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My 82 year-old mom took care of my dad for 20 years (he had a long string of serious illnesses). When he passed away six years ago, her health was poor, due to all those years of neglecting her own needs. She had high blood pressure and moderate kidney failure. About 2 years ago, she took a minor fall and injured her knees (bruising). I forced her to stay with me for a couple of weeks, but during that time, noticed her home was not senior-safe. One repair led to another, and now, I'm not sure if it's better to move her back in or move her to a senior facility. For the former, we'd have to find a way to get her 24/7 care; for the latter, we could rent out her home. Psychologically, which is the best option? She became an introvert (her hearing loss contributed). She suffers from kidney failure (dialysis is just around the corner) and minor cong. heart failure. She barely walks -- unsteady with a cane.... and out of breath for any distances.
I'm interested in a discussion about the pros and cons of where seniors live. I know everyone is different, but is it cruel for me to have her move out, given that this is probaby where she is happiest? This is really difficult for me. I have a husband and three almost-adult children. I can't go anywhere, without hurrying home within an hour, or two.... I also have quit working, which hasn't made my husband happy. I have recently asked someone to come for a couple of hours here and there, every couple of weeks, but it's too expensive for her to sit with my mom for longer than that.I have no other support.
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