Bartholin's Cyst need surgery what to tell work?! HELP

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Hey guys! I recently found out I have a bartholin's cyst. I don't mid telling my bf about cause well I have to. But I don't want to tell my mom or my work. Is there some sort of surgery I can tell them that i've gotten done that is the same amount of recovery time and that doesn't show when you physically look at me. P.s I already have gotten my appendix out so can't say that I got surgery for that... Any ideas?! I'm 22 and Im just embarrassed about this and I don't want them to know, it's personal but I still have to tell them I won't be going into work for a reason.

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    Hi,

    R u getting the bartholin gland removal?

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      From all the research I have done I think the only way to get it done is to remove it surgically yes. I heard of home remedies but I don't know if this will work. I don't know how bad this thing really is. But I know it doesn't hurt. I don't really feel it when I move but I can definitely feel it if im putting my hands down there you know? 
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    If this is your first cyst, there's no infection or pain, I have a feeling you're going to have trouble finding a surgeon to remove it.  Because the gland area is vascular they consider this a serious surgery.  but if you do, maybe say it's s cyst in yor groin area?  That seems to be pretty close with out lying.  Good luck!
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    So...I am almost 3 months post-op bilat gland removal. When people were nosy and asked...and I didn't really want to tell them...I just said I had a cyst removed from inside my hip joint...others that I wanted to give shock factor to who really kept being nosy I would point blank tell them I had vaginal surgery. Most of the time they were so embarrassed for prying they just said "oh....sorry" and the conversation moved to something else. Most people really don't want to talk about vaginas. Lol!!!! Good luck!!! I found nothing else to work...i tried sitz baths, word cathter, and marsupialization. Thankfully I found an awesome surgeon who was willing to surgically remove them! I was tired of dealing with them and not being able to exercise! The one on my right side was actually so large and deep, it was inside my hip joint laying against the prudental nerves causing nagging hip pain! The hip pain is gone now!!!! Yayyyy!!!! And I am slowly getting back to running and am contemplating a bike ride this week! Yayyyyyyyyyyy!!!! Good luck in your journey!
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      I like the hip joint cyst thingsmile is it hard to remove them or something? Will it always keep coming back? Or I just need to be more careful?! Thank you so much btw you made me less stressful about this
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      Hey girl. First of all, I'm really really sorry this has happened to you. I'm 99.9% sure I got mine from a botched Brazilian wax job );If it isn't hurting you that means it's not infected. If you have a little time try reading some stuff on this topic on this site! Honestly, if it's not infected (that's how mine is) and it's livable (minus having a lump that you/ your partner can feel) my hubs doesn't mind it, but it does make me feel kinda weird, Bc we are women!!) anyways haha if it's not too bad maybe try waiting it out? Not a lot of great modern medicine remedies like the catheter or removal. Just s thought. They aren't dangerous and it won't hurt ya to just leave it, as long as you are okay. I'm 24 btw and very healthy and have a bartholin cyst on EACH SIDE but they only get bigger after / during sex and then go down after I'm not "worked up". Haha sorry for the novel, I've never replied to anyone on here but saw your post and wanted to ease your mind if at ALL possible. Hugs and I'm SO SORRY you're going through this. Xo
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      Yes...they are hard to remove and potential for complications is there since it is a harder area to keep clean and can bleed a lot due to vascularity. Thankfully, I only had some bleeding the first few days...had only a small hematoma which eventually my body reabsorbed. The pain is definately not fun...and I took narcotics around the clock for about 2 weeks...then took them only at night (don't forget that I had both glands removed!). Sitz baths 4x/day helped but in turn gave me a yeast infection a couple different times (took a pill for those) but benefit drginately outweighed yeast infections. Stitches really did take 4 weeks to dissolve...and as soon as they did...the severe pain was gone. Had sex at 6 weeks...definately not comfortable...might want to wait longer for that! And a little KY jelly goes a long ways to help with comfort. I hope to go for a bike ride (my ultimate goal) today...will see how that goes. Direct