blood tests

Sorry you are having such a bad time at work. i really can't help you with the legal side of things but my hubby is going through a similar thing too.

I have 2 autoimune diseases which I have not handle at all well for the last 20 months which has had a dreadful knock on effect with my husband.( I have bad anxiety and depression became suicidal at one point)

Anyway my hubby has been disciplined twice in tha last 6 months for loosing his temper. They have now written to his GP and has to be assessed to see if hes fit for work. Work say hes got autisum, he hasn't he just can't cope with me and looking after 4 kids plus holding down a full time job.

I wish you all the best and I hope things sort themselves out for you.

Just a thought. Hows the pernicious anemia? I had that while I was pregnant it can also effect your thoughts process and moods at times.

Take care.

Lizzy

Sorry andy that your going through this, i don't understand why blood tests are needed.!?

I really lost it on friday at work, i'm normally a placid person think the tablets take the edge off any rage.

Anyway this one bloke who i get on with really got to me, i asked him could he please move his van so i could move my car. He started mouthing off about women drivers and being really argumentative.

At work we have driving tests every 6 month and i always get a god pass.

I really saw red, i asked him what his problem was and that started a massive argument.

He likes to talk down to women which i hate, i wouldn't take my husband talking to me like that so i wasn't taking that from him.

In the end i swore at him and locked myself in the toilet, no one at work has ever seen me so angry think i shocked them a bit !!!!!

I was so angry i couldn't stop crying, everyone came to see if i was ok.

My boss had a go at the bloke for upsetting me.

The bloke said he was really sorry and thought i was gonna get him sacked, i wouldn't do that but i don't think he'll talk down to women at work anymore.

michele

Thanks for your support. I think they want me to have blood tests at this independent assessment as when I have lost my temper on two occasions I was a bit worse for the wear and told it how it was , which I would not normally do as I am a quiet person. So I am assuming they are testing for alcohol damage or something as I am sure when our HR interviewed us all in the office to asses what was wrong these two made me out as a depressed drunk (did I mention they are a couple and if we have more redundancies she is gone because I will be standing in the way because work wise I out shine her in every way so i know they are trying to wear me down on purpose) Also when I went for my interview I was shaking and got a bit tongue tied....alcohol withdrawal.....NO anxiety and wat out of my comfort zone.

I am having this independent assessment tomorrow I am trying to be positive and not think about it at the moment because I do not want to shake and stutter mind you the increase dose has now kicked in so may be I might handle myself a bit better or that might be held against me too.

The pernicious anemia is under control it is a vitamin B deficiency as I can not absorb it in my body (in the family) I had to have the first 7 injections then 1 every 3 months that is why I know my blood test will be ok because they check my levels of everything before the injection. This was picked up Christmas when I had blood tests for everything)

Any way I have waffled on too much it is lovely and sunny outside so going to take the dogs for a walk. have a good bank holiday .

feeling a bit positive today take care

Andy K

Wheres the sun gone?

My hubby is also very good at his job but doesn't suffer fools gladly. I would like my hubby to take the time off sick so that we can all have a rest. But he won't hear of it. 20 are being made redundant this summer.

Michele hows your dad? Not heard from you for awhile? How are the kids looking forward to half term this week. i hope the sun stays out. I use to be a really good driver but now I think twice about taking the car out as my concentration is so poor. Pleased to hear you held your ground tiolets are the best place when you don't want to talk or be seen.A lesson learnt by the bloke you may even end up as friends one day. Last month when I arrived home(car full of kids including German student) I found someone had parked across my drive (we live on a busy narrow main road) to go to the shop 2 doors down. Well I just saw red I hooted on my horn for ages then when they eventually came back to there car they gave me a dirty look so I did some really good finger language and some awful words. Then I stopped I remembered the kids so I turned round and they were all laughing. I wonder if the german student repeated it to her parents.

I use to have my B12 injections monthly( durring my pregnancies) thats the first thing they tested when I became depressed. If they are testing for alchol I'm not sure they can do that.You must ask what they are testing for? HR maybe are looking for something else I know my hubbys appointment is private and they are expecting a full health check. They have also written to the hospital for his brain tumour removal records. I think HR are trying to help you as they want to keep you because you are good at your job. So i wish you all the best for tomorrow my hubbies appointment is tomorrow too.

