - but a really amazing man would make you feel amazing and want to see you often.
Be strong. Love Tess
allison30388 Quietgamer904
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wayne1962 Quietgamer904
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Sit down and talk to him. Tell him exactly how you feel and take note of his reaction - both physical and verbal. Now is the time to find out how real this connection is. It's better to be alone than to subject yourself to a master/slave relationship. You will have to be brutally honest with yourself and if the response is unsatisfactory to you then you must have time and space for yourself to re-assess and recover. No matter what one percieves about ones appearance, you are not a doormat.
tess33005 Quietgamer904
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Love Tess