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Boyfriend feels no love?

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BoyfriendPTSD
BoyfriendPTSD

Hi everyone. 

My boyfriend has been diagnosed with PTSD.

He often says he feels numb, emotionless, deattached, no purpose, feels bored of life, is flat in emotions. He went through something extremely traumatic some time ago..

He has told me that he struggles to feel love for me (although previously in our 6 yr relationship he used to love me and always express this).

Has anyone else experienced that they struggle to feel love for their partner? I love him dearly and I feel broken hearted, I just want to understand what’s happening..

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  • sam18386
    sam18386 BoyfriendPTSD

    Posted

    Hi boyfriend has ptsd, I don't know your name but I have ptsd through assault sadly but knows how your boyfriend feels a little as ptsd has a set of symptoms which lead to someone diagnosing it. You both need support it's so tough to live with it's nearly split our marriage several times! I feel for you both, it's one of the hardest things to live with I think. Good luck, pull on all the support you can get. You'll need it. X

    • BoyfriendPTSD
      BoyfriendPTSD sam18386

      Posted

      Thanks so much for your reply. 

      Appreciate it a lot ♥️

      He also tries to look for ‘faults’ in our relationship. Before his PTSD, we had an amazing relationship which he was happy with but now it’s like, he finds excuses to why he has to leave, and he’s many times mentioned it’s ‘unfair to me’ as he is a ‘damaged person’

      Why is he trying to look for excuses? I really don’t understand and this is breaking me sad

  • bill78216
    bill78216 BoyfriendPTSD

    Posted

    My partner has broken up with me and has isolated. A week ago I reached out to him asking if he was alright and he replied that he’s fine, however, he’s cant speak to or see me right now. He accepts my apology for an nasty email I sent him a while back and he also said that all was forgiven. Although he’s said this, he still won’t speak to me or text. Although I’ve read about not taking things personally, I still feel as if I said something to make him feel the need to isolated and avoid me. He’s usually a very kind-hearted and sweet guy, but this ptsd has him behaving in ways that I’m not used to. I’m sorry your email going through what sounds similar to my situation and I wish you the best with finding peace.
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