Been lonely for so long that the concept of having someone who might possibly be into me is weird an

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I felt terrible and been anxiety ridden for most of this year and in my life have had very little to no success with dating. Recently a girl seemingly started showing interest in me and some friends have told me it’s obvious. But I’ve been alone for so long that this scares me and I don’t know what to do. It’s like I’ve been conditioned to be used to loneliness. I like her but at the same time i feel so tired and burned out I just want to be left alone. She’ll probably think I’m a loser anyways.

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    hi williamlucas, may I ask how old you are?

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    William:

    I know how you feel. I'm 64 years old and have been single, never been married with no children. I have had anxiety and depression most of my life. I have had opportunities in dating but little success in establishing a quality long term relationship. Because of my psychological history, I avoided marriage because I did not want to have children inherit or develop anxiety and depression. The last woman that I dated was back in 2017-2018 for a few months. But she abruptly ended the relationship.

    Currently I'm seeing a psychologist who feels that I have sold myself short in establishing a serious relationship. But, I believe that God has kept me from getting into bad relationships.

    In your situation, the only advice that I would give is don't give in to peer pressure to rush into a serious relationship. Overall, it's important to have good friendships, both male and female.

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    don't be so harsh on yourself, maybe she's genuinely interested!

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    I'm not sure how old you are but for a certain age group, this sounds pretty normal - having low self esteem, doubting yourself, etc.

    I think that in this kind of situation you might need to summon your courage and experiment with contacting this girl who seems interested in you. If any kind of communication sets in between the two of you, you might consider sharing some or all of the above stated feelings with her.

    Just a thought . . . and good luck to you.

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    I felt terrible and been anxiety ridden for most of this year and in my life have had very little to no success with dating. Recently a girl seemingly word counter started showing interest in me and some friends have told me it’s obvious. But I’ve been alone for so long that this scares me and I don’t know what to do. It’s like I’ve been conditioned VidMate to be used to loneliness. I like her but at the same time i feel so tired and burned out I just want to be left alone. She’ll probably think I’m a loser anyways. Mobdro

    issue solved!!

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