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Anxiety question

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jill19850
jill19850

Hi girls.......quick question...when my anxiety comes, it comes in bouts. there are some days I don't have any (maybe 2 days a week that I don't). Anyway, when the anxiety comes, I also get this very scary feeling of loneliness. its horrible...I get so scared to go home from work for fear of being alone. I constantly think about my life when my kids will be moved out and I will be alone. its HORRIBLE. Anyone experience this by chance?? Is this depression too?

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  • Guest
    Guest jill19850

    Posted

    Hi Jill,  I am a “what if” type of person.  Some of us just worry more than others and we are vulnerable right now in this stage of our lives.   What I think ... anxiety is worrying about the future and trying to control it.  and depression can be dwelling on the past unable to change it.  🤔

  • lori93950
    lori93950 jill19850

    Posted

    Yes ! I’m going through that right now . I’m alone recently divorced no kids and sometimes I find myself just driving around ... it never bothered me before never felt lonely but now .... boy like a big black cloud .
    • jill19850
      jill19850 lori93950

      Posted

      ugh..its awful, isn't it? I never knew anxiety could be this way. the fear of being alone is so consuming for me sometimes. I wonder if Prozac will help with this.........

    • lori93950
      lori93950 jill19850

      Posted

      Many women takes ad’s to get through this and I say whatever works take it! For me however it was awful getting on them tried twice and literally felt ill weird .... too many side effects . 
  • Guest
    Guest jill19850

    Posted

    Jill, I take Lexapro, never taken an AD before all this perimenopause business.  It has helped me with my worries and the crying fits.  Gotta do what ya’ gotta do!  😉

  • 2chr2015
    2chr2015 jill19850

    Posted

    I believe this is a part of how depression effects us.  I had been having a few good days and then today even though my energy is better, I’ve still had this lurking feeling  in the background that something isn’t right.  Like I should be worrying about something.  I’ve been a worrier since I was a kid unfortunately.  I have no idea why. I don’t feel loneliness, but I don’t like being alone much these days.  Don’t know how I am going to handle it when my last child leaves the nest.    But, yes mine comes in bouts as well
  • kuppy1234
    kuppy1234 jill19850

    Posted

    I have this too! I am afraid to go home and be alone. I'm scared! Its weird. Ive been like this for awhile though and it started to get better and then bam! Hello perimenopause. Now its wayyy worse. 

    • kuppy1234
      kuppy1234 jill19850

      Posted

      No I’m not. I tried to take Lexapro for it and while it did help for a bit, it actually ended up making my OCD worse! I had to ween off of it over the course of two years. It was terrible. I’ll never get on another AD again. 
  • mauiblue
    mauiblue jill19850

    Posted

    Hi Jill

    I love that you started your post with "quick question'.....   smile

    Is any of this quick?

    I feel scardy cat each morning and periodically througout the day. I fear for many things. I dont even know why, my rational mind tell me" why in the heck would you worry about any of this??" I cant help it either.

    My boys left for a week to see their father awhile back, and it was dreadful, i think i became worse because of it.

    I can say that depression and anxiety are closely , very closely related. One is running on adrenaline and irrational fears, the other isnt running because there is no interest or motivation or joy in anything.

    With either of the two, we are not happy. You cant eat or feel calm or happy with yourself or others when you are either of these things.

    Stay here on the forum and you will find support. 

    x0x0x0

    • jill19850
      jill19850 mauiblue

      Posted

      THANK YOU, Mauiblue....this forum has been my biggest comfort. The anxiety is so debilitating for me. I sit for hours with thoughts racing through my head of being afraid of being alone. Anxiety makes me feel SO lonely. Hearing from all you girls makes me feel better.❤️
    • lori93950
      lori93950 jill19850

      Posted

      We all do ... you’re not alone . It’s like all our wires have been crossed suddenly and the messages are not getting through 
    • kuppy1234
      kuppy1234 jill19850

      Posted

      Yes! Me too! And especially if I’m at work (around people) and just the thought of having to leave to head home will have my head spinning for hours. And sometimes I hang around “getting extra time” at work, waiting for my husband to get home before me. 
    • kuppy1234
      kuppy1234 lori93950

      Posted

      I agree! It’s so odd! Like a week before my period in so snippy and emotional and feel alone (Havent properly grieved the loss of my mom), and then I start and then as I’m in on like day 3-4, PMS starts all over again, but this one is worse (think depression, fears of self harm, obsessive thinking, intrusive thoughts) and I’m like whoa. Lol I get five good days a month! 
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