Anxiety when away from home?

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Hi everyone,

For about a year now, I've had anxiety when away from home. I went on holiday last year and my anxiety ruined it because I constantly felt sick and unwell. In the last 6 months it's gotten progressively worse and in the last couple of months, it's gotten really bad to the point where I'm at my wits end.

It's hard to explain really because it's not a social anxiety. I don't get

nervous around people, I don't have an anxiety where I don't like interacting even with strangers. I will gladly socialise with people. The problem is, mainly eating. I get quite anxious if I am away from home in an enclosed space so for example, on a bus/car/plane, in a cinema etc. And when it comes to eating out, I feel physically sick. I pick at food for fear of vomiting if I eat too much and every mouthful makes me feel worse and worse. I don't enjoy meals out like I used to. I dread them. My stomach churns, sometimes I get a really bad stomach and have to go to the toilet a number of times. And that's before I've even eaten anything. I used to be a really sociable person but now I make excuses not to go out and when I do got out, I have a miserable time.

I have a huge phobia of sick and being sick. I've always had it but it's gotten worse over the years. I think this is contributing to my anxiety. I get anxious that I will feel sick when I'm away from the comfort of my home (where, if I was sick, I would be alone and in familiar surroundings) and in turn, the anxiety itself makes me feel sick. It's like a never-ending cycle. I panic that other people will be sick around me too. If I'm with a friend and they say they don't feel well, I panic and start feeling sick too. I took my daughter to the cinema a couple of weeks ago and a child behind me started coughing a lot and I suddenly thought maybe she was going to be sick. I started panicking, my heart was pounding, I was sweating and going hot and cold and thought I was going to throw up so I had to leave and go to the toilets to calm myself down before going back and changing seats.

I know it's all in my head. If I was genuinely physically sick then it would be a constant thing, not something that only happened in certain environments. I haven't yet seen a doctor because I don't even know if I'll be taken seriously. I am going to Spain for 4 days with a friend next week and I am starting a new job soon after that. Two things that will send my anxiety out of control. I just want to be normal, to be able to have lunch with a friend, go for a couple of drinks, go out for the day without feeling sluggish and nauseous the whole time. Does anyone have any advice at all? Or had a similar problem? If so, what did you do?

Thanks in advance,

CB

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    Hi

    I'm no expert, and this is my first post on hear. But, it sounds to me like something called Human Givens Therapy might work. They do something called the rewind technique. It's also mentioned in one of their books, How to Master Anxiety

    Worth a try...

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    Hi CB

    I just came across your post and noticed it is a couple months old. How are you getting on just now? I'm happy to further discuss if you are still interested?

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    Hi CB,

    So glad I found this, it's literally like reading about myself. I have a birthday meal that I need to go to on Sunday and I'm alrady feeling scared about it, I just know I won't be able to eat and I'll feel sick.

    Not going to tell you my whole story as it is exactly like the one above, but any help would be great smile

    Thank you x

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    As a footnote, I also get a really tight stomach and feel like I have to crouch all the time to stop me heaving.
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    Hi there,

    I noticed this was posted over a year ago but I literally have the exact same thing. It holds me back in life and I feel guilty that I'm not enjoying things like overseas travel and eating out with friends etc. I'm curious to see how you got on and whether you have found anything that has helped you?

    Thanks.

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    Hi CB,

    Hope you are having a productive day. Just read your post as I am over seas and am having tge same anxiety issues. Would love to learn more about what you discovered to tame it

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    I have only come across this post today, but I feel like I have something similar to this. When I try and explain it to friends/family I just feel silly but I have panic attacks whenever I need to go away for work when it's time to go to bed. I feel it in the pit of my stomach then I begin to shake and shiver to the point where it's ridiculous.. I can't sleep and I'm really beginning to suffer because of it. The thought of food makes me feel ill also... so your not alone

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