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Can I speak about him or is it mixing things up?

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sam18386
sam18386

I don't know what I do for the best, please help? I have regular counselling for PTSD but my dad's death is also a massive and for me a very poignant issue. If I mention this do you think it would be OK? I feel this counselling is to do with the past issues I had, but should there be any hard and set rules? Will she push me away? So worried as professionals have pushed me away in the past!

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  • borderriever
    borderriever sam18386

    Posted

    Your past issues can affect issues that may have happened later on.

    There are rules that are laid down at your first meeting, although it may be flexable

    The main problem may be the running out of time in the UK and you MAY be pushed to start another course of treatment. This will in some instances be fixed

    If this is the case there are organisations not attached to the general pathway, your GP or Therapist may suggest a further way forward, they can include Day Centres, that do a restricted amount  of CBT, generally they may be willing to give you six sessions.

    Some centres are well established and run Day Centres. You could try MIND and SANE on the web they MAY have suggestions. The same applies with the Council, they may know where these centres are located. The Library may also help

    BOB

    • sam18386
      sam18386 borderriever

      Posted

      Thanks for your reply Bob, I have already been told I can remain seeing this counsellor for up to 2 years. I am lucky really. I am still really struggling though, my dad is deeply involved in the middle of this issue, I just don't want to mix up different issues that's all but maybe it will be OK. I still hate seeing this counsellor, the issues I am discussing are so difficult. Don't know how long I can tolerate this for, scared to death and getting worse.

    • borderriever
      borderriever sam18386

      Posted

      Sam

      We are here for you if the need arises, When young my Father was a cruel man and the problem I had to discuss my health was really rough

      If you do not like the CPN it may be possible to change, we are all different, Different Folks, Different Strokes come to mind. We have problems making friends to get on with, a Therapist is a forced relationship and can be problematic, She may feel the same way. Give the relationship, professional, time to work

      Good Luck

      BOB

    • sam18386
      sam18386 borderriever

      Posted

      I've never had a cpn at all, I only have a counsellor. She is good but I need someone to back my health to ensure I get there. My doctor won't so I now give up!

    • borderriever
      borderriever sam18386

      Posted

      Sam

      I do not know your age and if you have a Social Worker for your Mental Health problems. Also Age concern may be able to help. You may be able to get help from those people.

      When I need assistance my wife is my carer, and if we are stuck one of our next doors will also help if I need a Sedation.  Although they do put ambulances and cars if it ia a hospital appointment.

      Sam if married can your Partner help.

      I remember when I was at my Day Centre sometimes someone may help you get in for your appointment.

      In my case they will try and make appointments at my home, that may be an alternative, if you have a team to look after you in the early days

      We live out in the countryside and it can be a problem if we cannot drive.

      I still need to visit dentists for check ups or glasses.

      Have a word with your Therapist there may be ways to help you attend or meet at home

      BOB

       

    • sam18386
      sam18386 borderriever

      Posted

      Hi Bob, what a mistake that was! The fact that I missed my dad just meant my counsellor said I should be speaking to someone else. I tried to explain that I have and tried to explain that something new and recent had triggered those feelings. I just feel utterly confused! Am I not allowed to miss my dad.
    • borderriever
      borderriever sam18386

      Posted

      Sam

      Sometimes Bereavement  needs a Specialist Counsellor . you mention  something new,? could She not try and address your  related problem and move onto Bereavement. ? It seems a bit ham fisted.

      When did your Father Die ?.

      BOB

    • sam18386
      sam18386 borderriever

      Posted

      Hi borderiver, I have already had bereavement counselling for my dad's death. I am just having a tough time at the moment due to something that has happened very recently. I am not really speaking about my dad to this counsellor but you can't predict when these issues arise. My dad died 6 years ago I discuss it with lots of people. I am more shocked that my counsellor presumed I was incompetent! I am just a touch confused and upset by this. I am 44 and female by the way and have NO other support!

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