Bra Straps!!!!! Ouchie!!!

I wear tee shirt bras as I can't wear normal bras...

they are like £9 for 3 from eBay x

me to when i need to .but most of the time  i dont because any pressure is painful .

Thank you, I think im too busty to successfully wear T shirt bras but im willing to try anything at the moment!

that can be a problem luckly i am only medium sized bust .

Thank you Loxie, just checked them out and read the reviews etc, they look comfortable but arent really suited to the bigger-busted, i might get one to try around the house though xx

LOL xxxx

ooh yes, they look comfortable and supportive and have cushioned straps, i will be buying one of these shortly.

I guess if all else fail..you could always cut the straps and put your own on...:-) xxx the lady that wears them to bed is quite well endowed..they have little inserts too, so you can move them around to make the outside look good...even smaller..I do that..

Thanks Christine, Im thinking of inventing my own

iv brought a front opening bra in desperation but even this is tricky because its a kind of rounded hook that slides inside a tag thing on the other side ,which is trcky for me to do .

i was looking for one with a clip that you just snapped together when you cant get out to the shops much and have to relie on rebay its not easy to see ah bras are ok if you can hold your arms above your head which i cant do for long .

tell you the worst things to try and get into those those slimming shorts torcher .

what we need is an ah bra with front clip 

Amen...:-) xx

yes AMEN 

Here's a photo..so you can see who your chatting to..:-) xxx

his the latest one i have of me you have to add about aniother 6 years i think ,i really cant remember excatly , to be honest i prefer not to .

iv just been out to put food out for the birds in the back and front gardens ,that will proberly be it for my out door entertanment to day ,its turned quite grey and cold ,it was cold and sunny yesterday.

my husband i s at work in york as a train driver , it seems strange to think that 5/10 yrs he will be due for retirement  depending if he takes early retirment or not ,i said not ! 

i wish i had a job to retire from spent my life bringing up my kids with all hopes dashed of finding ajob when my son was diognosed with Aspergers syndrome and was never in school, 

i also have Aspergers syndrome but it effects girls differantly to boys. iv muddled thru life trying to fit my square peg brain into other peoples round holes.

girls also have better communcation skills in general to and this also spreads across into Aspergers , 

at 55  i often wonder whats left for me now in life with not only Aspergers but fibro as well ..and i feel like iv failed .when i look at two of my brothers who have made something of there life .one living in the south of france and one an airline capt

,.i hate this bloody condition its turned me into a moaner instead of somebody who does .its like wearing a deep sea diving suit with one of those big helmets on everyday,. just trying to do normal day to day things . hope you willl have a good day today sorry for the winge .

i think i will have breakfast 11.30am and watch one of my comedy dvds .and maybe try out some of my new kareeoke discs this afternoon .

i have a fun person trapped inside this rotten fibro body somewhere . 

i have also added a school photo from 66 of me and my kid brother in front ,of some brothers in our school hall, and one of me aged 2 in mayla.i think i wanted to be sandy shaw i hated wearing shoes . 

Lovely photo, you look so kind.

Lovely pic! Dont worry too much about the "wasted life" thing, i think we all feel that way a bit at least. I have dyscalculia ( cant do anything with numbers, no sense of direction, time etc) To say its held me back is a bit of an understatement, i have felt stupid and incompetent becuase of it and it wasnt until I was diagnosed that Iaccepted that Im not stupid at all! So difficult when you are taking a meeting, which you have a complete grasp of and someone asks you what time it is and you look at your watch and cant answer them, or a simple calculation which you get wrong totally throws you! We all could've had different lives but we have to make the most of what we have . xxxx hugs xxxxx

 

You haven't failed! Listen to Christine in Australia, who's had FM for over 20 years, and says that staying positive and stress free is the key! Hope you enjoyed your DVD, and karaoke. Love the photos by the way. x

it is hard when you have done nothing in your life to be proud of . 

i do try very hard to stay positve i will always get out of bed everyday no matter how bad i feel , iv had it now for 10yrs . iv no friends because i cant do what people do these days like pubing etc.

