Can anxiety and depression make you feel like you don't love someone?

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I have been with my partner for over three years. We lived together in uni but because of covid we had to separate. Being back at my parents house has been incredibly difficult for me. I started feeling the effects of it months before I had to move back and it has effected our relationship.

over the past fee weeks i have had a voice in my head questioning if i still love him which is making me feel incredibly guilty and distressed. He's my comforter and he is so special to me there is no way I don't love him. When anything happens in my life he's the first person I want to tell, he is my everything but the internal voice is very loud and persistent.

however i have stopped seeing a life or future outside of my parents home. i feel trapped and im unsure if that is causing this. i want the be living with him again but worry these thoughts won't go away.

i just want to know if these feelings are normal for people with poor mental health because i cannot see a life without him in it but i feel terrible for these thoughts.

any help you can provide would be really appreciated thank you!

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    what you’re going through is very common with depression. Right now I would suggest that you work on your mental health and your living situation. When those two things are doing better then you will feel better about your relationship. Depression is like a dark cloud and once that is lifted you see things in a different way. none of this is your fault. So many people had their mental health affected from 2020. Things will get better and just look at this as a small snippet in your lifetime. Take care

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      thank you for taking the time to reply! I have managed to get out of the house for a short time but it is only temporary and i already feel so much better.

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    Hi. i can understand those negative thoughts that make you rethink the status of your relationship. been married nearly 20 years, and believe me it's hard sometimes to feel 'in love.' my wife and I might have a fight, and I will envision us divorced. we even talk about divorce sometimes, but when the dust settles, we make up and talk through it. I guess what I'm saying is, if you are feeling your relationship is heading into rough water, try to ride it out, and talk through your feelings using 'I' statements. relationships are hard. covid has thrown everything off balance, and living with parents, no matter how great they are, will take an emotional toll. try to dispel negative thinking.

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