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So I have, well had a boyfriend who suffers from bipolar disorder (unmedicated), We talked on and off for 4 years because he would always randomly leave but then come back. Then we finally started dating and we dated for over a year, we always had some problems because of his mental health but overall we had an amazing relationship and it was obvious how much we loved each other. But despite the fights he NEVER threatened breaking up with me until a few weeks ago.He kept saying he wanted to break up with me but he couldn't do it because he loves me so much. I was heart broken but we got through it and were semi fine. But a week before he did this he was acting so weird with me, just very distant and what not and when I asked him about it he would get mad and defensive. So I just assumed it was his health and I kind of just tried to be extra nice to him and ignore it. But that didn't work. He kept pulling further and further away and I kept trying to love him extra through all of this but then two weeks ago he said that he thinks we need a break. I didn't agree but I figured if thats what he needed to do for himself than I will support it. He said he was going to go get the help he needed and come back to me. And the idea of that sounded amazing to me. But then he said that during this break he was going to talk to other woman. And I was not okay with that. Because if he was getting help to come back to me, why would he want to go talk to other woman? A few hours after we started our break he was already flirting with other girls and when I asked he told me straight up. I got upset about that and he was so apologetic and kept saying he wish he wasn't like this and bla bla bla. Then the next day he was treating me really bad so I was like it seems like you want this to be permanent and not just like a break and he goes yeah maybe that would be for the best and he broke up with me for real. He said he left because he didn't want to hurt me anymore and he just doesn't want a relationship he was "never that type of person" . and he straight up said he never wants to get back together with me. Then the day after he broke up with me he already has a "thing" with another girl. A girl that he started sitting next to in class the same week he started being weird with me? When I say this I mean it that we were doing so good and then all of a sudden he started acting distant and like he didn't like me anymore. The same week he started sitting next to that girl in class? I just don't understand and I don't know what to think. It was killing me so a few days after I found out I said something to him about the new girl and he opened it, ignored it and then blocked me and all my friends and family on everything. Obviously there is more to the story but this is just a brief overview so if you have any questions please ask! I know he loves me I can tell and I know I love him and I'm so quick to blame it on his bipolar disorder beause I've read things about how they always leave and come back. and on top of that his mom got up and left a year ago yesterday so I don't know if he was scared I was gonna leave so he left me first? I don't know I'm just really confused and upset and I need some advice. thank you so much.
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