my marraige is on the rocks , and bennifts is probarly going to end in a few months which is going to put even more starin on me and my mariage . its rather hard being stress free when things arent good .in a relationship . and his going to have even more control over me .

at least now i get some relief with my accpunture and pain  lotions with out my bennefits this wont be available option to me and i will be even more depressed .and in even more pain .

your right hun, but its very hard when my mum favours the boys becasue they are succesful ,we dont talk anymore becuase i got fed up with her putting me down , all the time . my youngest brother whos the airline capt dosent talk to us either we just to low down the social ladder for him and his wife ,

wasnt even asked to his 40 birthday  . any body would think we were barly civalised the way he treats us ,   i  s aid the last time we spoke 6 yrs ago . we do eat with knives and forks you no ..he never used to be like it only since he got on . any way . who said life is fair .

my kid brother the one who lives in south of france cant read pop backwards spelling is awful but his rebuilt a 15th centray french farm house .himself . except for the legal stuff his not allowed to do .

 

i look like a mug hun the only people drawn to me are needy people i do my best to help then as soon as there on there feet they bugger of and i am on my own again ,its seems i am only good enough when no one wants to know .theres never ever anyone around for me . 

i keep saying i am not doing it again but along comes someone eles and i find myself half killing myself trying to help again . why cant i just say NO .iv been like all my life i can t remember a time i havnt been trying to help .

Oh tiswas, what is your name, I can't call you that! I'm so sorry you have so many problems, and I wasn't trying to tell you to 'pull yourself together' before. You do seem to have more than your fair share of aggro in your life, and some families are just like that. As the saying goes, we can't choose them. You say your benefits are probably going to end in a few months. I think you mentioned before that you will be changing from dla to pip. Do look at the website I mentioned before. I found it sooo helpful. How many children do you have, and how do you get on with them? Are they off your hands or still at home? Sorry this is beginning to sound like a questionnaire! I just want you to know that you have friends on the forum who are interested in YOU and you are not alone. We are all here to support you. I have to go to bed in a minute; I'm knackered! Night night. x

i know you didnt mean anything by what you said hun dont worry i am not as sensistive as i used to be. 

my given name is tina ,but i hate it, spirit gave me tian and i prefer that i think in asia it means child of the moon or something simuliar . 

i have 3 kids all grown , one has RA and i dont hear from her or see her 

because i told her she was wrong to be having an affair behind her partners back , she fell out with me ,but wrong is wrong with me i dont make exceptions jsut because there my kids .

my middle one is 27 got a council flat ,and a job so she is now doing ok but weve had a lot of stress with her , 7yrs with aboyfriend with  voices in his head sorry cant spell the condition

, she s got a council flat after 3 months in a hostle , and it cost us mostly me a fortune getting her stuff because she was only on £116 a week part wage , luckly shes got full time job now ,but its down on the front in scarborough in arcarde and sometimes she dosent finish till 11pm and shes got walk home . its all worry , 

my son is still at home aged 24 with Aspergers  and no hope of a job unless he gets support from social services but as long as his a roof they dont seem that interested in helping .

i worry because i am not going to be here for ever , what happens to him then .when he cant work because he has no social skills .

all he needed was special needs colleage were he could learn to live independently but he was turned down its so unfair ,he could work and be useful instead his thrown on the scrap heap . and forgotten about .

