Anxiety or out of love?

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. About 4 weeks ago i was at home, totally happy and in love then BAM- a doubt about my feelings (for my boyfriend) went into my head and i couldn't stop thinking about it. I very suddenly felt sick and depersonalised (out of body/thirdperson/spacey). Since then i've felt really weird. Last week I was crying and depressed about the strange way i suddenly felt. I was still able to get some comfort from my boyfriend but now, i've gone all numb and everything feels weird. It feels like my boyfriend is a stranger but i know that I still love him, i just can't emotionally connect with him. I still want to see him all the time and kiss him and be near him but it just feels so strange. It feels like i'm looking at someone i don't know even though i know everything about him. Everything was going perfectly and there had been nothing to make me question my feelings, I was so happy before and I just want to go back to that person. Am I just not in love or is this anxiety?

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    I think it's deffo anxiety , come from some stress that you must have suffered before.

    have you both argued? have you been under stress recently?

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    Depression sounds likely to me . Have you had a build up of small negative thoughts lately. They may of build up in to what you have now
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    Have you had questions about trusting him lately or something? Cheating, lying, anything? If not id say just a rough patch of anxiety.. Do something special together. Even just watch a movie, order dinner, and lay down and talk.. A little communication can really open those lines back up
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    Hi

    I was the exact same as you I was feeling the same maybe worth a try having a look at a web page called conscious transition really good to read and explains a lot x

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    Have you been diagnosed with anxiety or depression?
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    I had these feelings for about 3 weeks also. Anxiety hit me but I wasn't sure what it was at the time, I could help but think this feeling in my stomach was a 'gut feeling' that my 6 month marriage was over even though I knew I was in love. I was fixated on this, when I spoke someone they said you are catastrophsizing, that was my worst case scenario & I was immediately assuming the gut feeling was linked to the end of my relationship because it was in a different relationship years previous. They told me to rake off my 'gloomy goggles' & start looking at things more positively. I'd of have feelings in my stomach before for good times but I wasn't able to connect with those memories. I was advised to use distraction techniques & to address any negative thoughts that made me anxious. Since this advise my anxiety has lessened, I haven't had an anxiety attack for a week & it feels I'm back in my body. I had numbness, felt emotionless & spaced out. I'd say it is all anxiety, book in with GP or ring a mental health helpline. Be positive & say I can get help, this anxiety won't be here forever, keep a strong support network around you & when your brain resets you will have more insight & feel better!
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