pressure still is a bit uncomfortable. As a side note...my bladder is now leaking a little. I did have a 4th degree tear during vaginal delivery 14 years ago and now have had bilateral side trauma to those poor muscles! I am going to try a special kegal intravaginal stimulater per request of my surgeon. I am hoping it helps my bladder! As far as the cyst coming back, mine did...as soon as incision to help it drain closed. Mine were never infected. But always there. After trying conservative management, I decided to have them removed! My goal is to get back on my bike...which I never could have done had I not gotten the glands removed. Everyone has different goals. So for me it was the best decision. For some, Having an occasional cyst/infection is no big deal. So in the end, you want to make sure you do what's right for you! I am hoping my intimate relationship with my bartholin glands is coming to an end!!!! I have never talked about my vagina so much to my family and friends and co-workers and strangers!!! I am ready to move on!! I continue to post on here because when I went to find info...there was very little! I hope my experience can help others make an educated decision as to what is right for them! My biggest piece of advice is to make sure you find a good surgeon who has removed these before. They should specialize in it if possible. Mine not only does special gyno surgeries...he also had a gyno/oncologist scrub in with him. They are very specialized in intricate surgeries down there! While I never met the oncologist, I have no doubt he was there and my outcome was so good because they partnered together! Good luck!!!
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      Thanks for getting back to me! I'm glad that if its not hurting then it isn't infected. I guess I'll try some sitz bath maybe I mean it can't hurt to try but I went to Florida for 2 weeks not too long ago and I did notice that it did get smaller cause I wasn't having intercourse since I was away. But I did have chlamydia once not too long ago (very embarrassed) but I did get treated but I don't think it worked? Cause I still notice signs of it. I'll go back to the clinic this week to see what's up and maybe if I do still have it then I can finally treat it right for good and then that stupid cyst will disappear!!? I hope so lol it doesn't bother me at all but I just don't like the fact that it's there lol like you said it's weird :p
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    Had one removed by a urogynecologist.  Find a a female pelvic floor specialist or a gynecological oncologist.  Ob/gyns don't do enough of this surgery.  It's outpatient surgery, but tricky.  I was expecting horrible pain - but was fine after a few days with Motrin.  Expect the worst though, so you'll be prepared.  Desk job - give yourself one week off.  Physical job - 2 weeks off.  It was about 4 months until feeling of tugging went away.  Bartholin Glands are evil little beasts and they flare up at the worst possible time and cause excruciating pain.  Do your research while it isn't infected and make a plan!
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      Idk if those home remedies work. I heard of the sitz baths. I also heard someone bursting their own. She put turmeric spice with coconut oil together to make a paste and applied on the area which made the "pus" i guess inside rise to the top then used baking soda and salt with water I think and she said this burns the skin which made it burst?! This option sounds scary to me though idk lol
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      I'm exactly a week post op for gland removal on the the left Bartholin gland. I also tried multiple times to use different home treatments and the doctor told me last Tuesday when I went in to be seen(scheduled me for removal the very next morning) that putting all the different oils on can actually help to clog the ducts so it will burst then ultimately refill again as the oils are now in there. So I went back and looked at the notes j kept(was told to do so we knew the next plan of care) that he was correct the ones I tried to self were the ones that came back ten times worse the next week or so later. The surgery is painful and you waddle for a few days after. I only used my pain meds for 2 days and have used 600mg ibpro 3 times a day since. My swelling is pretty much there and I do have a hard lump which he said will slowly go away within a month maybe 2 at the longest. If this is a recurring problem and your doctor is someone you trust I would most definitely go they with the removal. I had multiple draining S and 3 marsup done in 10 years if I'd have known this could fix the problem and be not as bad as everyone says I'd have done it years ago! Trust your feeling and what you feel you need. Everybody is different and I noticed most ppl only say all the bad and never the good outcomes. Good luck and hope you get some relief soon!
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