Can someone help me please.

Last week I was referred to psychiatric services by my GP who has been treating me ever since I went on his books 2 years ago ( my previous GP had been treating me for years) however following the referral I was contacted within 6 hours and seen within 3 days. When seen I told the assessor exactly what you have just said, I hate the state of the world yet I know I cannot do a thing about it, friends don't understand or ask after me, I said I would be better off dead. I even put a discussion on wanting to talk, I thought the same as you no one will respond but I was wrong yes they did.

have you ever been diagnosed with depression by a Dr. Are you taking any prescribed medication, if yes then you may need to see your GP for a review.

i must say since seeing my GP last week and the chat to psychiatric services I have felt a little better, not out of the woods yet I have to see a psychiatrist but at least I feel somebody has listened and action has been taken. 

Don't think you are not worth everyone is.

even if you think no one loves you remember GOD loves you.

you will always get suport here because people here have experienced similar things so they really do understand how you feel where as people who havnt just dont get it and hink you should just pull yourself together Ohh if only it was that easy .it really does drain all your strength when you are low but once you are at rock bottom the only way forward is up and you have to reach for inner strength and find someone who relly undersatands how you are actually feeling and help you .Meds arnt always the answer but normally a last resort ,the more you can do for yourself like reading up and exercise the better 

To answer your question Diane - I have been to the GP several times. They put me on citalipram abour 5/6 years ago - it made me really paranoid and then one night I went to take them all in one go, so I don't think they are for me. I have had different types of councelling over the years. I took myself to a councellor for the first time when I was 13. I have also tried CBT- all of only seems to be a temporary fix. I always get paranoid that the therapist thinks I am lying or making it sounds worse than it is. I try and exercise which keeps me sane but at the moment just don't have any motivation so have been binge eating non stop. None of my clothes fit.. Is there something I am missing? Thank you all so much for your support xx

It is a positive step to reach out for support, unfortunately many people are less than understanding and professional support is more helpful.

I have seen counsellors before and not found it that helpful but I am seeing a counsellor again through my GP, I wish I had done sooner, as I have become quite isolated, it sometimes helps just having someone to listen when feeling very low, but I find it hard to engage with the cognitive behaviour therapy.

I have been on citalopram for years but have gained over 3 stone and now have diabetes. That gave me a push to come off the tablets and have lost weight with a low carbohydrate diet. Initially I had more energy and was positive but now the anxiety and depression has come back and I am eating more. I always feel worse over winter and try to go for a walk on sunny days. Antidepressants help many people but I feel overall they have done more harm than good for me, the withdrawal symptoms were horrible - I had headaches and dizzyness and felt extremely anxious and irritable, couldn't concentrate.

People often say diet and exercise helps, I did feel better when more healthy, but when I feel low it often the last thing I want to do. My counsellor says it is a vicious circle, less activity makes you feel worse, but I am struggling to find a way of getting out.

I have spent a long time trying to understand why I feel like this and websites like this are helpful. I have anxiety and depression but feel there must be something underlying that has caused it and if I could understand it would help. Some days I feel more positive and in control of my emotions, then something happens and it all comes crashing down again. I am drinking a bottle of wine a night at the moment to take the edge off my anxiety, I know it doesn't really help and feel bad for doing it.

I have just re-read this and didn't mean to ramble on so much about myself. I was going to delete it but hopefully there is something in there that might help.

You must try not to think bad about yourself. I think people with anxiety and depression are more sensitive and worry more, but this makes them thoughtful and caring people that other people do value as friends.

The most important thing to remember is the positive and better times you have had before and accept that the way you are feeling now will not last and it just something you need to struggle through, but in time you will feel at least a bit better.

The best advice that I can offer you is to get your mind in a fairly good place before you think about weight loss. You have to deal with one thing at a time.

I joined slimming world on a program called lighten up and got 12 weeks free which bump started my interest with losing weight I have gone on to lose 1 and a half stone since May 2014. Weight loss and self esteem go hand in hand but you have to get in a reasonable place mentally to even keep the black dog at bay for long enough to be able to think straight, which as we all know can be a total trial within itsellf.

I was on Citilopram 20 but was concerned about weight gain and my dosage was dropped to 10.

I felt rubbish last week because I had two weeks off over Christmas and gained 7lb, but tonight I have gone and found that 2lb of that has come back off, YOU CAN DO THIS! It is the easiest diet ever!

Why do you save you are not worth it? I bet you are. And why would true friends be judging you? Are they all perfect? I bet they all have their own hang ups too! Don't be so hard on yourself, make one little change every day. You could start with something really simple like changing your milk to skimmed and using salad cream on sandwiched instead of butter.

Do you always feel trapped or is that just during your low times?

Sending you big hugs and loads of positives vibes, Rebecca x

The good news is that there are methods of combating and coping with depression. It is difficult to see hope when your mind is consumed with so many negative thoughts, and i have found that a self observation excercise can be helpful to sort of reset my thoughts. I start by asking myself the following questions.

What am i feeling at this exact time?

What am i doing in this moment?

How is my breathing?

After this I focus on not having any thoughts for 1 minute (this can sometimes be tricky so i find it helpful to close my eyes and count to 60 and think only about counting) and then i ask myself the following question. 

What do I want for myself in the new moment?

I know exactly how you are feeling, believe me.  Yes depression takes away so much from us.  It takes away our self worth and makes us think we are useless and not worth knowing.  I have felt that too. 

We can help by writing here to you and telling you that you are definitely not alone in your feelings.  It is very hard to like yourself when you have depression.  You think you are not worth knowing, and why should anybody like you?  It is the depression talking.

You are a good and lovely person but this illness has made you feel worthless, but you are not.  I disliked myself so much, just like you do now.  We here understand how bad you feel about yourself, that is why this forum is here, so we can support each other. 

No people would not be better off if you disappeared. 

You are a good, worthwhile person.  Keep telling yourself that.

Go on a diet where you save money. You're probably eating too much food so eat half as much. Pack the rest for the next meal. Make sure you're eating nutritiously. If you have to buy clothes buy expandable clothes

There is no money for him to send him to school.

My income is not packed.So he asks me humbly to help me with my money.

Your brother, who is so heartbroken, will be waiting for your help.

Thanks.

you still out there? i see this is a 7 year old thread