Bipolar and current relationship

Matt

You have at least understood by now you need help, although you have not mentioned the types of medications you are taken and any other treatment plans that have been introduced to you.

It is very important you keep taking your medications and any other treatments they are offering.

I do not know what the situation was with your Wife or Girlfriend and why they left you. Bi Polar can be stressful for those around you and it can effect people who are also related to you, it would seem is you can in the future you may need to be remorsful because of your condition.

Hopefully your medications will stablize and you will move on, relationships are your concern and I feel you need to settle and allow your condition to stablize

Depending on you, and taking your medications there is no reason why you should not live a stable life. Again it is important you let your medication work and understand you will most probably be on them for a long time or perminent

BOB

your number one priority is for you to prove to yourself that you can remain stable or era period of time without episodes. Failure to do this will lead to more complications and will do nothing to restore your nelationship. You are currently the most important person. Proof of your ability to remain stable will provide evidence of your desire to remain in the best of mental health increasing your chances of a successful relationship. First things first Best wishes.

I'm on the other end of things, my recent ex girlfirend was diagnosed with bipolar disorder. I can tell that even though it gets difficult, I love that woman so much that no matter what shes feeling or going through I'd want to be by her side. She too asked me the that question after I experienced her first inpatient stay. 

My advise would be to ask her, help her to learn about it and to understand what to look for, and how to help.

I'm fortunate, I have a loving partner who puts up with me. He reads tons about bipolar and knows more than me! He's very attuned to when my moods are off. I love him and he suffers from issues of depression/anxiety and social phobia. I suppose what I am saying is, that we have both decided to be supportive of one another during our off times and on times too. 

I am a nightmare to live with too. At those times I need to be loved more, simply because I hate myself so much. 

Don't be so hard on yourself, you have an illness and have taken the right steps to get help and move forward. I find learning about my moods, apologizing for bad behavior (even though I can't help it) talking through touch episodes I've had help. 

Sometimes I am like an atomic bomb, so when the dust has settled I talk with my partner about it. It is traumatic for him and also for me. 

P.S. 

you are not crazy, you have an illness. If you had cancer would people treat you with sympathy and caring? I'd like to hope so. I hope that you forgive yourself and find peace. 

Hi Jim, your condition is similar to mine right now, lets me begin with my bipolar bf who I living with,

Well my bf who I’ve been with have suffered from bipolar all the girls in his past who he had been with never take him to treat his bipolar coz they love his mania about his money!!! But I think different I try to look up online to see his symptom which occur our relationship so bad and after I found out that he is bipolar then I asked him to have a treatment or end, he accepted my advice and have it treated in Thailand (that’s where we met).

Life is up and down his hypomania become aggressive especially with me who he know that I will forgive him only if he said sorry after he smashed my head with table and fan etc (in Jan 2017)…

On this trip march 2017 he had asked me if he can has ECT done coz he didn’t want to remember all the junk in his head, the doctor in new hospital have interviewed me for his condition which had been on bipo med for 6months but keep swinging like yoyo and of course that had already recorded by police the way he hurt me, the doctor accepted him after me begging for it. So far he had 2ECT sessions done and he refused to continue even though the session gotta be at least 4 with the new doctor and he claimed that ECT treatment is a trap to make people crazy!!?? I heard that everyday!! Nobody is good not even me!! However I would said my bf always wake up with a complained at everyone who in front of him to release his depression and he think like he is one genius never been beaten on earth and now I will try to give him med again and wait til he asking me again for ECT treatment which I think it effective more than 50% and I talk as a normal person who lived with bp man I can see the result better than the bipolar one I’m sure..every treatment at hospital can be painful and I been there but the result of it will make you proud afterward I believe like that.