Any one else feel so 'ugly'?

You do look very pretty in your photo,but I can relate to you,I feel down about everything and I ve never been like this,I always loved clothes now I haven't got the enthusiasm to choose new ones I hate looking in the mirror,,everything feels like hard work,my arms and legs feel like dead weights. Hopefully this phase passes soon.I do try not to moan to my family i try to pretend that I'm happy,i get on my nerves enough I don't want to get on there's aswell ?? I try and get out even if it's just for a little walk,it helps brighten my mood a little xxx

We all have our down days 

I cannot believe you have written that about yourself.

You do look very pretty in your photograph.

Life is a gift enjoy whilst you are able xx

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Your beautuful start telling yourself that.

But I do get hiw your feeling.

Which is y I made this forum.

I feel fat tooo floppy boobs and just not me.

I used to b the life and soul of the party now o just wanna go bed.

And I loved my heels now ?????? can't wear them anymore it feels like your bring stripped of u.

But girls it comes to us all.

We survive everything and there mist be a light at the end if this tunnel xxxxxx

Cheer up girly your gawjuzz

Hi calliane, you have just described me. I hate myself and no matter how much I tell myself how irrational I'm being I can't bring myself to look forward or look for the good in me. My body has changed, my mindset has changed. My husband and I have previous marriages and he fell in love with the vivacious, sexy confident me and now she's gone I worry he doesn't love me anymore. My daughter gets married in five weeks and I still have to find an outfit that will make her proud of me. Not look fat and frumpy. I try not to grumble, I'm a believer in not pointing out your imperfections to others as they probably can't see them. And a good friend said make the most of your assets then no one will notice your faults, but it's sooo hard.  A lovely young girl passed me a tissue on the bus the other day, I hadn't realised tears were running down my cheeks, I was lost in my negative thoughts. Where has the strong confident positive me gone. 

Hi Callianne

Your not ugly your just going through the menopause

It does not matter at the end of the day how we look, what matters is to feel better

Getting old is a part of life I accept it what I can't accept is this crap will do anything to stop it.

Callieanne, Don't be so hard on yourself. I think you're very pretty. I am struggling along with you. I think it's so hard on women ( like me) that have always taken an interest in looking and dressing their best and are used to compliments. I hate it too, but, I tell myself that my outward appearance is only a part of who I am, not all of me. I try to think that I need to redirect energy into another part of my life and take comfort in being succesful  in that area. I know we can't hold onto youth forever and even the current beautiful, young people won't have any more youth than we have had. I try to think of people that are older but everyone loves to be around because they have wonderful personalities that people flock to and try to model myself after them. You might not realize this, but I'm sure you mean a great deal more to your bf than just your exterior. If that's not so, well you deserve better and  will be better off without him...good luck!