Any partners of anxiety sufferers?
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my partner of 10 years has struggled with anxiety for almost 14 years (maybe his whole life before it was diagnosed?)
honestly i feel exhausted, last few years have been terrible. its been one thing after the other. much of the time he doubts the relationship and his love for me (we want to get married however divorce is a big no in our culture so i think that really makes his anxiety worse, as it leaves him with no escape route)
he has also had difficulties with work, friends etc etc. hes often stressed, he gets easily irritated, angry, i feel like his behaviour is toxic sometimes because if i ever need a bit more reassurance it annoys him to have to repeat things to me.
there is so much more but i dont know how to cope anymore. is anyone in a similar position to me? id love to share experiences x
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kelly55079 Liyana8989
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Yes... mine is often angry and irritated as well. He worries about everything and I mean it -- everything.. It's sad because he refuses help. Lately, he has had health aniexty so he has been to about 10 doctors doing all these tests-- nothing is coming up.. Wish Dr would put 2 and 2 together and come up with zoloft for him! I am exhausted and friends would make comments about me not having the energy to do stuff-- my blood levels have been OK. But recently saw a therapist for me and she validated my 'exhaustion'-- it's our relationship.. day in and day out no peace UNLESS I go away for a few days.. : ) So I need to create more boundaries and take care of me.
sam90321 Liyana8989
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do any of you suffer with anxiety? or anxiety disorder?
kelly55079 sam90321
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I don't.. Sure, around the holidays I get a little 'squirrely' but I"m usually fine with some planning and a good friend to talk with.
sam90321 Liyana8989
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ok so u really dont know what its like to live with the disorder on a daily then,everybody gets some form of anxiety at some point because we are only humans but there is a difference between having anxiety for something in the moment and living with it, its not something u can just snap out of, its gonna take re-wiring the brain and therapy.only advice is force him to get help because if he dont its going to get out of control or also CBT.
kelly55079 sam90321
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I understand and agree that we all have some form of anxiety. But it affects his daily life and will NOT seek treatment.. He will go to a bunch of doctors for ears, teeth, back or whatever else it is but NOT therapy. Therapy they let him know he has severe anxiety and ask to do something to help yourself or family. He won't and this is why it's frustrating... Kinda like living with and alcoholic who refuses to get sober. If I knew I was 'hurting' my spouse or kids I would get help so they are happy to be around me. And yes, I did suggest smoking weed/CBT/ edibles but that was a firm No..
sam90321 kelly55079
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well then damn, at this point if its affecting you, u have to do whats best for yourself. thats pretty selfish and not fair on u, hes an adult and needs to take responsibility for his behaviour! smoking weed can melo him out or make his anxiety worst, but it can be addicted too.