Can’t get erect with my girlfriend for the past couple of weeks.

Hi,

First time ive had any problems in the bedroom and albeit with the girl i have felt the most for.

Firstly, we have been together around 6 months, not a long time i know but this makes it worse for us both due to it being early in the relationship. We have never had problems in the bedroom prior to this.

So the details, there has been a few times now where i have gone to have sex and then it goes soft, our general routine is foreplay on the bed, then we go into sex either on the bed (which sometimes ends up on the floor due to the noise of the bed as this is her parents house we are talking about) or straight to the floor.

The first time i went soft we had abit of an argument, she was very embarassed. We then have sex maybe a day of two later and everything is fine and we carry on as normal, i at this point have no clue why its happened.

Fast forward around 3 weeks and this happens again. Same again, she was embarassed and an argument followed this time a much bigger argument.

Now for the past week we have seen each other we have not had full sexual intercourse, she has been less confidence and i sometimes get erect and then soon as i make a move it goes soft. My point of view is that all i want is to make her happy, i get anxious when she doesnt enjoy it so me going soft and this happening makes me worry in times when j shouldnt be. Her point is that she is very embarassed and that she is very convinced that despite our conversations and me telling her otherwise, she believes i dont find her attractive anymore.

i know deep down that if the arguments stopped and that we just forget and go again it will work, but the arguments make it worse, its also not easy for her to not feel like i am going off her.

How do i fix this?

My only two ideas is keep trying till it gets better if it doesnt jt could end which i really do not want or possibly get viagra and when everything has chilled out and got less intense dont use it.

i think once this barrier has been broken for the first time we will be ok again.

thanks.

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