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Bipolar boyfriend of 1& 1/2 years was kind of giving me the cold shoulder about 2 weeks ago when I was staying at his place. That was new; sure he has been up and down in the past but never aimed his moodiness at me before. I thought things were going great up till then. He text me the next day saying a lot of things are bothering him and he needs time to think and he will let me know when he is ready to talk. That whole weekend I did not text or call him. He keeps playing words with friends w/ me which is slightly weird but okay. He sent me a text on Sunday apologizing bout being so quiet he just has a lot of things to sort out. I said I am here for him when he wants to talk. He appreciated it but just wasn't ready to talk about it, again. He asked me Monday if I would still help him with his taxes. I said no problem. I thought I would go over to his place knock them out in an hour or so then hopefully we could talk about what was bothering him. No such luck. I helped him with his taxes, and then kind of lingered around hoping he would bring things up. So I just said so what’s going on? And he just shook his head & said I am so not ready to have that conversation right now. I said why not, we are both here in person. I don't want to have these discussions over text. He said he did not either but I keep pushing and he is not ready. Which I did not think I was pushing, but maybe so. So I backed off and said okay take the time you need. I was getting so upset and hurt by this time I started thinking I needed to get all my stuff out of his place. So I said I need to get my charger and may as well get my board games etc... I was trying not but was crying a little while I was trying to round up my stuff. And he said I don't know why you think you have to do that right now. I said what am I suppose to think? He said he did not know what to think either. He was not giving me any clue bad or good to what is on his mind about us. I have read articles on people in bipolar relationships and how you should stay present. Don't talk about the issues bothering them but still be present and continue life 2gether. Should I invite him to go fishing or something tomorrow and not talk about those things and just have a good time or should I remain silent until he comes to me ready to talk?
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