Enjoy the rest of the day.

Lizzy

Good luck today andy, sounds like someone trying to get you out because of jealousy. Hope you manage to stay in control.

Lizzy, my dad doing great touch wood !! only 6 more chemo's to go then plenty of r & r for him.

Sorry haven't posted for a while, stocktake at work so been working long hours. Exrta money will be nice, my daughters 12th birthday next tuesday. She's having 2 mates for sleepover on saturday so that'll be fun.

My youngest emily is stopping at my mum and dads.

Anyway stay strong both of you.

Take care

Michele

Andy don't panic you can sort this. Just try and keep calm.

Michele I've got a week planned of housework and sleep. Not been feeling too good the new tabs I was given to make me sleep properly at night and give me some pain relief didn't work by the time I got into week two I was sleeping about 4 hours a night and not durring the day as if I was on a high and couldn't come down off it. So in week 4 I stopped and my sleep is just coming back. Go back to see consultant on Fri 5th hope she will refer me to a speicialist in London this time.

Sleep over parties are always a hit especialy when brothers and sisters are not there. Glad to hear your dad is doing ok.

Take care both of you.

Good luck Andy for today.

Lizzy

You two are funny (in a good way)..Michele when you locked yourself in the loo not nice at the time ,but I have done that too when I was out of control But I can really relate to the series o events. Your dad is having a hard time at the moment I have had chemo and I am only 42 (39) at the time and it knocked me for six.

Lizzy it puts a smile on my face and a bit of a giggle about you putting you finger up with your german student in the car, what are you like. How did your hubby get on at his appointment I really hope it went well.

I had my appointment and it was about alcohol abuse ! because of two drunken phone calls. I found this a farce I did a questionaire (favourable) then I told her how I had come to be there today (favourable) I then agreed to do the blood tests (I know will be favourable) I am proud of myself I did not shake, cry or rabbit on unnecessarily. I think that is because it is just all totally a waste of time my work have got completely the wrong end of the stick and I find it quite amusing.

Anyway take care

Andy K

Well done andy for not getting anxious during interview, i'd forgotton that you've been through cancer treatment, that's another thing that links the 3 of us together.

One of the young lads at work is doing a sponsered chest wax on saturday for macmillan. :D i said he should be very pround of himself because a lot of young ones don't give a stuff nowadays, i told him i want to see results though !!!!! :lol: he's 23 and i'm 36 so feel a bit like dorian from birds of a feather. ha ha ha.

The kids are enjoying their half term break, love watching my hubby trying to cope while i'm at work. ( i'm so evil )

It'll be a late one tonight and tomorrow stocktake at work. :?

We have a laugh though.

Hope you manage to get some proper rest lizzy.

take care both of you.

michele x

I'm glad it went well for you. Hopefully that will be the end of it for you.

My hubby went for his appointment you could say it also went well for him too.

The doc he saw is head of the practise. Hes a man that I have crossed words with in the past. On the last occassion which was only 5 weeks ago he told me I couldn't have CBT I'm not a suitable candidate and no I didn't need counselling I needed to go home pull myself together and get on with life.( i would like to add in the last 18 months i have had to contend with overactive thyroid,systemic lupus, fibromalgia, IBs, irritable bladder,child that doesn't want to go to school, anxiety, depression and rats running around inside my house come through from the deralict house next door under the floor. They took 3 months to get rid of.How do you sleep with big fat rats in your house?By the way house insurance doesn't cover vermin so my new 3 piece suite and carpet and cost of rentokil are not covered) Anyway my hubby told the doc why he was there, doc said work were time wasting nothing wrong with him(the fact he only sleeps 4 hours a night is not a problem since opp in 2000) So hes going to write a stern letter back to work.

