Anxious, scared, unsure, and confused

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 well I had my first conuselling session to be told it will between 4-6 sessions. Now regretting opening up the can of worms of life, because what if 4-6 is not enough to get it all in some remnants of normality.

now wondering whether just to forget the counselling and put it all to bed again and try to move on.

wouldnt normally regret opening the bad box, but regretting it badly now.

dont know whether to phone mental health matters to talk it through and hopefully get some clarity for myself.

i hear myself giving myself advice but unsure how to do it 

sorry to sound like I am wallowing but today has been really hard and mixed

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    Therapy on the nhs always starts out with 4 to 6 sessions,its to see how u then process what you start with after it. There isn't really an expectation that you'll be ready to go it alone so don't be disheartened. You'll be offered a review after it,but you are free to ask for more whenever you need it. I was in nhs therapy for over 2 years,there's really no limit - its just how they work things. Also counselling is very different from therapy, and within therapy there are different branches. CBT is often offered first,mostly because it's cheap,and it can work for some,but largely its useless. CAT is a better branch of therapy to ask for
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    What does cat stand for please. Thank you. Have you been through Iapt for therapies ???

    how are you now ??

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      CAT is cognitive analytical therapy,you can find loads online about it and its available on the nhs. Basically it allows time to look at the past and see how it's made you think and act about things now. It's a really.good form of therapy I think. Yeah I've been through a lot of therapies over the years,its helped keep me on an even keel most times. I probably wouldn't be here without it. I'm heading back into it soon,I had a terrible time last year with a back problem and loss of a pet so I need some more therapy time.

      There's also a great helpline called breathing space,they are open 6pm to 2am every day and all day weekends. They are staffed with therapists and they really are good people to talk to. I talk to them and the Samaritans often

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    Hi Michelle, try to change your mind set about it!  It is normal to have doubts and want to run from actually doing the work, but I gather that this has been building, that whatever you are seeking treatment for has been haunting you and needs to be addressed once and for all.

    At the end of 6 sessions, if you need more time, there are tons of self-help resources on the web.

    Keeping the box closed likely hasn't worked for you and will continue to not work.  You have to decide, do you want to continue living that way, being that way?  Because only you can make things better. 

    It helps to have support in place from friends and family.  Think of this as opening a door to the rest of your life just getting better and better.  It's really about learning better coping mechanisms, because in reality life will always throw us curve balls, but it will also throw us joy and beauty, so go in with an open heart that no matter what, you deserve this.

    And you will probably be surpised that you will learn some techniques that help right away!  It doesn't have to take years of psycho-therapy to make progress; in fact, it ought not to!

    Good luck!

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      I contacted birmingham healthy minds 9 weeks ago and they gave me a review 2 weeks later then they said that a counsellor will be in touch. I rang them 4 weeks later to be told I would be contacted in the new year as theres a waiting list. I thought this anxiety should been addressed earlier on as the more time goes on the worse it's getting.. different thoughts every week
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    Thank you x
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    It's something new and you don't want to go through that change. just think that it's positive progression and you have to discuss it to get better. It's either this way or meds. I was given Fluoxetine bit didn't take them as i thought I can't go through the low point. so I stuck to Propanalol which calms me down
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