Binge Drinking.....think it's time to quit

Considering your partner making a massive effort i think you should stop completely like i did. I couldn't stop and always did binge drinking for many years. Google the c3 foundation and the sinclair method. It will be a great life. Trust me since i am sober for 6 1/2 years. Best of luck my good friend. Robin

I can sympathise as I'm a binge drinker as well and can't stop once I start. I'd love to be able to go out and just get merry like I used to...but I can't. I also have health issues which mean I can't drink heavily. There isn't anything you can do about it unfortunately. The fact that your partner is a non drinker is a good start. Go out and do other stuff. Alcohol really isn't all that!

Does your partner feel the benefits yet of having given up drinking?

I'm not sure how long he's given up for but can you see the changes in him for the good?

I think that if you can see the positives in him then this is the best place to start as you too could feel like him!!

It's not easy but you have a great start as you will both be reading from the same page.

As daisyjo has said 'alcohol really isn't all that' and by giving up with him, you already have great home grown support.

Keep us posted as to how you are getting on.

All the best

Claire xx

Yes, I can so identify with that. I used to feel mortified for the next few days not knowing exactly what I'd done or said. Even in an environment where everyone was drinking I just seemed to go that extra mile and get totally off my face and then, like you say, spend ages trying to justify to myself what I'd done. When people would comment about my drinking 'You must have a headache this morning' - 'Here she is - can't believe how much you drank last night', it would kill me inside but I'd just crack a joke and not learn for the next time.

You can do this - I can honestly say (after 25+ years of heavy drinking) that I enjoy myself so much more without drinking. It's not easy - I still feel like joining in and have just one glass of wine, but I know that it wouldn't be just one. I keep asking myself, what's the point of having one glass of wine, it's not going to make me feel any different but it will put me in a position of having another one and then another, so I don't have that first glass.

Easy to say, harder to do, but, I promise you, it will make such a difference to your life.

So well done for getting to this stage and huge respect to your partner for 6 years sober.

You have the support you need right there in your own home.

Grab it and use it and here's to a new alcohol free you!!

Keep us posted.

All the best

Claire xx

Greetings- I can completely empathize with your drinking and with how you are feeling. I had a huge problem with alcohol myself until I began going to AS. I absolutely hated the thought of the whole AA thing but finally gave in and on September 13th I will have 6 1/2 years sober. I have a ton of new friends who love me and I love back unconditionally. we go to concerts, rafting, camping. Yesturday we had Fellowship day that is a potluck of delicious home made food, bbq and AS meeting at the park. Most of all sobriety has given me myself back. I lost who I was and now I am a sober, dignified women who holds her head high. I love AS now.