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Back and fourth anxiety

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thomas87222
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hi guys, about myself, im 33 male live with my misses and two boys, when i was younger i was abit of a drug addict, long story short it caught up to me later onnin life by causing a huge panic attack back then i diddnt know what it was i thought i was dying, you all know the feeling, needless to say when i came out the hospital i was a diffrent man, took me years to figure out what happened, and after countless A&E visits i learnt to live with it by going the gym religiously, fast forward a few years im stil hitting the gym hard before work, eat well but enjoy myself, got a mrs had kids beutifull home etc, but never the less anxiety mainly health anxiety wrrying about a stroke or heart problems is still an always with me, i jist keep it at bay, but after staring my business last year and having a bad few months my anxiety has never been worse, even tho i have the money i still cant help but worry about money in general, i know i can earn money no problem and pay bills no problem but this little gremlin in my head keeps telling me somethings wrong all the time making me worry, any i lost alot of money on a recent job which stressed me out abit an spiked my anxiety bad! now im onto new jobs earning better money im feeling a lot better in my self and enjoying lofe again but stil the contant worry over my health because of the anxiety, i train 4/5 days a week and can run 20 mins straight so its a hard pill to swallow, iv made the decission to do some site work so no worries aboit buying materials just earn money, but everytime a customer paulys me a large amout of money my anxiety spikes again because theres always a bill to pay even tho i know im all good, as the saying goes "more money more problems" iv been fine the last few weeks but last night in bed i couldnt sleep because of my anxiety telling me you need to pay this you meed to pay that! and just knocks me off the track again, has anyone ever dealt with this ????

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  • jan34534
    jan34534 thomas87222

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    thomas you are surely not alone! many people worry about money and health. i am older than you and i can say from experience worrying constantly about those things, that drove me to have a miserable life ! And guess what? Everything always worked out. When we have money we worry about losing it, when we don’t have a lot of money we worry about not having it. It could go on and on. that’s why I urge you to try and let it go in your mind and remind yourself that everything will work out one way or another. Worrying about future things even tomorrow, is truly a waste of time. We do what we can do to plan but once we’ve done that we have to let it go! You don’t want to one day turn around and realize you’re 60 years old and spent a lifetime without joy and happiness because of the worry. Worry is a useless emotion even though I know it’s difficult sometimes. But I have learned that along the way and it’s so true! So my best advice to you would be

    1. plan.

      Plan for whatever it is you need to do whether it’s financial, getting a physical check up, etc. once you’ve done everything you can do then LET IT GO! I am a faithful person so what I learned late in life was when I can’t do anymore I let it go and I give it all to God . I release it. And now I have so much more joy in life and peace. I enjoy every single day, I enjoy my family, I am grateful for everything in my life.

    2. every day tell yourself what you are grateful for.
    3. slow down. Especially slow down your mind and BREATHE. everything is going to be OK.
    4. One thing I don’t regret is that I appreciated and enjoyed my kids while they were growing up. One day I turned around and they were out of the house young adults. Please take time to enjoy your boys. Do little things with them that mean the world to them! They will have such wonderful memories. Don’t let that go by!
    5. remember 99% of everything we worry about never happens. When you get a yearly physical check up and everything is OK, then LET IT GO. Life flies by. Embrace it and enjoy it with your family!
    6. if you are really struggling with anxiety speak with a therapist. You could even do it virtually at home. Mental attitude is everything in feeling better.

      my daughter works in a nursing home and she told me that nearly all of her patients say their biggest regret had nothing to do with money. It was about not spending time with their family and their children , not enjoying the simple things in life and being caught up in the rat race of life.

      Sorry so long. I just wanted to share what I have learned along the way. Feel free to private message me anytime.

    • thomas87222
      thomas87222 jan34534

      Posted

      thank you so much your words mean the world coming from someone who understands

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