Being black mailed for sexn
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so there has been this older guy that I've Been dating. He also gives me money and takes me shopping. Pretty much like a sugar daddy. Well, I'm married now and he has been threatening me with exposing me to my husband and our families if I don't have sex with him twice a week. The older man did not know I was in another relationship or getting married till after the fact and that's when he started threatening me. So yes, I cheated on my husband with this person and he has given be very nice gifts and has given me money for shopping and bills ect. He claims that what I did was fraud because he wouldn't have given me anything if he had known... But he has known for 2 years now and has just been hanging this over my head. I've been giving into his demands hoping that he would eventually move on but he's now worse than before. He is now demanding I give him oral too or he will tell my family, husband, and my husbands family which would be completely devistating. I have no idea what to do. I just him gone. I love my husband and family and I feel terrible about what I've done and I do not want to get a divorce or my life be completely ruined by his family knowing. It will cause so much distruction people knowing . How do I deal with this monster?
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yournotalone samantha40180
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I'm really really sorry to have to say this, but I feel like this is your karma! Your still proceeding to have sex with him because your scared he's going to tell your husband! This is so disrespectful to him and your children. I know you are only human and we all make mistakes, but you were only with him for his money in the first place, this alone is wrong in my opinion! The only way you can get out of this mess without having to constantly cheat and lie on your poor husband is to come clean and just tell your family the truth, because by the sounds of it, this man has complete control over your body. If you fess up, you can finally be free of the burden you are carrying and you can stop giving that horrible man what he wants. If your husband truly loves you, he will try his best to understand and forgive you. Don't be selfish anymore than you have already been, just tell him.
samantha40180 yournotalone
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Thank you, I know this. I'm trying to see if there are any legal matters that anyone knows of that I can take too.
loo52033 samantha40180
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Bloody hell, she already knows she's done wrong she dosnt need telling of like a mother would tell her young, he's pratically raping her emotionaly , he is taking advantage of her weekness obvs she knows she should have thought about it b4 she strayed but she's human and ppl cheat for reasons other than selfishness then life turns round and she wants to make a fresh start, but he won't let her .
My advice would be ??can you cut all ties with this man block him from socail media change your number and job of you have to ?can you move ?home out of the estate or city , I don't know of this is possible for you but he could be calling bluff how long can u go with out seeing him and see if he does do anythink he may be wanting to keep hold because he loves u in a way so he may be just threatening you, what happened if you say it's over I will give you money back but not sexual favours he may be pretending calling your bluff stay strong because if he would do that most times they don't do it the first time they would Prob scare you by attempting to contact or show up where you all are but not do nothing to bring you back in if this happens Id say you have a big problem and may have to come clean if not he may go away as time goes on, you could always get ?an injunction on him and stop him contacting you too your free to be ??an live free with out being stalked CARNT imagine how scary this must be ppl can turn possessive , so sorry to hear this Carnt imagine how u feel right now xx
samantha40180 loo52033
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Thank you! Yeah I feel terrier and the guilt is awful but what over powers that, is my husband and our life together, which would for sure be over if he found out. His family is good friend with my family and we have all the same mutual friends. This other guy is psycho. He knows everything about my life and my husbands by stalking online. Knows where we work, his phone number his families phone numbers, my family's phone numbers. He follows me on social media because he said if I didn't unblock him he would tell. I don't think he's bluffing because he has even called my wedding photographer when he first found out to see if it was real. It's a mess and I wish I could go back and do it all over. There was once recently he said he didn't want me to suffer anymore and didn't want to hurt anyone and that if I wanted out I could... Well, of course I did and that just p*ssed him off and made him even worse. I've tried offering the gifts and money back but he's the type of person that if he doesn't get what he wants, he has a full blown tantrum and gets evil. I just want to know if there are any legal ramifications for what he is doing or is it just a sick situation.
samantha40180 loo52033
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He also says he loves me more than anyone does ... I've tried to tell him "no you don't, otherwise you wouldn't threaten me" and that just gets him mad.
loo52033 samantha40180
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I don't disbelieve ?he dosnt love you for one minuite
I think he does ppl will do some crazy things when It involves ?love seems like he's tried to keep you with money but now that's old he's using any tactic he can, how old is he and how old are you if you don't mind me asking,??
