Can't stop.....

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I'm on a binge. Alcohol is very available to me and I can't stop sipping. The obvious answer is make it less available but I don't want to stop. I enjoy it but I know I need to control it. Is there hope for someone like me to just control my intake or do I have to stop completely in order to control it? I work from home right now so it's too easy for me to sip on some vodka all day. Work will change soon though and I refuse to drive if I have had one drink so I think I will naturally cut down on the alcohol. Is there anything that I can do in the mean time? What will make me not want to take a drink? How do I fix myself? I don't like the AA aproach. Maybe because I want to conquer my problem. I want to be able to drink like a normal person. I don't want to have to drink and I don't want to forbid it. I need to control it. Am I crazy?

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    Welcome to the club...

    I can't help you any more than I can myself but keeping it to the evenings would be a start. Doing it all day has to spoil the enjoyment. It's like turning your hobby in to a job.

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    Mike, look into The Sinclair Method.

    Best place to start is:

    https://patient.info/forums/discuss/useful-resources-487627

    and click the TSM link on that page. Also search 'Claudia Christian Ted Talk' on YouTube and watch that.

    Sounds to me like The Sinclair Method would fit what you are looking for.

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    I do symathise. I learned very quickly that if I start drinking around lunch-time I will still be drinking come evening. Drinking at the early end of the day has more effect because of the way our metabolism works but if I started a hangover in the evening from drinking in the middle of the day, guess what I found was the best 'cure'? Of course the amount you get through in 12 hours or so of drinking would last you for a week so doing that every day is potentially a real health issue. If you're working from home, have you tried another 'treat' instead of vodka? Something you like that is not alcohol. Good coffee and cream cake works for me and I can't really face booze after a slice of chocolate gateau. Honest!

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      That is right about eating cake - I am still down to 2 units of red wine a night weekdays and after my second glass I eat a couple of squares of dark bitter chocolate - wine after that tastes like something you put on your fish and chips !!  Then I am happy with my nightcap of milk. 

      G.

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      I love my red wine, and G/tonic too   I'm out today to buy dark choc I shall be trying that as someone else has also mentioned dark choc on this site

      many thanks

       

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    I know what you mean - if it's there and available and you can function it's so easy just to keep drinking.  Working from home, as I do, makes it even more easy. But if I'm going to a meeting I don't drink.  Do you have a room or space where you work and don't do anything else?  So that when you're there you are "at work", you have "gone to work" where you wouldn't drink if it had meant leaving the house?  And if possible put a kettle there or make a flask of  coffee so you don't go to the kitchen while you're at work.  This might help.  Then of you want you can relax in the evening  with a small drink.  That would be more "normal".  It certainly helped me to change from working at the dining table (that's the place for eating and drinking) to setting up a study in the spare bedroom.  And then I go to work there and I wouldn't take a bottle of wine to work, would I?   I hope you are successful in cutting down before you actually go back to work, because suddenly stopping from a high level of drinking can be dangerous.  It woud to discuss with your doctor in case you need vitamin B and thiamine while you cut down.   I wish you all the best. 

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    Hi Mike

    You sound very much like my Husband was before TSM. He tried AA, abstinence, tapering back. None of it worked. In the end he was very ill and suffered with dts and seizures.

    He now follows TSM and can have a drink. It is a very strange experience. The meds are resetting his brain. You need to research it with the info Paul has given you. It isn't a gimmick it really works

    Kind Regards to you and everyone on this forum as always

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    Your change in work will be the starting point for you.  I too don't want to quit completely.  I have over the months tapered down and down slowly.  The less I drink, the less I can take it.  2 units each night is my limit for weekdays - weekends is back to a bottle as I need to sleep.  I know when people quit smoking they very often keep mints in their pocket/bag - I would imagine that alcohol tastes pretty foul after a mint.  I know after cleaning my teeth, I could never have alcohol, the taste would be awful. 

    I am surrounded by  booze at home, hubby likes a stocked bar - ironic tho coz he does not have a problem at all and can take it or leave it, except when out with his mates.

    Get yourself armed with chocs and mints - it can be done - honest.  You will feel and look so much better.  I look 30 years younger (but then I am prone to exageration lol).