Hiya ! Loved the photos...I remember one of me like that  when  I first started school in England, I think I was 6 too...memories...please try and be positive precious...you sound so very very sad..you are not alone in this,.remember that..we all see each other through..not see through each other...we can't really understand your situation but we can be there for you..these rotten thoughts will subside...unfortunately we all have horrible testimonies and it's times like these that we all do need each other...I am a practicing Christian and if it wasn't for that and the wonderful care and support  we have had over the years I just don't know what we would do..especially reading the bible...which tells me ' not to worry..because that changes absolutely nothing..and isn't that soo the case..,we can spend so much of our lives worrying about STUFFF, that changes no outcomes at all...and we have given the issue or stuff a good part of our lives worrying...just really want to encourage you..I'm certainly not preaching to or at you,  really feeling for you..you look beautiful in that photograph....no one ever said life was going to be easy...it just looks like that that for some, but if you scrape the surface you'll find out there are plenty of stuff/issues in peoples lives that look great on the outside....chin up..half full glass and all..I know that this is just one of those times for you...you are such a wealth of help and knowledge and encouragement for  soo many people on this site..including me.. I will be praying for your issues and expecting a breakthrough...we all love you on here...you are a wife, mum, a daughter, a sister, and aunt and probably more.. THAT is important..no matter what issues go with that...so don't bring yourself down..others do a good of that IF YOU LET THEM..I learned long ago not to take on board others attitudes., but not actually carry their attitudes or offences, my Boundaries are put in place  at my will not others..and I choose to move them when I deem is necessary..hope you have a really positive day...and remember that those beautiful birds you feed...wouldn't be around if you never bothered...and that is worth being positive about alone..even if you you think of just one little positive in your day...makes you feel worthwhile..I do this..it really works..bless you..:-) xx

PS..people are drawn to you because of your beautiful caring heart....needy they may be, but they see your heart...love and show your care for them but keep your boundaries in place..:-) xx

What Christine said! She says it all so eloquently. How are you doing today hun? I have to mention one part of Christine's advice particularly; when I've been very low, I've tried every night to think of three positive things that have happened in my day, even something as simple as: had a cup of coffee that I especially enjoyed. Or for you it could be: managed to feed the birds today. It can be anything you feel positive about, however small. It really helped me. Are you taking any antidepressants? Have you seen your GP about how you are feeling? There is help out there, and all of us on here. x

due to being Aspergers as well as fibro i am very  sensistive to meds .

i even have to be careful if i take a pain killer  

i think theres something hormonal going on as well as fibro iv noticed my leg hair and under arm hair has only grown back a couple of days worth in two months , i bang myself really badly and although it hurts like hell theres no bruise this is playing on mind ,my bowels have slowed up as well .

dont want to go back to doctors because they make you feel so negative when the first thing they say is what you doing about your wait , 

i felt like saying swap places with me sunshine have the pain and crushing fatigue 24/7 and see how you feel about doing excessive excersise . because thats what it needs diet alone wont shift wait iv tried several since i have had fibro and stuck to them nothing moves ,

i went to ask him about these new symptoms and having blood test i managed to get the blood test booked but i canceld because he had upset me so much i didnt want go back.

now i am afraid to rebook .he is always trying to push pills on me with side effects as long as your arm, he just dosent get how sensistive i am to meds , even before fibro i had to have weekly iron injections for 16yrs because oral iron gave me banging headaches nausea and diroeeh .

but you just cant make them see ,i feel vunerable and intimdated by them.

Maybe you could change your GP? They aren't all like that.  I do feel for you Hun. xxx

yes there are at my surgery , its a retiremnet town and there used to old folk going along and doing as there told without questions 

i learnt after servere reaction to antibiotic some years ago to always ask questions .they dont like that .and theres only one surgery here.

i always say never again then i fall in the trap again .

all i want is to be happy ,but everything seems to conspire against me.

when my son went to school i was all set to go to colleage that didnt happen because they couldnt cope with him in school . 

when i had my hyesterctomy i though great  no more weekly iron injections 

woke up with the most horrid back pain ever  i couldnt straghten up they had done my disc , i couldnt even get a painkiller i spent four nights sleeping in a chair unable to lie down , when i got home i had to have top iron injection , which i may remind you i had had for 16yrs and knew how painful they were , the 2nd nurse that came out to do them nearly crippled  me giving the injection out side the 5 finger span .

so to be honest iv given up trying to think positive it dosent seem to get me any where.  i think some are just doomed from the word go ,no matter how hard they try .

