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Anxiety Overload: MENOPAUSE IS INCOMPREHENSIBLE & DEBILITATING!!

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vivian72668
vivian72668

Hey Ladies...

Regarding menopause, some days are good and some days are bad, per Michael Jackson: REALLY, really bad!! I want time to CEASE, when I'm feeling great and can conquer the world, literally! Yet, when I have those BAD days, I want to hide in a DARK, quiet closet until the tsunami ends! Suffice it to say, I am CONVINCED, my WORST menopausal symptom is anxiety! Can someone turn my racing, intrusive, thoughts off? Ladies, if any of you are experiencing anxiety, chime in with your thoughts. Thanks.

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  • priya82066
    priya82066 vivian72668

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    this is one of the worst ever symptoms that i have too. i have been managing those with homeopathy and breathing/ meditation/ tapping,. the remedy Aconite helps if the anxiety goes to panic level. also rescue remedy takes the edge off anxiety as well as Ars Alb 200. i also do some breathing/ tapping t that helps to control the anxiety.

    my dr has asked me to buy scutteleria( skull cap) and australian bush flower women essence , so i have placed order for both of that.

    Meditation and breathing helps relax my racing thoughts too.

    • vivian72668
      vivian72668 priya82066

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      Hey Priya...

      I'm happy, you found somethings that work in your favor; kudos, to you! Be well, my menopausal sister.

  • bev27429
    bev27429 vivian72668

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    Vivian... First off, I must applaud your honesty. Currently, I feel like I'm in the bottom of a pit. I am alternating between rage, crying, and hopelessness. When I'm like this, I feel terrified that I'm never going to recover. I recently came off of a month of feeling amazing: energized, confident, on top of the world. I was convinced that I was through it. In the past week, I have descended into a place that I always fear. I'm so thankful to have a partner who has loved me and supported me through all of this, but after almost five years, it's hard not to feel defeated. I just have never been able to wrap my head around how I can feel so amazing one minute, and then so horrific the next. No one should have to live this way, but millions of women do. My heart goes out to all of the women who are suffering just like me. There is no logic in any of this.

    • vivian72668
      vivian72668 bev27429

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      Hey Bev..

      Thank You. One thing I know for sure regarding MENOPAUSE is this: It is an ongoing ROLLERCOASTER, that we just can't get off, at our leisure. That being said, I think the BAD and GOOD days come in increments. I say this because, I MONITOR my symptoms often, and I've noticed, I will have roughly two weeks to a month of feeling well, then ALL hell breaks loose. It's as if the symptoms are FULLY aware, we are in menopause, and sometimes, they give us a much-needed break. Literally, a reminder that this stage we're going through is a NATURAL part of our lives, and that our hormones are imbalanced, and WREAK HAVOC on us, so we have to pay dearly, some, more than others! Had my mother TOLD me the BRUTAL, UNADULTERATED, TRUTH regarding this so-called CHANGE, I would be in a better place.! We all know, knowledge is power! That being said, MENOPAUSE which many times I refer to as MENTALpause is a TSUNAMI! Be well, my menopausal sister!

  • menomel
    menomel vivian72668

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    I feel for you - it is the most horrible experience and no matter what you try and do nothing seems to work.

    Some days I wake up and my eyes are already full of tears - my head is thinking about all the horrible things that I have been through and I it feels like they are the oy experiences I have had.

    I wish it would all go away - the worst is never knowing when this is all going to end.

    it is like being stuck on a roller coaster that keeps going around and around and all you want to do is desperately get off. it is scary and so over whelming - just when you think it is improving you drop again. I never imagined this stage of my life would be like this - I thought I would embrace getting older but this whole menopause things has completely thrown me.

    • vivian72668
      vivian72668 menomel

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      Hello there, Menomel..

      I hear you, loud and clear! Take great care of you! Be well my menopausal sister.

  • aliseanya
    aliseanya vivian72668

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    The anxiety is the worst. I think I could get through everything if I didn't have anxiety.

    I have PTSD & GAD before I was perimenopausal. I was diagnosed barely out of my teens. I worked so hard to live a full happy life with those two monsters. I did it & I was so proud of myself.

