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Anxiety ruining my life

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lisaco37
lisaco37

Someone tell me anxiety can be managed . For 7 months now I have been on numerous medications and still no better. My racing thoughts are making Me think I'm going insane. I feel so tired and worn down. I am giving up on getting better.

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  • michelle71710
    michelle71710 lisaco37

    Posted

    Hi Lisaco, sorry you are feeling bad. what meds are you on? Xx
    • lisaco37
      lisaco37 michelle71710

      Posted

      I am on 40mg of seroxat and 20 mg of inderal , I just can't seem to stop my head from thinking. It's really scaring me. I don't know what to do next

  • jane75220
    jane75220 lisaco37

    Posted

    Do you think you may be anaemic?
    • lisaco37
      lisaco37 jane75220

      Posted

      I take iron , and calcium and vitamin b complex anything I can think of that might help
  • linda83143l
    linda83143l lisaco37

    Posted

    You will get there, just be gentle with yourself

    If the medication is not helping, see your Dr, it could be the wrong meds for you. There are many on the market. You are not going insane just anxious.

    Good luck

    • lisaco37
      lisaco37 linda83143l

      Posted

      Thanks Linda, I had got to a stage I thought i was running out of options regards medications. I have tried so many over the last few months. Have also tried cbt with no improvement
  • amit71bd
    amit71bd lisaco37

    Posted

    Dear Lisa,

    Remember, medicines can not control your conscious as well as subconscious mind! If you can take control of your own mind only then you overcome your anxiety! Your eyes can see everything in front of you but it can not see yourself unless you take help of a mirror! Human being store some residue in their minds unconsciously in their everyday life through different experiences.we have to trash those out. You can try meditation. If you can not convince your mind to do meditation then force him to do it untill you recover! Oppose your mind in applicable cases. If you have time then join a meditation camp or temple for few days!

    • lisaco37
      lisaco37 amit71bd

      Posted

      Was contemplating joining a meditation class, but I'm really bad going places at the minute. Will push myself to try . Thanks

  • lisalisa67
    lisalisa67 lisaco37

    Posted

    It can be managed. Not all the time but most of the time..enough to function and at times feel normal. Some use and do well with meds others dont and some cant use them at all. This changes you in every level. To say otherwise is a lie. They are working in a reset and hopefully we will see within a decade. Its complicated and intertwines with the whole body,

    therapy, mindful exercises, biofeedback, learn to meditate  its a fantastic escape and learning and understanding all of it.tons of books and workbooks and self calming skills. But knowledge is very useful. Dbt over cbt and even yoga. Google all that. You will have to change. Change is good here.so dont be afraid of change afterall if you were the same in five years would you be happy..no. So accept help and accept change.

    best advice is you need to trust the process of life.stop trying to control it, change, alter it....accept it and trust it. And oh boy you need to love yourself as is and every step of the way. Be kind to yourself.this isnt easy. And you did not ask for this and cause it. But you have to live with it, for now. We all do on different levels. 

    • jasper71098
      jasper71098 lisalisa67

      Posted

      I'm in my 40s, and never had ongoing anxiety until a couple months ago. I have good days and bad days now, trying to learn how to manage it now. I tried escitalopram the other day and quit after the first day. I just wasn't up for the prospect of having increased anxiety during the weeks of starting a new drug, and one of the side effects I experienced the first night was an absolute dealbreaker. I can survive without meds, but other members of my family really do need meds. I suppose a lot of it depends on the biochemical hand of cards each of us was dealt.

      I definitely want to look into the coping skills mentioned above. I'm trying to build a toolkit of things to use when I find myself anxious and stuck with a negative thought, fear, or obsession. Right now, I'm using the silly acronym BEWCO to remember things to do: Breathing (exercises), Exercise, Writing, Cleaning, (going) Outside. All of those things help, or at least give me something to do, some action to take instead of feeling helpless. The other day, the cold winter wind on my head helped with the anxiety. A lot of people favor cold showers for it. Cold seems to help somehow, even just splashing cold water on my face. I feel like it's all a survival situation, and these are ways that I can do the mental health equivalent of lighting a fire, building shelter, and navigating to a better place.

