Can't get Penis to go inside me after years of trying?

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I've tried so hard all my life both with men I've really fancied and a few I have not. We have tried loads of lube, and up to 3 hours of foreplay. I've finally found a guy I really like. We've been together almost a year, but STILL cannot get his penis in me. It just will NOT go in. I've never been able to do it, ever and I am getting old now and don't understand why. I've had STD tests and smear and always had good results. 

How do people accidentally get pregnant? And how do younger people do this? It is SO difficult. The most I've managed is one guy years ago got the head in but it hurt like hell n slipped straight back out. Now  even just that won't go in... it's really frustrating every night we try and can't get it in at all. How does ANYBODY do this?

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    This happens more than most people think.  Is it painful though, or does your vagina just tighten up too much?  Have you ever tried inserting your fingers or tampons, or a small sex toy?  Do you have problems having a speculum inserted for Pap smears?

    How old are you, and have you already spoken to a doctor about it?  You could either see your GP, or if you're in the UK, you could go to a genitourinary medicine (GUM) clinic - google "GUM clinic near me" for details.  If you do see a doctor, then if you could update this thread and tell us what the they say, it would be appreciated.  Good luck.

    These links may help, though two are written for doctors:

    https://patient.info/health/female-sexual-dysfunction-leaflet

    https://patient.info/doctor/vaginismus

    https://patient.info/health/dyspareunia-pain-having-sex

    https://patient.info/doctor/dyspareunia

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    I would definitely go and see your GP as you may need a referral to gynaecology.
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    Have you been to the gyno?
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    I think there is a surgery the gyno can perform to open up the orifice. Similar to how they can tighten an orifice after child birth.
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