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Boyfriend in a manic state

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rw79630
rw79630

Hi

My boyfriend is in a really manic state. I don't know if he has bipolar as he's always in denial he has any kind of mental illness but right now he's screaming that he's going to kill my family, he does not stop screaming, he's completely out of touch with reality. I get all the blame (I've just been ill myself with anxiety attacks etc). I have been hiding in the bedroom away from him all day. I don't know what to do but I can't cope anymore 😢

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  • jmcg2014
    jmcg2014 rw79630

    Posted

    Call the police who will take him to hospital,he'll thank you for it
  • tina65315
    tina65315 rw79630

    Posted

    Yes call police if you can and tell them you need help, they'll take him to hospital and get him assessed - safest for both of you and children if theyre also in the house
    • rw79630
      rw79630 tina65315

      Posted

      No children involved but he has gone out & turned his phone off. So I don't even know what to do now 😢
  • wendy85295
    wendy85295 rw79630

    Posted

    Hi there.  Please, you must call the police, especially after threats of killing family after the horror stories in the media lately.  They will find him and take him to a place of safety and have him assessed and like jmcg said, he will thank you for it after this is all over.

    Wendy

     

  • BadNewsBrain
    BadNewsBrain rw79630

    Posted

    You are experiencing criminal domestic abuse - mental abuse with the threat of physical abuse. Most bipolar people are not aggressive or violent, and if he is bipolar (he could have various mental disorders, or none) it is his decision to respond to his internal mania by being aggressive and threatening to you or others. Like anyone, I would need to know a lot more to give sound advice, but my advice is to separate from him (you got somewhere you can go? do you have kids?) until he agrees to see a health professional to find out whats wrong with him. You should also contact your own GP or other heatlh/helping professionals, tell them your situation, and get these events documented and get immediate advice on what to do. Good luck.
    • rw79630
      rw79630 BadNewsBrain

      Posted

      Hi thanks for your reply.

      Yes I did think he could control the aggressive side! I don't have children & he's been to the doctor just on a waiting list to see a psychologist. I'm also going through anxiety attacks and depression myself so this is hard. He didn't sleep again even after being prescribed sleeping tablets x

  • charlie79548
    charlie79548 rw79630

    Posted

    Hi RW,

    A couple of things. First, I hope your partner is getting better and you're both ok!

    1) First, keep yourself safe. I'm bipolar, and manic episodes can be extremely dangerous. You need to check your partner to see if he has 'insight'- if he's lost control and doesn't realise what he's doing, you need to keep yourself safe.

    2) I'm pleased to read he's been referred. Has he seen a psychiatrist before? A psychiatrist will be able to prescribe medication for him.

    3) This one is important. If your partner continues to behave like he has, then first ask him to go with your A & E. There he will be seen by a psychiatric nurse, and a decision will be made about whether he needs to be hospitalised (sectioned) or can wait to see the psychiatrist. MH services in the UK are nutoriously dreadful due to lack of funding, but if he is clearly psychotic and out of touch with reality, the chances are he will be hospitalised for his own good and the good of everyone around him. If the above fails, call the police immeadiately. They will take him either into custody or a 'Place of Safety' or a Section 136 suite, where he will be seen immeadiately by a doctor, and either sectioned or let go, depending on whether there was any criminal behavior involved in his being arrested. 

    4) Above all, keep yourself safe. Mania can be dangerous as I said above and, whilst 9 times out of 10 it can be managed, don't take chances that compromise your own safety. 

    I hope the above helps- please comment when you have more info so we know you're both ok!

    Charlie

    • rw79630
      rw79630 charlie79548

      Posted

      Hi Charlie thanks for your reply.

      My boyfriend was sectioned on Sunday and taken to a hospital 300 miles away. I can't see him and can barely speak to him. He's still very unwell and could be in hospital for 3 months.

      I am struggling to cope on my own. My anxiety is really bad (woke up at 4 very anxious)

      Thanks

    • BadNewsBrain
      BadNewsBrain rw79630

      Posted

      RW - are you on meds? Sounds like you might benefit from a short course of sleeping pills and/or benzodiazepines until you are feeling better (you don't want to take these for too long, they are more habituating than heroin). Do you have friends/relatives you can talk to about your problems? If not, you should seek counselling/therapy - bottling this stuff up will make your head fizz ... good luck, and keep strong. I hope your boyfriend gets better, for himself and you.
    • rw79630
      rw79630 BadNewsBrain

      Posted

      I was on citalopram but it made me worse so I stopped. I got prescribed lorazepam so not sure they'd give me anymore (I've finished the ones I got given) as before my boyfriend was sectioned I had depression and anxiety which did begin to get better... Then my boyfriend got sectioned and it's all come back sad

      My family live 200 miles away and I really don't want to tell them about this as they wouldn't want me to be with him.

      I am speaking with friends which helps.

      Thank you, I really hope he has a fast recovery x

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