Posted , 5 users are following.
I have been dating my boyfriend for 7 months. Although I realise this is a relatively short time, I felt more connected and in love with him than I ever did with my previous partner of several years.
I thought everything was going great, we had been away for weekends together, spent all our free evenings together, and I was ready to tell him I was in love with him.
Then yesterday completely out of the blue he says we need to have a talk. He said that his head is in a bad place at the moment and he needs some space. I asked what had happened in the last 48 hours for him to say that as only last weekend we had made passionate love and I fell asleep in his arms.
He has a lot going on as he looks after his two elderly parents. Both are sick and his dad has recently had a number of seizures. On one occasion my boyfriend had to resuccitate him before calling the ambulance.
Even though I realised my boyfriend was under stress he seemed to take it all in his stride. I had no idea he was suffering so much until our talk. He never let on that he was feeling depressed or stressed, but I now realise he's been feeling this way for some time.
He said he's not able to commit to a relationship at this time due to his mental state and his ongoing dedication to his parents.
Although I understand why he feels this way I think that he would need as much support as he can get right now, but he is determined to get through it by himself. He wants to be friends though, which I agreed to.
I am very upset though as I feel like I've lost my best friend, I never got a chance to tell him I love him and I'm not sure if I should now. I realise he does need space to get himself back on track, but he made the breakup sound so final, even suggesting I find somebody else which really hurt. ??
I am trying to give him the space he needs but still remain supportive. What else can/should I do?
1 like, 5 replies