Been in perimenopause for two years now and i haye how it makes me feel n act
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IM SO DOWN ( on mirtazipine) nothing works for me ,i hate how i feel,how i act how i look and just want mecback.
im constanantly on my defence,snapping,moaning,just feelin of imense emptiness n loneliness.
i feel like im doing something wrong all the time,im not myself at all,i dont enjoy much now ,
i feel so ugly/unattractive,fat,useless,i feel like im bereft n that i have lost something but i dont know what ive lost.
i feel empty,shell like n i cant concentrate my heads fuzzy,i just cant function as me as i used to.
if im making no sense ,im sorry but i feel like its making no sense to me.
i am constantly crying ,i am now as i write this ,
i just want to be happy ,n feel like me again
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Finkyb ann19034
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Hi Ann,
please don't be so hard on yourself. Give yourself the grace you would give a friend or family member if they were going through the same thing. Perimenopause/menopause can be tough and relentless and we can often feel we are alone, but us ladies know how you feel. My own emotions are all over the place, at times it feels like I've lost myself or someone else is controlling how I think or feel. It comes and goes and I can't control it. It can be mental torture at times! What I have found helpful is being brutally honest with friends and family about what is going on and they have been very supportive. Relaxation is another important thing, anything that brings a sense of peace or calm. I like listening to ASMR, this isnt for everyone but I like it. I've recently pushed myself to learn new things, reading about something interesting or even watching a documentary. It distracts the mind and keeps it ticking. Also doing things I like such as crafting or researching my family tree. Getting outside in nature can be brilliant, even if you just sit outside and relax. I actually think a good cry can make me feel better, letting go of all the built up tension feels quite good. Whilst we are in the midst of it it's hard to see the way through or the end but we will get there and realise just how strong we are.
All the best to you,
Finkyb