Tina, really feeling for you right now ,.maybe if you stopped eating sugar...( if you take it, that is)..not food...just sugar, give up anything with sugar in, it just amazed me how much sugar-which is really bad for you, is in everything that is processed, I gave it up a couple of years ago now, it's amazing..did it for health reasons but the weight just dropped off...I was truly amazed....just a thought...how horrid your doctor is...mmmm...can't you tell him off..it's your health not his..he actually works for you, when you see him....terrible stuff..I realise it must be very hard living in a place where there is only one surgery..maybe that's why he can be soo smart to you...can't you report his behaviour...or at least threaten to expose it to the media??wow!!! How shocking..hope you have a stress free positive week.it's Monday morning here, I'm just off to have some hydro therapy-my style...really thinking of you and praying for you..:-) xxxx

if you report them then you get agravation from the surgery 

iv cut down on sugar , saving 2074 calories a week for 10 weeks now still no differance in weight . 

i am not big into sweets biscuits or cakes and i dont eat tinned or packet food . i am not perfect  but i am trying i still cant drink tea with out sugar but i have cut down .by using organic cinnamon . 

id love a hydro bath we havnt a pool that i can get to .but my own hydro bath would be amazing .i hope to have one some day . wishing you a happy week .

Wow!! I would just keep on reporting them...they would have to end up being nicer, surely...even if their just afraid that you may report them again.grrrr .as if you don't have enough problems...I just a Quit sugar all together..not for weight but for health-I found out what it actually does to our bodies..especially us with autoimmune issues...then the weight loss just happened..what a bonus..I never had sugar in my tea..but I just went off it anyway, I drink de-caffeinated coffee now .  I was really shocked at how much sugar is in low fat food and light milk..mmm...they drop the fat and put in extra fructose or sucrose..very sneaky. Eating fat-..it is Impossible.for.fat to make you fat. Now that just goes against everything I was taught growing up.. You could always use honey in your tea as a sweetener, but don't use those little sweeteners..there potent..anyway..there are sooo many alternative foods to eat that are sooo like what your used to..  Hard convincing people of eating Pakeo...it just goes against everything you ever thought was right...but this is a very unhealthy world we live in...so something is definitely not working for us....:-) xx

 

honey is still fructose which is bad in large amounts . i havnt touched sweetners ever . i was a lot healther when i was drinking full fat milk

but i listened to the rubbish they spelt about low fat milk being better

but like u said its just rubbish . iv made it back to semi milk but cant stomach full fat any more  although i can in coffee  maybe i start drinking full fat milk in decaff coffee. 

and low fat foods have always been a no no has to be replaced with something and that something is sugar and salt .

iv always loved meat fat and butter and always feel satisfied after eating it .fat less meat is harder to digest and tougher ,and normaly tasteless 

as you know .

That's it isn't it..we feel full when we eat real food..that we were meant to..your right about hobey, but if it's real organic honey it's better for you...many recipes use honey or organic maple syrup instead if the sugar..trouble is too, anything called organic us just sooooo expensive..but it works if you use it sparingly...I make no cook cookies out of coconut and dates in the blender..very sweet too but much more healthy..I don't make them anymore now that my grandson has grown up....I just give him stone fruit, which is very low in fructose as is Cantelope and many other fruits..there is just soo much to this..:-) xxx

Hi Christine, what's Pakeo? x

Sorry Jeanne, it's PALEO...grr to my arthritic fingers at times..google it..you will be amazed...it's basically high fat...low carbs..I eat nothing processed at all...no bread, no pasta.  No sugar either-it's really a killer..  Actually no grains, no flour...etc..you must google it..BUT there is soo much more to take their place..it's really an eye opener, it does take some people time to adjust..I had to throw nearly everything out if my pantry and start again..wow! I don't even fill a shelf now..there is also an Autoimmune Protocol, but I don't need that...the ordinary Paleo is fine for me....weight loss is a huge bonus but it's sooooooo healthy..I make Kefir and Kombucha too -probiotics etc...just google them. Please let me know what you think after you've looked into it...it's my grandmothers way of eating really- that simple..:-) xxx

Excellent idea,please design one for us

Thanks Christine, I will google it now. :-) xx

Lol..if only ...I reckon I woul become  a millionaire just by Fibro sufferers alone..have a great day Anne..:-) xxx