Bad day

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Another bad day had a really bad night when I did manage a few hours plagued by nightmares I hate this s**t life , trying to be ok for my son but failing miserably

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    Bikerjools,

    Will someone struggling with obesity lose weight if they keep eating fast food everyday?

    Will a diabetic keep well if they continue to eat sugary cakes?

    Will someone with high blood pressure manage their condition if they don't make a small change the stressfull situations in their life?

    Will someone with a drink problem get well if they don't take a step forwards to deal with their drinking?

    The reason I pose these questions is because if nothing changes, then you cannot expect anything to change.  It's really as simple as that.  Of all of the other people who have previously responded to you and given you their help and suggestions, what action have you taken so far?

    If people suggest that perhaps contacting the Samaritans or seeing your doctor might be a good idea, how many times do you think they will suggest that before they realise that you aren't actually taking one step forward to put action into words?  Eventually, you will get to the position where no-one will respond to your posts, which will do nothing for you other than reinforce the notion in your mind that you aren't good enough, or worthy enough.

    I say this with all the best wishes for you because you are the one in your situation so none of us can know how it feels, but can you tell us what action you have taken to change your situation since you been posting?  Have you actually rang the Samaritans, or anyone else who can help get you started to a better life?  Have you contacted your doctor?

    You deserve to get better, and to have a life that you can enjoy with your son.  But we can't make that happen.  Only you can take that first step forwards.  The wonderful people on here are not going to be able to help you unless your take a real step to help yourself.

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      I'm not sure where to start apart from tried all of above , my gp is great but limited because of the crap mh service currently in this area , no psyhctrist input for months, ed psycolgist was off for 8 months and have no in put from them at present. Yes I have contacted the Samaritans via there new text service because I find talking to new people very difficult!!! They responded 4 hours later and I did try numerous times and same response . I have Ben through a very difficult few years inpatient 5 times and really struggling with depression, I don't have family support and live in rural north Wales and because of my anxiety is crippling me at the moment I don't see anyone. I am also trying to support my son with his own mh issues I'm just doing my best but really struggling

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      Oh and of course trying to cope I use alcohol to try and numb it all had trying to deal with borderline personality disorder!! There are also difficult issues with my ex who was emotionally abusive and is now in a care home with parkisons and trying to support him as his family aren't there for him and trying to keep a relationship between our son and him just feel overwhelmed. I want to try and address alcohol issue but they are messing around with my meds a lot so that doesn't help

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      Hi

      This is the first time I’ve replied to your many posts on here. The main reason being you wouldn’t like my replies. 

      I fully understand anxiety and I used to use alcohol to ‘help’ deal with it. The problem is it won’t ever work. Alcohol causes anxiety and also stops anti depressants from working as it’s a depressant.

      Joannas reply sums up your situation perfectly. Another example being say you were lactose intolerant, would you deliberately go and drink a pint of cows milk and then keep complaining you feel ill.

      ?The saying ‘no pain, no gain’  is so true. There comes a time when all the help and advice in the world is useless, if you’re not prepared to help yourself.

      I was in a dark place years ago. Couldn’t see anything positive in life, other than how I could get my next drink. Nothing else mattered, what was the point in carrying on?

      Yes people tried to help, make suggestions, took me to medical appointments, made healthy meals for me etc. The minute they’d gone, the drink would come out and I’d do nothing, apart from feeling sorry for myself, jealous of people living ‘normal’ lives.

      It was the thought of losing my kids which eventually got through to me. Yes it was hard, yes I was scared to death, couldn’t leave the house for appointments. Then it dawned on me, well I could walk and get booze and nothing happened, they were all excuses.

      Yes you can get better with the right help, but you have to accept that you need to put in some effort too.

      Im not criticising you, or having a go and I do know how you must feel. However you do need to help yourself

       

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    Can't you Voluntary Commit Yourself for a short stint, you could at least find a starting point. How old is your Son? Are you in a position to care for someone when you are having a little trouble yourself at the moment? 

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