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    Thank you everyone. I am really glad I found this forum. I really like the TSM method. I am going look into that more and I will let you know if I start that and how it goes. I went out camping with a large number of people this weekend and there was alcohol there. I kept it under control though. I had a few drinks Sunday after I returned home. For some reason it didn't have the effect it normally does and was able to stop drinking after a few. There is still a lot of alcohol in the house but I haven't touched it so far today. This is actually a huge step for me because I usually use the bottom of the bottle as a stopping point. My social life and my work both have the promise of huge reward right now and I know that the only way that I will fail right now is if I drink too much.

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    Good luck Mike, whatever you decide to do. If you find it difficult to keep your drinking levels down and you decide you do not want to abstain ( there are meds for that too if AA is not for you) there is always the option of TSM. So good to have choices isn't it?

    Regards

    JulieAnne

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    Hiy Mike I understand exactly , I too enjoy my Gin/T I'm retired Ive always drank and enjoy a drink but when I retired I found I was drinking during the day possibly from 12 in the afternoon sometime later, I drink at home as its cheaper, but when I go to the pub I can't have a single G/T  NO I have to have a dble, now I find I have the shakes, I too are trying to cut down butttt not too successful   x x   good luck

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      It is really hard to cut down - I know.  I was at 2 bottles of wine daily from 1 - don't know how.  Not through the day, from 5pm onwards.  I am retired early but help out my hubs in his business.  I  love my evening drink and look forward to it.  Luckily I can have a couple of glasses of wine - but it was hard going at first, I just kept at it and still do.  After the 2, if I wanted more, I would eat a couple of squares of dark chocolate - wine tastes disgusting after it.  I would imagine gin would too. Any chance you can have a go at reducing slowly each day - with the help of a lil choc.

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      I sat last night and drank 1 bttle red wine this morning I have the shakes and feel dreadful  dark choc I never thought of that, I wish I was strong enough just to stop altogether.   I look forward to chatting to you soon.  thanks

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      I don't know if I am strong enough to stop altogether, I did not want to cut down even - just knew that my internal organs would be giving up on me and the thought of my hubs coping without me really did it.  But when I tried to cut from 2 bottles (20 units) I did it at first by 50% straight down to 1 bottle and I felt weird.  Nervy and head spaced out.  So I did it by a couple of units each  night 20, 18, 16, 14 etc.  That was much better.  I now have my 2 glasses Monday to Friday and Sat/Sunday a bottle each night in order to sleep.  I am aiming at 2 glasses also Sat/Sun which will put me at 14 units.  I am  happy with that and hope I that it will help my insides out.  If not, and am told otherwise, I will have to stop completely. 

      The TSM sounds really good if it is getting hard for you; I am holding off that as I have gastric issues (alcohol induced) but tablets hurt me now and may cause more problems.  But if push comes to shove, I know it is there. 

      The chocolate really does help. 

      I think you dropped to 1 bottle too quickly and your body was waiting for the other.  Try  again but do it more slowly and introduce yourself to little by little getting it down.  You will find, like me, that you then find it much easier and the less you have, the less you need.

      Don't give up, it can be done - determination not to let alcohol win.

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      ?thanks gwen I'm listening to what you say, bank hols weekend very busy my partners & son b/day goodness how much I drank, very slow day yesterday Bk hols Monday, 1 sleeping tabs and I feel far better now, just need to have 2 glasses this afternoon nice and steady like you say,  will keep in touch  x x 

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      Confession time jani - I went a bit bonkers yesterday.  Visitors started at 12pm - I lasted until 4pm then gave in - more than a bottle of red - plenty to eat but defo no chocolate.  Although I had a really great time and went to bed after a couple of pints of water - I feel good today but am cross that I went way over what I should.  Hubs loves having visitors and enjoying a pint with them.  But I think he had 3 pints in hours and hours.  I just wish I could.  He will put his drink down and chat and forget his beer.  I chat and drink and chat and drink.  It is so very hard for us - he absolutely cannot see how problematic it is for me.

      Keep going and fighting that is all we can do.  Any cut back is good at least you are not giving in.

      G.

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