Can menapause make you feel so poorly?

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I have never felt so poorly . Feeling sick and bloated every day . I get pains everywhere, have little or no appetite. So very tired and spaced out . Anxious and emotional . Just want to sIeep all the time ,hoping i will better when i wake . I've worried myself sick over the past few months thinking my number was up . Lol. Reading all the comments on here has made me feel much more positive knowing I'm not the only one . Thankyou ladies

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    Awwwww sending big hugs x ifctgeres one time you need to be strong it's this! The ladies on here are amazing and without them I would be a mess...so stay with us and be strong it's some ride! 🙂💖

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    Yes it does make you feel poorly, I'm in perimenopause and some days I also feel my numbers are up... So much for us ladies having to suffer all these hormones issues. 

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    Yes it can and yes many many days I've felt I was dying 

    Most horrible feeling 

    I've been ten years in Peri didn't get a period for a whole 12 months and I thought great at least I'm transitioning into meno but... had a lump on my thyroid and had to have half my thyroid removed six weeks ago

    Guess what got a period day after surgery😩 Absolutely gutted 

    Saw my gp who wasn't concerned saying it could have been the stress of surgery and my thyroid trying to balance out

    I'm so so fed up with feeling like any day now something terrible will happen 

    I won't list my  symptoms because I have every single one and then some

    Just been put on beta blockers for palpitations it's all back with a vengeance and I thought I was coming out the other side

    Stay connected on here the ladies are amazing and have kept me sane  x

    By the way had two ECGs since surgery both good but the palpitations have reared their ugly head

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    I console myself by thinking what it must have been like for women in days gone by when they didn't have any treatment choices. What we have today is choice - we can choose to tough it out, choose to have HRT or, if we are not keen on HRT we can try BHRT. We have so much information and we can choose based on that. When my mum and aunties had their menopause they were all automatically put on HRT - the risks were not known then, so that could not make an informed choice like we can. Actually, come to think of it, in days gone by I would already have died in childbirth (emergency C section). 

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    Yes...   I'm tired and spaced out all the time..  I absolute hate it!!!   Anxious too. I tend to worry about the kids then I tell myself to stop the anxious feelings.  Will I ever have a normal life again?   I literally just want to hid at home whenever I can.  

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    Hello Samantha,

    "Absolutely" is the quickest answer I can give you.  I have the same feelings and I am dealing with them right now.  I will be 47 in a few months and have been in perimenopause for several years.  It can be so overwhelming.  I have always had a bit of depression, too, so coupling the wicked perimenopausal symptoms with a mind that can be down from time to time is extremely debilitating.  For the last few weeks I have found it very difficult to accomplish even the simplest of tasks.  I have been dealing with a an extremely long, heavy period after not having one for 65 days.  I feel tired and hot.  I feel like crying all the time.  I'm bloated and I feel sluggish.  It just makes you feel not at all like yourself!  It's really scary.  Also, I have probably had nearly every symptom on the list at one point or another.

    I recently went to my doc and told her about my symptoms and how I was feeling.  I thought she would be surprised by the things I was telling her...my long and unpredictable cycles, the extremely long bleeding I was having (this doesn't happen to me very often--maybe once or twice a year), the hot flashes and feelings of being out of control.  Her simple answer was this: this is perimenopause.  I still need to complete additional hormone tests, but I do know the reason I'm feeling this way is because my hormones are unbalanced.  This is completely normal and part of the process.  That is what I have to keep telling myself.  There are many traditional and natural ways to feel better.  It is a bit of trial and error, but I do believe it will happen.  I may consider bioidentical hormone therapy, as one of my options (I'm reviewing the pros/cons of this therapy now).  I am also taking vitamin D and magnesium supplements, as suggested by my doc.  Some light exercise will help, too.

    I wanted to write back to you to let you know you are not alone in this.  Everything you're feeling is very, very common.  What you are feeling is a normal part of the transition.  I am so grateful for this site and for all the candid stories these ladies are willing to share.  Hang in there.  Try not to worry (I know easier said than done) and take care of you!  This will pass and you will feel better.  Hugs!  --Sarah

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      Hi Sarah

      Thank you for your advice . I have never experienced anything like it . It seems every day there is another awful symptom. I was prescribed HRT but couldn't cope with the negative thoughts I was experiencing so I came off it .I have been going through this for almost 10 years ,the last 3 years have been terrible . However finding this site and hearing others suffering too , all the advice and support has really helped me . Thank you so much to everyone who replied , shame we all can't get together for coffee and cakes 😊. Thank you once again

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    yes I too feel how you do, I get very annoyed with it as what a waste of our lives feeling like this - perhaps this is why people never used to talk about it to put us off, its the worse thing going in my opinion so far and ive had a few other painful health issues in my life which are nothing compared to this.  accepting this is how it is for now will help and it will pass soon....................
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      Yeah, I thought - that is another secret they keep from us women, like the pain of childbirth! However, I have said this before, my mum and my aunties were all automatically put on HRT. That was the done thing back then. So they had no idea what perimenopause was, or menopause, so they couldn't really warn me could they. And my grandmother - well, I think that generation just bore it with a stiff upper lip, Dunkirk spirit and all that ... Our generation is more likely to say - no, I don't accept this debilitation in my life, what can I do about it.

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