I think you need to say look my children need me I can not be with you ever , that would be like asking me to choose you over my children which I could not ever do my children come first you have to understand that,! You ??an me can not go on like this you tell him if you need too if that makes you feel better but I will still no longer be a part of your life with or with out my husband, I think you need to be dorm and truthfull if you beg saying it's going to btake me blah blah blah would you do that to me this is what he wants he needs you to want him , to me it sounds he likes the feeling of you asking for his release his ok you begging and pleading it's showing how powerful he is over you, best thing U could do is bare and grin and stay strong tell him what boundaries you have ??an that he's pushing now tell him he's made your thoughts of him seedy and vile and that you are focusing on you more ?an that's with out any connection from him this is good bye my children need me they love me more than any one in this world and that's enough for me sorry do what you have too or want to but this is it!!
Then you wait but in men time loose connection fone wise or however it is he contacts you xx
AchyFace samantha40180
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you could talk to a paralegal or lawyer first, but if you wanted to hide that from your family you would need to make it a cash transaction. people like this guy scare me though...do you really think going through legal chanels (likely the proper way, mind you) would keep your family in the dark?? I'm more with samantha40180 that whatever the turmoil, you gotta come clean with your husband first and foremost and then see where to go from there. best of luck and stay safe.
craig84609 samantha40180
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However you choose to end it be careful as people like this can do harm. Some don't not think clearly and can act upon an impulse. I would stay away from him and end it by phone. Don't see him anymore. Take care of yourself.
loo52033 samantha40180
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Well omg this is a bad situation how the hell does he know so much I mean how can he know you where getting married and how did he know what photographer you where using ? Have you told him to much or is he Infact part of the family in a way! I don't know how you gonna get out of this if he seems he's not bluffing what about getting a fake profile and start stalking him have convos with him torn it back on him arrange to meet him but obviously don't turn up , try side track him from your self, block him on social media and don't speak to him how about trying to get your husband of socail media I don't know how lol just say take a break from it or tell your husband he is stalking U ??an he had gave you money but you haven't slept with him ?see of he believes you how older is the man in question?
samantha40180 loo52033
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He literally stalked my family too. That's how he found out everything . Online... My husband doesn't really go on social media, and now I don't really either. This guy is a psychopath from Beverly Hills. But this guy has years of conversations between us and receipts . He doesn't have any pictures or anything like that. I told the guy I didn't see a future with him long ago. This guy is 43 going on 3. Has tantrums like a little child. And I am 27.
loo52033 samantha40180
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Oh god you really do need to stay away from him your only young you Carnt live like this if your husband dosnt go on social media much delete yours and see what happens what happens if he kills you what then?
You could also buy your hubby a new phone ?an new sim different number as a gift if he has his number ? I know it's hard for you cow he knows a lot does he know where you live tho? If he's mad you might be best informing the police because he could target you at home I hope you can sort this but untill you brake it off completley U don't know what he will do? You need to test the water ??an cut contact completley see what happens if it comes out your then going to have to say he's been black mailing you if he has all convos stored im sure there will be ones of him black mailing you that police would like to see this is emotional abide and this is illegal hear in uk! So I would if I was you cut ties see what happens ??an deal with it a step at a time if he starts contacting you go police put a injunction out on him and get him spoke to if he breaches it go back police the further he goes you go ??an so on it may at one point end up that your husband knows but you can tell him it was a mistake it happened once and since then he has been sending me things stalking me I was scared to tell you , I tried to btake it of ??an he's been black mailing me ever since if your husband loves you he will take your side over any one no matter how hard have you got a mum U can talk to I know you may not want to as you feel ashamed but mums are great , I fee for you im only 28 my self xx