    I guess it was 2016-17 I was in my art studio & I was just standing there not thinking of anything in particular. I had the worst anxiety attack of my life. It hit me like a ton of bricks. It was different, horrendous & a total nightmare. I have never experienced anything like that in my life. I have PTSD & GAD. Peri anxiety is 100 times worse. I don't say that lightly. It's so different.

    After that attack Peri anxiety was a constant companion that I don't want to be BFF with. 😃

    I recently lost my dog. She has been my best friend & my constant companion since before I started Peri. Her death shattered me. The day after her passing I had a really bad anxiety episode. It was so different from Peri. I could tell the differences. I could work through it with my exercises. I could discuss it with my husband, & I got better. I still have a base line anxiety because I am grieving. I feel level headed. I understand what is going on and what I can do.

    I can't say that with Peri anxiety. None of those things work at all.

    My periods are starting to space apart. I noticed that the spacing really helps with peri anxiety.

    I feel like Peri anxiety needs to be studied more in depth. I don't feel like traditional treatments help. I have my toolbox & it didn't help at all with Peri anxiety. Some things do but the rest is trash. This is a different monster that is based on hormone's and chemical imbalances caused by it.

    I think it needs to be treated as a medical issue and not a mental health issue.

    • c14889
      c14889 aliseanya

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      SAME! I have GAD as well and peri hit me like a Mack Truck... like just hit me. I'm so sorry for your experience, but I am thankful you shared so I know I'm not the only one. I'm also sorry about your dog. It's so hard; I lost my sweet baby too during this time. XOXOXO

    • vivian72668
      vivian72668 aliseanya

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      Hey AA..

      Your post speaks volumes! Hormones wreak havoc on us womenfolk during this NATURAL period of our lives. Be very kind to yourself, and do the things that bring you JOY! Be well, my menopausal sister.

    • menomel
      menomel aliseanya

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      I could not agree more. I had bouts of depression arising from

      childhood abuse and managed to navigate all this really well until POST menopause.

      In peri i knew i was struggling and couldn't cope with the same stress as before but I was still not so over whelmed.

      Once I hit post it is like I am completely over whelmed - I wake up in a panic with night sweats and cant get all the negative thoughts out of my head.

      All I can focus on is every mistake I have made in my life instead of all the good things I have done.

      It is like some one has flicked a switch in my head. I don't understand why the medical world can't offer some real support instead of a blanket response "anti depressants" no matter what you're dealing with.

      It's so difficult and I want my old strong self back again.

  • c14889
    c14889 vivian72668

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    I get it 100%! This has been the absolute worst! The first few years were horrible for me, but with lots of research and prayer, I am feeling better. I literally just tell myself that these crazy thoughts and fears are just anxiety b/c of my stage of life and it helps. I felt like I had a tape recorder in my head with the scariest thoughts. You're not alone and just knowing that always helps me feel better. Mine seems to be estrogen related; when it gets low I feel worse for sure! I take Boron as a supplement and have learned to play with that and it helps. Also, Vitex (found on Amazon) is really really helpful! I also cut out carbs and sugar for the most part and try to treat myself with a little more grace.

    I also feel like I have these ups and downs. In the beginning when I was having about one good week a month, I would rush around and try to do everything b/c I thought at any point I would be back to feeling anxious and unmotivated. I learned to judge my cycle and where I was (i'm in perimenopause). The MOST help I have gotten has been from alternative doctors and acupuncture has helped. Just know that you are precious and are not alone and that it will get better eventually. XOXOXO

    • vivian72668
      vivian72668 c14889

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      Hey CL...

      I'm glad, you're getting a handle on this sugar, honey, ice tea. It is absolutely horrible! The ups and down are REAL, as you stated! When I'm feeling great, I do everything in my power to get soooo... many things done in my house, and run multiple errands; simply because I have no clue what the next day will bring. Be well, my menopausal sister.

    • c14889
      c14889 vivian72668

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      Amen!! Yes! Exactly! It's crazy that so many of us are living this and feeling so along. Thank you all for your honesty. You ALL have been a life-saver. I am so grateful and I pray that the women that come behind us will know more and get more help. I have thought so much about the poor gals in history who had no help or understanding. XOXOXO

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