Anxiety thoughts

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Hello I am quite new to this site.

I feel as though I have anxiety I think tho more in my head more than anything. Like the thoughts I have, for example my husband went to the Servo to wash his car after we went camping and he took a while to wash his car. I thought the worst. I always think the worst. And just now I told him I am heading to bed (his parents are living with us at the moment and they were both in their bed room) I said good night to everyone and I get back up and his father is out watching tv with him. Why couldn't he just watch tv with both of us. Doesn't he like me? But why would he? I'm me not any one special. Does anyone else think this way? Thank you in advance smile

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    Hi Jessica. I think that you should keep an eye on signals and trust your gut with things. With the car incident, did you think that he was not coming back or had had an accident? What was your worse fear? Purely from your post, I think that you feel insecure with both your husband and his parents. You are starting to doubt yourself and have issues of low self esteem. I would recommend that you keep a note of the behaviours of your husband and parents. It could easliy be the case that when they do something positive it is not on your radar and that all you see are perceived negatives. Do something to boost your self esteem.

    Most of all try not to worry. Let things take their course and if find a pattern of negative behaviour then you need to tackle your husband and or parents.

    Very best wishes

    Mark

     

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      Hi mark,

      Thank you for your reply. I really appreciate it. With my husband and me thinking the worst. I meant by thinking he is dead and I am never going to see him again, thinking of how I will be with out him. All most to the point of his funeral and I get upset to the point of tears. I do this a lot I don't mean to but my mind goes straight there. I dwell on everything. I do trust him and don't believe he would ever be unfaithful. And with my in laws I asked my husband and he said he didn't want to watch what his wife was watching. I just find my self always seeing the negitave and never the positive and I want to change that or fix it. Thank you again mark for your reply! I really appreciate it!

      Jessica smile

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      Hi Jessica

      This may seem like tough love. Your fear of losing your husband could create a situation where you lose him. I genuinely believe that we bring into our lives what we think about often. I feared losing my wife and in the end she left me. My best advice is to visualise you and your husband having a long and happy life together and things working out well. Try to keep this picture in your mind.

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    Hi Jessica

    You are feeling insecure by the sounds of it. It may just have been that it was a coincidence that your father in law got up after you left, he may have needed space from his wife or he may have been trying to give you and your husband some space.

    Is this something you can discuss with them ?

     

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      Hello,

      thanks for replying to my questions

      Yes I asked my husband and he said that his father didn't want to watch what his wife was watching. I just automatically assume it's me. He doesn't like me. I just need to find something to help me feel better and happier. I mean I have my happy days but when I have my low days they are the lowest of lows can be. Sometimes I just don't want to feel the emotion like I do. It hits me like a truck. And I'm out for a couple of days and my husband can't help so he feels helpless and then I feel bad because I don't know what's wrong with me. It's hard sad but thank you so much for your reply too! I really appreciate it! smile

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    You are special. Your not loving yourself.Your husband loves you. Please don't be paranoid .Paranoia is part of anxiety. I had it do badly I had a nervous breakdown. .but with cbt therapy and medication it can be beaten and for me faith in God 💜👊👍

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      Yes! You can do this! 👊👍💖 You have to forgive yourself before you can help others. What ever you have done is forgivable if you say.I'm sorry.Move forward and upward.I would give you a hug but I will pray..May you find peace and be strengthened in Jesus name 👍💟💪😻💋👄💖🐱🐶🐝🐬🐳🐋🐨 xxxxx

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    Yes I feel like this, I know exactly how you feel. But you've just got to remember that it's just part of what we're going through. We feel this way because of our anxiety. We will beat it and soon begin to feel "normal" again. Stay strong

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    You have an iPhone? Use the find friends app if you worry, he'll never know you've done it

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