      Lisa's last paragraph is the hardest for me: trusting the process, and especially loving myself. Self-loathing is a constant enemy, and it's really hard for me to not see myself as the cause of this. Sometimes, I even see it as just punishment. I know that undoing this sort of thinking is key, but it's a challenge.

    • lisalisa67
      lisalisa67 jasper71098

      Posted

      I want to believe this is NOT a punishment but a lesson to be learned. You have to look at that way. Or maybe as simple as an adventure we chose before entering this Earth (hey why not) who knows. But listen Think about this. Imagine a kid crying and very upset feeling everything you feel. How would you react? First instinct? Would you scream at this kid to die and you hate their guts? Over and over and then tell them God  hates you he is punishing you and then spew more hate? Ooh i hope not. It wouldnt calm anyone! Sure as heck a horrible enviornment to heal in. So think about that because  thats what you do to yourself. Horrid! Your being Very abusive to yourself but to yourself. Abusing yourself. You have to be tender and compassionate to yourself.mindset is everything. Healing occurs in the state of calm. Problems get solved in the state of calm. This is your body, this is it so love it. Love every cell in it because healing cant and wont ever happen in a hateful, angry, resentful body. Be careful not to accept the role of a victim. Find a way to take some responsibility for some of this, not its cause but what is happening and see you are playing a part in this dance. Accept it with love and own it then you can release it. Stand in self love and then it has to change the dynamic. It wont serve a purpose for it to stay like that anymore.its a glitz  in fight or flight rememeber that.take on the challenge. Start reading books and learn more and more. The workbooks are really useful. Any of them.

       

    • lisalisa67
      lisalisa67

      Posted

      The reason "cold" works on a very simole level is the body is a machine.it works to regulate itself always. The cold sidetracks it. It has to regulate temoerature so it goes there haha. Simple and effective.ice chios under the tongue iphelp as well. Yes cold works great and feels good. 

    • jasper71098
      jasper71098 lisalisa67

      Posted

      You are right, Lisa. I can either look at it as a transformative learning experience, or I can just give in and wallow in unhappiness. May as well make use of it. And sure, who knows, maybe this is something carrying over from a previous state of existence. No, I wouldn't treat someone else the way I treat myself. Being tender and compassionate with myself sounds almost incomprehensible to me, but I know you're right. That internal war always ends in loss. I've viewed the world with such a negative filter for so many years, and now it's time for me to let go of that perspective. The difficult thing with personal change is accepting the difference between who I was and who I am. The last couple of days, I've been trying to use mindfulness to interrupt the negative thinking, the bad daydreams. I try to focus on my immediate sensory environment and not let my mind wander.

  • john47751
    john47751 lisaco37

    Posted

    What you need to do is find someone that can help you deal with the thoughts. Medication wont fix the problem, most of the time it will only slow it down or at most mask the problem.

    What I found that has been very helpful (atleast in my experience) was finding a councelor/ therapist that specializes in anxiety/OCD. When I did (and followed that they told me) I started getting better....very slowly....but I started getting better.

    There are some days were things just completely fall apart for me BUT that is to be expected. Good days will follow....BUT you need to find the right kind of help.

  • sara74114
    sara74114 lisaco37

    Posted

    Hello Lisaco:

    Am as well suffering from anxiety that is literally ruining my life now .. I dont seem to be avle to help myself out of it ... but let me tell you this I had anxiety when I was 20 then it disappeared and came back as I was 23 then it disappeared and now is back again ... the point is I know no cure for it I just can tell you that it cant last forever at a certain poinwt it will give u a break ! Try to stay strong !

    • lisaco37
      lisaco37 sara74114

      Posted

      Thanks for your reply, it's nice to know it will eventually ease. But it's better that I feel now I'm not alone after coming to this forum.

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