I just hope work ignor this and have a second opinion. My hubby is fine just working and coming home,I know that we have done it for 6 years, what he can't cope with is when i'm bad as he ends up dealing with everything and hes too tired to do that. I wish I could say I'm better now but I'm not I have had no medication since Feb, I still can't deal with everyday life, I'm depressed a lot of the time as I feel so ill. I still have panic attacks and anxiety attacks. I avoid going out if I can. At the moment I see no end so its not going to be a quick fix.

Michele glad your kids are enjoying half term.My hubby has always been home at about 4pm so that he can spend time with our 4 kids they've got such a good relationship. Its a shame about the weather.

Had a little laugh at work yesterday.Dancing out in the rain.Work keeps me going.

Take care of yourselves some nice weather is on its way.

Lizzy

Lizzy i really don't know what to say, your husband sounds a lot like mine, when i was at my worst he worked 14 hour nights then was doing school run. I really don't know how he did it.

The drs your husband saw sound like complete idiots, i want to use a stronger word but it's a bit early.

You've had so much to deal with no wonder you both need help, i hate it when people suggest pulling ourselves together. :x

Glad you managed to have a laugh at work.

The weather here yesterday was gorgeous, shame i was stuck in work till 9pm last night. My hubby and the kids called into see me so that broke the day up a bit.

It's going to be even warmer today, i'm working 8am till 10pm today, i'll be glad when stocktake over.

Take care both of you.

michele x x

Woken up at 5am to yet another great day.

I hope you are both well.

I'm feeling pleased with myself I have given the cooker a good clean done two loads of washing and taken the lounge curtains down ready to wash next. Half cleaned the bathrooms and now everyone is up and in my way so taken some time to have coffee and breakfast.

I wish you both a good week at work.

Hope your dad is Ok Michele.

Off to work later and the home for a well earned snooze.

Take care.

Lizzy

Hope everyone is making the most of the good weather. I am still not at work and have to wait until my independent assessment comes through. The longer I am off the more anxious I am getting. I have a counceling today so hopefully that might help.

Stay positive

Andy K

I went back to work today after 14mths! I can only go voluntary at the moment as I'm waiting for a third Occupational health assessment - the last one was very negative so I've requested they speak to my psychologist!

It's been a hard morning especially as I've worked there for 20 yrs & I'm not allowed any responsibility for pupils at the moment - that bit has hit really hard today. I understand why it is but it feels like I'm not being trusted especially as it wasn't said to me last year when I was off with a physical illness! Still, it feels good to be well enough to be there, six weeks ago I was ready to hand in my notice!

Remember Andy, stay positive, we can overcome our difficulties it but it takes time I effort & great deal of understanding from management. I've been really lucky in that respect & had a meeting with my head teacher first thing this morning to explain how my symptoms will affect me in school. Not something I wanted to do as I'd rather keep my quirkiness to myself but I think sharing it made returning easier as everyone knows just to ignore me when things get too much.

I hope you get your results soon.

Take care

Rosie

My daughters sleepover on saturday went brilliant, they were so well behaved.

It was her 12th birthday yesterday, can't believe how much she's changing into a young women before our eyes.

My dad only has 4 chemos left, he's getting tired easy but that's to be expected.

My dog woke me at 4am wanting to go out, thank god i managed to go back to bed. Got work today so needed sleep.

Hope you're all ok.

Take care

michele.

My hubby GP still haven't replied to works letter so it would seem even when you pay for it, it doesn't mean it will be any quicker. Some good news he found out yesterday hes not on the at risk list for redundancy thank goodness.

Andy hope life is treating you well. That things have settled down at work for you.

Rosie wish you all the best for going back to work hope things are going well for you.

Michele your daughter must be in the same year as mine, my youngest was 12 in October. When they get to this age they grow up really quickly. Hows your mum is she manageing its really hard to look after someone who is ill especially when they can be difficult.

Todays my big day back to rheumi to see the consultant I hope. Hubby coming with me. Got lots of questions and hopefully I will get the referal to the specialist I want. Then for physio this afternoon, ankle supports next week and the following week a dietition. Its surprising what you get when you kick up a stink.Why do we have to fight for help and support.

Hope you all have a good day today .

Take care

Lizzy