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BETRAYAL

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joanna6270
joanna6270

I was diagnosed with bipolar when I was 19 through out my life I've had good and bad relationships but my recent eight year relationship is now in the balance as today I've found out the man I've trusted with my heart and soul has been chatting to another woman and has been using very explicit sexual innuendo when I confronted him about it he just laughed saying it's just a laugh nothing serious but to me it's deverstating I feel used and betrayed and I'm now questioning every thing about him I love him with all that I am and now feel totally worthless as a woman and a partner I had no idea there was anything wrong with our relationship and I'm now cycling between anger, hurt and self-doubt has anyone else gone through anything similar any advice.

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  • sharon12462
    sharon12462 joanna6270

    Posted

    Hi Joanne the same happened to me too .. but he.d also been calling me names to her.. I split with him it made me so ill.. stupidly got back with him after 5 months of hating myself & him so much. It lasted another 2 years but I started putting up with his same old ways again. So 1 night just bin bagged him & that was the end. . Hardest thing I'd done because I did still love him .
  • joanna6270
    joanna6270

    Posted

    I'm in total melt down even though I know nothing physical has ever happened between them as she lives well over 100 miles away it's just the thought of him being that explicit with another woman :'( :@
    • sharon12462
      sharon12462 joanna6270

      Posted

      Yer I no what you mean I was exactly the same..trust is a massive issue. .I find I have to act on impulse. .& the door it was.. I drank loads ..eventually Gt thr it.
  • BadNewsBrain
    BadNewsBrain joanna6270

    Posted

    bad thing to happen to anyone, and it happens to many if not most western women.  I went through similar experiences before my divorce (wife betrayed me) and understand how devastated you must feel. But I can't see that being bipolar has any direct link to your problems, so maybe you would get more useful advice from a relationship website? Or maybe you are just reaching out for help in the places you usually go to?  I feel for you, and wish you luck
    • joanna6270
      joanna6270 BadNewsBrain

      Posted

      I'm sorry I've not made things clear emotional stress is what triggers my bipolar episodes and right now I don't know up from down I'm so scared of loosing control and ending up in the downward spiral an loosing myself yet again ending up in hospital
  • BadNewsBrain
    BadNewsBrain joanna6270

    Posted

    its hard to focus when you are in a bipolar swing, so I fully understand. Like most bipolars, I've also found that stress from other people and life events is what triggers my worst ups and downs.  Many bipolar people get little or no support from shrinks and doctors (apart from meds) and I've find that having at least one friend/relative who is sympathetic and supportive can make all the difference. I hope you have someone like that? As someone else said here, though its a difficult decision, if things don't get better in your relationship you might want to consider ending it - some people are far more supportive of their bipolar partners than yours sounds. Good luck.
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