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I'll try to keep this as short as I can. I am in a very new relationship (4 months) with a man (he's 30) who moved here about 8 months ago. Right about when he met he was promoted to a mangerial position with his job and ever since then things have gone downhill for him. I should also mention he lost his parents in the most horrible way imaginable about 7 years ago and clearly suffers from PTSD. He told me he saw a psychiatrist once for it and never returned because he thought it didn't help.
Dating him was great until about a month ago when it became clear he was growing unhappy with his life. A week ago he sat me down and tearfully explained that he's feeling adrift, that he hates his job, where he lives, and doesn't know what to do with himself. Since then I have been incredibly anxious - frankly I don't know how a man like that can maintain a relationship, so naturally I am very worried he's going to break up with me. But I am much more worried about him.
Last night while I was asleep he called me twice. My phone was on silent so I didn't get them. He left me a voicemail in which he said that he had been hoping to talk to me, that he was "hanging by a thread on the edge of a cliff," and doesn't know what to do anymore. We spoke briefly this morning before he went off to work, and agreed to talk about this tonight.
Depression is not new to me, I have several family members who suffer from it. However I have never had to deal with it in a relationship, much less such a new relationship. How can I best help this man? I know I can't fix his problems nor can I make him seek help... I would just like to know some tips for being the most supportive person I can to him right now. Also, I am quite concerned he may be suicidal - he has admitted he was suicidal back when his parents died, and has also informed me that several men in his family have died by their own hand (including his father), so he has a familial history. Can I come right out and ask him if he is feeling suicidal or is that a bad approach?
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